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AIBU?

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To wonder what the hot hell this woman is thinking and report her (Facebook)

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CundtBake · 20/03/2015 20:03

I know a woman who is currently training to work with children. Some form of working with children who have suffered abuse.

I haven't seen her for years but I know this because she posts about it on Facebook, mostly stuff warning parents about the various horrors of the world and how to keep their children safe. Patronising but ok, she's found something she's passionate about and it's a worthy cause.

But she has now shared a 30 minute video of a young boy being interviewed by police, going into graphic detail of sexual abuse he's suffered from his father and his friends. It's dated from last year on the video.

AIBU to be absolutely disgusted that this video is on the internet and apparently doing the rounds on Facebook? This poor child will now be recognisable to the thousands of people who have watched it.

AIBU to be disgusted with people who feel the need to share stuff like this with 'all parents need to watch this and be aware' type captions. It's always the same type of people. What do they get out of it?

AIBU to have commented that she needs to remove this and point out the irony of potentially endangering a child and compromising a child's privacy to warn others of child safety?

I have reported the video, though I don't have much faith in Facebook removing it.

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Icimoi · 21/03/2015 07:20

It seems very likely that it's one of the videos from the P and Q case. If so, it's been found conclusively that the allegations against the father are untrue. So in taking it at face value and using it as a warning this woman is not only showing her own naivety, she has in fact fallen into the trap of doing exactly what the abusive mother and partner wanted by spreading these lies. She really needs to think long and hard about whether she is fitted to work in this field.

seriouslypeedoff · 21/03/2015 07:32

If its from the P & Q case, why has she pointed out that these turned out to be lies?

The fact that she may have taken this video from ger place of work and put on fb, means she isn't responsible enough to do her job. How can she see that this is not ok.

TendonQueen · 21/03/2015 07:36

Have just read the Telegraph article about this Hampstead case - how awful. It's a ridiculous thing to share. How would anyone with sense think that could be helpful in any way? She has contributed to the continuing breach of the children's privacy.

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CundtBake · 21/03/2015 08:40

A few people commented (myself included) expressing concern at the video being shared. She has now deactivated her account. I've emailed the organisation she is training with and I have screen shots.

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nochocolateforlentteacake · 21/03/2015 08:47

How did she get her hands on it? I can't believe that she thought it was OK to broadcast to the world. A serious error in judgement.

Her bosses will take an extremely dim view, as it shows that she has broken the first rule of any therapist - nothing goes outside the room unless you suspect someone is in danger (and its usually the potential perpetrator you are speaking to, not the victim).

What a dingbat. I hope she either doesn't work with the vulnerable, or gets a hell of a lot more training. Although, 99.99% of people would think this was wrong...

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CundtBake · 21/03/2015 09:06

It wasn't something she uploaded herself it was shared. I reported it to Facebook but they won't be removing it which I am flabbergasted about.

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Bambambini · 21/03/2015 09:10

Bloody stupid idiot. She needs to be reported to her workplace or where she is training, unbelievable. Don't feel bad about it.

Bambambini · 21/03/2015 09:12

Just seen your update. I like FB and use it daily but it needs a good kick up the arse!

popalot · 21/03/2015 09:18

Totally agree with you, it is completely unacceptable - it is an infringement on that child's rights to privacy, which as far as I'm concerned is abusive, given the content. She should know way way better than that. What does she think she is doing?! I would have to block her. Any FB friend that spreads filth or upsetting content gets blocked in my book.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 21/03/2015 09:57

Facebook have some seriously twisted values at times.

HeisenbergsBlueMeth · 21/03/2015 10:09

Disgusting. Hope something is done about this woman, how could she think that was ok??

Ubik1 · 21/03/2015 10:30

I think the person probably just shared it without thinking too hard about it.

We all do that sometimes don't we. But she needs to be reminded of social media policy esievialky if she is going to highlight her work on her profile ( I do not have my workplace on profile and hardly ever talk about it on social media because it's a minefield)

Icimoi · 21/03/2015 14:28

Does Facebook know that showing that video is contempt of court?

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CundtBake · 21/03/2015 18:58

Ubik I don't know about you but I'm pretty sure I don't share anything like that from time to time whether I'm thinking about it or not?

I've spoken to the organisation who she is training with, they seemed pretty cross and have forwarded the info to their lawyer.

I really wish there was a way to make Facebook delete it though before even more people see it? The poor little boy.

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BlueTwo2 · 21/03/2015 20:13

Icimoi. Nope i don't believe they do. As i stated last night, i've reported somw myself, but just got back the usual reply. Of "It doesn't break our rules"

There's no place in FB to actually tell them when you make a report that is is contempt of court. So you just have to tick one of their generic tick boxes.

manicinsomniac · 21/03/2015 20:33

Horrifying.

Even more horrifying that there seems to be more than one of these videos leaked and doing the rounds on social media!

If she were a genuine friend I probably wouldn't go so far as to report her specifically - at least not before talking very seriously to her about the situation and trying to get her to understand how inappropriate it was.

MerdeAlor · 22/03/2015 09:04

Congratulations on reporting her. This is a safeguarding of children issue. I hopethe orgaisation training her realise how inappropriate her actions are.

There is no way she could be a trusted and respectable therapist if she thinks it is OK to pass videos like this on social media. As said upthread, there are people who go into this type of work who shouldn't be in it. Despite her passion for the subject, she is a liability.

Ubik1 · 22/03/2015 10:07

No you are quite right to report her - she is showing a terrible lack of judgement - she should have been the one reporting this video.

Was just thinking how the simple act of sharing something on Facebook can have such consequences for someone. I wonder who sent the video to her...

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