I have a friend who I have known for 20 years and I love her very much. The thing is she lives a 6 hour drive away so if we visit her we have to stay overnight. Her husband is arrogant and showy and we have to sit and watch endless videos of his work (he's an artist). They both smoke so the house smells and we don't smoke and find it a bit revolting. They have an endless stream of visitors coming in and out of their house all day long and the last time I was there one of them was a drug addict. They both smoke dope and I find the evenings boring with people who are stoned. Add to this the enforced sitting about in a hot-tub in bikini with people I barely know along with my friend and her husband. They have kids the same age as ours and their kids are adorable and beautifully behaved. They are lovely people but our lifestyles are nothing alike and I feel uncomfortable staying with them.