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Original poster

To think that a broken nose isn't 'just one of those things'?

26 replies

karamazova · 17/03/2015 18:59

DS1 had his nose broken in the school playground. There was an altercation during a lunchtime football game and he was punched. He's in Yr 6.

I feel shocked and angry, and would like the school to supervise lunchtime football better - instead of not at all. After all, if they were playing a match, they'd have a referee. But a couple of people (including the head) have said that 'it's one of those things.'

Is it? AIBU?

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mousmous · 17/03/2015 19:01

yanbu
a ball against face-well, can happen during the game.
a punch-unforgivable.

traceybaybee · 17/03/2015 19:01

I wouldnt say you went to school expecting to have your nose broken so yanbu

putthehamsterbackinitscage · 17/03/2015 19:02

If it had been an accident then maybe.... But he was punched?!?Shock

To me that is unacceptable and I would like to know what is being done to deal with this.

If it had happened during a match there would be sanctions imposed by the referee, and potentially afterwards by the league etc and Y6 are old enough to know better - both in football terms and general behaviour too...

Tapwater · 17/03/2015 19:03

If he had fallen over and whacked his nose on the ground, I can see an argument for it being 'one of those things', but if he was punched hard enough to break his nose during fight at a lunch hour football game, that's an entirely different scenario. I can't believe the school is trying to minimise like this.

JsOtherHalf · 17/03/2015 19:04

I would want to know exactly what the school are doing about it.

Is the other child concerned someone who has had run ins with your DS previously?

Orangeanddemons · 17/03/2015 19:05

Breaking a nose is not just one of those things.

I broke mine and I've got to have re broken and reset under GA

irretating · 17/03/2015 19:06

YANBU. I'm very shocked by the attitude displayed by the head.

Theoretician · 17/03/2015 19:06

Supervision isn't the answer. If it were required, on the whole it wouldn't happen, instead the game wouldn't happen.

The puncher needs to be punished.

AnnieMoor · 17/03/2015 19:07

My son in y6 broke his nose in an accidental collision with another child. That was 'one of those things'.

A punch, however, is not.

BabyGanoush · 17/03/2015 19:11

Shocking.

My son once broke an arm playing "it", that was "just one of those things".

He also got punched in the face once, that time I did make a fuss!

The school has a duty of care towards your child, and I woukd ask them:

  • how they are dealing with this incident
  • what they will do to prevent thjs sort of thing happening in future

Write to governors.

Is your boy ok? Did the bither boy get pulled up on it?

ahbollocks · 17/03/2015 19:11

Poor kid. Yanbu at all

notsolovely · 17/03/2015 19:11

It is one of those things if it was a complete accident. IE ball to the face, fell over face first. Being punched in the face and having a broken nose is not just one of those things. YANBU

Original poster
karamazova · 17/03/2015 19:11

Thanks. I thought I was losing my grip on reality. I feel as if the school are trying to minimise it because DS1 has ASD, so it is becoming in some way 'his fault'.

From my perspective if they can't keep kids from being hurt by others during football games, then they shouldn't allow them to play football. Mind you, I blame the standards of behaviour in the premiership!

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ILovePud · 17/03/2015 19:12

As everyone else has said an accidental injury might be one of those things but a punch is totally unacceptable and the head's attitude is abysmal. I'd query this in writing to the board of governors.

londonrach · 17/03/2015 19:13

Yanbu. Yes broken nose re accidental ball in face or similar. Therefore just one of those things Broken nose re punch!!!! No way one of those things and needs dealing with by school. In adult life if someone punched someone in the street and broke their nose they be in serious trouble with the police! Dont let this go op. Hope ds is ok x

M00nUnit · 17/03/2015 19:13

The "just one of those things" attitude is shocking. He's a little boy of 6 and the teacher are supposed to be looking after him! Hope he heals up quickly - poor thing.

lem73 · 17/03/2015 19:15

YANBU I hope it isn't the school making light of it.

Carrie5608 · 17/03/2015 19:16

I would have thought this is assault and you should go to the police.

Original poster
karamazova · 17/03/2015 19:16

He's in Yr 6 so 11.

I think I need to go back to the school and be unmoveable.

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Original poster
karamazova · 17/03/2015 19:18

DH thinks we should go to the police. It was logged as assault at A&E but I think they have to do this for child protection purposes as it's a non-accidental injury. He'll have to have surgery to realign the bones (shudder).

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KeepsTrying · 17/03/2015 19:22

YANBU - a broken nose isn't 'just one of those things'.
Your son has been assaulted and I would expect that to be treated very seriously.
As to whether a, what should have been, friendly kick around should have been more closely supervised... I am less convinced. Your son could have been punched by this child whether football was involved or not. Pushing for the supervision thing will just lead to all ball games, running etc being banned at breaks.

BabyGanoush · 17/03/2015 19:25

His ASD is totally irrelevant.

BabyGanoush · 17/03/2015 19:26

I mean, it does not mean different rules apply or anything.

It is not suddenly ok to punch someone if they have ASD!

You know this.

KeturahLee · 17/03/2015 19:27

If another child punched your son in the face, I would expect this to be taken extremely seriously by the school, at least resulting in a suspension for the other child!

londonrach · 17/03/2015 19:27

Agree with dh op x

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