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AIBU?

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To wonder what the hot hell this woman is thinking and report her (Facebook)

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CundtBake · 20/03/2015 20:03

I know a woman who is currently training to work with children. Some form of working with children who have suffered abuse.

I haven't seen her for years but I know this because she posts about it on Facebook, mostly stuff warning parents about the various horrors of the world and how to keep their children safe. Patronising but ok, she's found something she's passionate about and it's a worthy cause.

But she has now shared a 30 minute video of a young boy being interviewed by police, going into graphic detail of sexual abuse he's suffered from his father and his friends. It's dated from last year on the video.

AIBU to be absolutely disgusted that this video is on the internet and apparently doing the rounds on Facebook? This poor child will now be recognisable to the thousands of people who have watched it.

AIBU to be disgusted with people who feel the need to share stuff like this with 'all parents need to watch this and be aware' type captions. It's always the same type of people. What do they get out of it?

AIBU to have commented that she needs to remove this and point out the irony of potentially endangering a child and compromising a child's privacy to warn others of child safety?

I have reported the video, though I don't have much faith in Facebook removing it.

OP posts:

givemushypeasachance · 20/03/2015 20:36

Is it that one about the "satanic abuse" by hundreds of people in Hampstead? That's just been confirmed as all being down to manipulation and abuse by the children's mother and new partner after an acrimonious custody dispute with their father - article here. Something like four million people had viewed the allegations and they uploaded dozens of videos of the children talking about abuse and satanic rituals and all sorts - the mind boggles.

Justusemyname · 20/03/2015 20:40

Have you reported it yet?

lomega · 20/03/2015 20:58

This is against the law, please phone the police and report.

GloriousGoosebumps · 20/03/2015 20:58

It is not enough for you to simply complain to Facebook, you must also report the video to the police and social services so that (1) they can take action to ensure this poor child's privacy is respected and (2) they are aware of just how unsuitable your "friend" is for employment in the area of social services.

GraysAnalogy · 20/03/2015 20:59

I would be taking screenshots and sending to who she works/trains with

RuthAaaghhh · 20/03/2015 21:01

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vindscreenviper · 20/03/2015 21:02

I've just read that link, the bit about the footage being shared by people with a sexual interest in children is why the OP's fb friend needs a good kick up the arse and a hell of a lot more training before she should be allowed anywhere near a vulnerable child. What a bloody dangerous idiot, did she really not consider that some people are sharing that footage as wank fodder

LittleBairn · 20/03/2015 21:06

WTF was she thinking when she posted this!
I would report her to the people training her, she doesn't sound suitable for the job making such a huge error in judgement.

GraysAnalogy · 20/03/2015 21:07

If you tell me who she is I'll quite happily report her myself because this is appalling.

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CundtBake · 20/03/2015 21:08

mushy I don't think it was that one no.

I have reported to various authorities now, I just hope that poor child is ok.

Would it be spiteful of me to find out where she trains and report her too?

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LittleBairn · 20/03/2015 21:10

No it wouldn't be spiteful IMO its absolutely essential.
I'm betti g she does it for the ego trip, people telling her how wonderful she is saving the children. She doesn't give a shit its all about her.

GraysAnalogy · 20/03/2015 21:19

Not spiteful at all.

I once reported someone who claimed to be a HCP, she was posting horrible things about children with disabilities.

The place she had listed as her place of work had never even heard of her

Linskibinski · 20/03/2015 21:25

It won't be a training video, I'm trained in this field and the intensive training course is run with adults only, not kids standing in. All real DVDs are evidential and are stored away and then destroyed after court. So I have no idea where it could have come from. What kind of a sick weirdo thinks posting online is a good idea.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 20/03/2015 21:32

This is disgusting. How stupid are some people? Foul.

TipsyLipsy · 20/03/2015 21:36

Not spiteful at all.

If any person who was working with my DS shared this I would be doing everything possible to get her struck off.

RedRugNoniMouldiesEtc · 20/03/2015 22:13

Not spiteful, it shows she is potentially not ready for the role she has and they need to know so they can take steps. At the end of the day the vulnerable need protection not the adult.

SistersOfPercy · 20/03/2015 23:10

I also don't think it would be spiteful, I think it would be one of the best things you could do.
If she's sharing this shit now what's down the line??

fassbendersmistress · 20/03/2015 23:12

Utterly Disgraceful behaviour to post this sort of thing on Facebook. Reporting is absolutely the right thing to do.

I would really question this persons motives for going into this type of work. Very inappropriate behaviour and I would worry how this would manifest itself around young victims of abuse.

This is the sort of thing that will prevent another abuse victim from coming forward and reporting the crimes against them. Totally destructive.

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 20/03/2015 23:20

I think the video in this instance is part of a court case currently going through where a mum tortured and possibly drugged her children to make them say these things against their father, a church, a local school and naming lots of local people.

Poor kids. Glad to know what they've said in the video isn't actually true, but its almost as horrible just forcing a child to say these things.

BlueTwo2 · 20/03/2015 23:37

If this is one from the Hampstead Satanic Abuse Hoax which has been circulating on the internet since early Febuary, she is in contempt of court and could be prosecuted.

There are laws against identifying victims of sexual abuse

The fact that she wants to work with abused children and then shares this on Facebook is disgraceful.

This is the Public Judgement that was released i think yesterday by the Judge, and it has been all over the online tabloids yesterday and today;

www.judiciary.gov.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/gareeva-dearman-2015.pdf

BlueTwo2 · 20/03/2015 23:49

Also, i've tried to report a few of these videos popping up in my own timeline.

They have pretty much come back saying it doesn't break any of their terms/rules

Well if they gave you a box so you can explain why you are reporting it other than their generic tick boxes, then it might be a little easier to see why such things are reported.

Notrevealingmyidentity · 20/03/2015 23:54

I'm wondering if this was on my newsfeed. Is the little boy Asian/mixed race ?

I saw something but I didn't view so I could be totally mistaken here.

lithewire · 20/03/2015 23:59

If it really is one she's shared from work then I suspect she'll be out of a job before very long and rightly so. How can anyone be so stupid?

GrumpyKitty · 21/03/2015 00:44

If I were the parent of the child in the video, and found out some moron with "good intentions" had plastered it allover the internet, I think I'd go ballistic and want this woman sacked and prosecuted. If the poor little boy in the video finds out, maybe a couple of years down the line, that the video was splashed online for all to see, the amount of damage it could do is incredible.
It wouldn't be spiteful in the least to report it to anyone you reasonably think it should be reported to - eg, her training provider, the police, her local childrens' services, (and I don't say that lightly)

Debinaround · 21/03/2015 01:08

No you wouldn't be spiteful.

This woman has gotten far too big for her boots. She obviously has had some attention from people and has overstepped the boundary of what's acceptable and what's bloody dangerous and cruel.

If she thinks it's ok to put something like that all over the internet then she shouldn't be able to work with vulnerable children.

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