to think that people shouldn't say 'get well soon' to a terminally ill person?

[Libitina]

An aquaintance of mine is imminently going to die from breast cancer. To be fair, she has beat it on more than one occasion previously, but this time she hasn't. She has basically been sent home to die.

I find it tasteless and unfeeling that people who know her diagnosis are still posting stuff like 'get well soon', 'here's to a speedy recovery' and 'you can beat this' to her on facebook . Not this time.

I know I'm not family, but if I was I think it would annoy and really upset me. She would love to get better, but she only has a few days, maybe weeks, at the most. It's so sad.

Basically, I think I'm trying to say, please think before posting on facebook.

Hugs had to all posters whose loved ones have a terminal illness especially shiney. I've had breast cancer which is in remission but people have made ridiculous remarks. All this about positive thinking is shit.Some people say these stupid things because they have no idea what it feels like. Actually they wish you would just either go away or pretend nothing is wrong. Others are brilliant and treat you like a normal person.

I saw a patient once at his home whilst working for nhs (i was unaware how ill he was, i knew he had cancer but didnt realise it was terminal)) and spend 1 hour talking about how to care for his feet to make sure they were in good health for years to come. He unfortantly died 4 days later but his widow phoned and left a message with my boss saying i was the first health care professinal who came in and talking about the future and was positive. She phoned to say thanks and he said he forgot for one hour that he had terminal cancer. It was my first year since i qualified and i ever forgot that. I remember his thanks every time i treat someone in the hospice. Not sure i ever say get well soon.

Maid - that is a lovely idea.

YANBU - I got so irked by "get well soon" cards when I was Ill because for me 3 months (it turned into two years) was not soon. I can't begin to imagine how it feels to receive those platitudes when you know you won't get better. As a rule I buy thinking of you or blank cards as I can't stand get well soon cards - if someone is ill enough to merit one in my book they're probs going to be unwell for a while.