One rich member of family rich......problems follow.

[Seeker33]

I have read some research on a member of a largish working class
family becoming rich.

The research says it can split families. What ids your experience?

Why the heck are you posting this in here

are you seeker, seeker33?

I would think personal experiences vary on this.
One problem can be rich people expect to call the shots. (they often do)

And that does not always go down well in families.

Wouldn't know - there's nobody 'rich' in our family

Are you just trying to find out who the rich Mumsnetters are, so you can PM them and ask to borrow a fiver?

No idea, but I'm prepared to risk it if anyone feels like giving me a lot of money.

The whole of life gets on Mumsnet. That is the beuty of the site. Thats why is popular.

Everything from Eclipse to Obbornes tricks and If shakespearwe and
Dickens were alive they may well be mumsnetters. .

Are you seeker? Won't you tell me?

God shakespeare as a Mnetter. Better not have and try and follow their posts.

Well, we all have families. And it is possible to talk about family experiences anonymously here. (no dirty washing.)

Gosh. How surreal.

are you looking for people to spill their life story for a feature in Take a Break?
"My Second Cousin's Lottery Win Greed"?

Come on Hullygully, fairly obvious that seeker33 is not seeker! Seeker herself is still around under a namechange.

Is this how journos get their copy these days?

So this is what it takes to get Hully out and about.

I'm not sure I understand.

My sister is rich, I am not.

How exactly would she "call the shots" - we have our own lives and own families and make our own decisions. How would she dictate what happens

Of course if she insists on buying me a yacht I'll let her call that particular shot.

I didn't know atomic.

I had missed seeker, I was all excited..

One problem can be rich people expect to call the shots. (they often do)
Nah, I don't think that's true. Maybe if they were born rich but not if they become rich. I think they're more likely to buy their siblings new gates; cars and driving lessons; and take them on holiday; and pay for tickets for events; and possibly help them to get a house, etc.

[Disclaimer: This is in no way related to personal experience and I do not want to speak to Take a Break]

Actually, I do have a family member with money. Doesn't bother me as I don't feel entitled to it at all. Just because you're related doesn't mean you share out all of your money does it?

However, I do find my relative a bit odd. Despite lots of money, they work as a janitor/caretaker, still live at home (never moved out in 50 years), and never treats partners to anything (I mean no presents at all). It's their money and life though, has absolutely no impact on my own.

OP: my understanding is that people from a less than wealthy family/social group who become suddenly wealthy do find it difficult to maintain the same relationships afterwards. The dynamic changes.

Should I know seeker? Famous/infamous?

Lottery/pools wins do change people, and not just the winners...

I think the op is seek er ing a good article probably for a trashy mag

I have got a great deal more money than all my family (premium bonds win) and it has been a nightmare. They come round basically on their knees bleating and begging for hand outs only disguised as requests for charity "sponsorship" because they want to have a jolly climbing mount kilimanjara of walking that Spanish pilgrim path chugging sangria or whatever.

If my family really had the amount of emergency private hip replacement and "special" therapies they claim they needed they'd all have eight legs apiece.

I'm not clear on your question really? Or why it would only apply to working class families.

Surely any problems would arise from the disparity rather than the level you start at?