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Original poster

Work colleagues left me out!

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Lagoonablue · 20/03/2015 09:40

Don't know how to react to this. Someone is leaving so colleagues all gone out to breakfast and haven't asked me! I am not strictly in their team but in an associated team but sit right next to them ! Plus someone else associate to them was asked! How mean is that?!

Feel really sad. Not sure how to react if I'm honest. Well she won't be getting the card and wine I bought for her.

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edwinbear · 20/03/2015 18:36

A similar thing happened to me once, a chap I thought I got on well with organised a team building evening. My entire department was invited bar me. First I knew about it was when they all disappeared at 4pm to get changed into evening clothes then strolled out at 4.30pm. I felt so angry and embarrassed being left there on my own. It's a horrible feeling, but at least that woman has left now so you won't need to see her again!

SocialMediaAddict · 20/03/2015 18:40

Give the card. Keep the wine.

plecofjustice · 20/03/2015 19:02

Whoah hang on. You're not in their team. If the breakfast was paid for by the company, you wouldn't be budgeted for. Just because you sit with them doesn't mean you have to be included in their team events.

I used to be in a situation like this and I accepted that the team I was sitting with would have events that wouldn't include me, just as I went to events that were no concern of the people sat around me. Not personal, just the way work is.

savickowl · 20/03/2015 19:15

I work in a place where there would definitely be no corporately paid breakfast and although we are all on relatively shit wages I am fairly sure that even if we were having a sponsored croissant we would club together without 2 seconds thought to invite and pay for the pain au chocolat of a non-corporately breakfasted funded colleague who may have only been in our midst for half a day.

I appreciate that there may be some boundaries to petit dejeuner sharing but this sounds pathetically mean.

CharityD · 20/03/2015 19:26

This happened to me once, some years ago. A woman was leaving, we were all the same team, and I walked into a restaurant, one lunchtime, with a friend of mine, (from outside of our company), to find all the other females sitting in the restaurant.
They were embarrassed, I wasn't.

Sorry it happened to you, OP.

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 20/03/2015 19:53

YANBU

justice the OP said there was another woman who also isn't part of the team who was invited.

Pinot4me · 20/03/2015 20:02

That's horrible. How upsetting for you!

Alanna1 · 20/03/2015 20:10

I'd think it was just a mistake. Someone used a group email list and noone noticed you werent on it.

Buxtonstill · 20/03/2015 20:27

I would give her the card, but write an extra line in there "hope you enjoy this bottle" etc .
Just give her the card and walk away. Walk out at the end of the day carrying the bottle of wine....

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Lagoonablue · 20/03/2015 21:04

No corporate breakfast. Just a visit to cafe over the road. I am part of the wider team and colleague from the wider team was invited.

I was definitely snubbed. I have no idea why. Anyway am moving on. Thanks for the comments folks.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 20/03/2015 21:41

There's no dressing it up it hurts emotionally like hell when you're left out.

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