To say no to this

[FlabbyMummy]

We have a 29 month old DS. Tonight DH suggests we get a babysitter on Sunday to allow us to go to the pub to watch football. Something we did quite a lot before having DS.

The game kicks off at 1230 so would need to go out at 12. I don't like the idea of going drinking so early then going home to an exuberant toddler. He says we would only have a couple but still it's lunch time! If we were going out for a nice lunch it would feel more normal but it just sits badly with me and I said no. We can go and I don't drink but then I may as well watch it at home (as I planned on doing).

If the kick off had been evening I would have considered getting a babysitter (local Nanny) to give DS tea and put to bed but not during the day.

No family nearby, babysitting options are fully qualified childcare people who my DS knows and likes.

What do you lovely lot think of this?

Going back to the babysitter in the day time. Why on earth not?

We didn't go out loads when the kids were small but I remember we had a baby sitter from lunchtime to about 8.00pm once while we went for a trip to Liverpool and we had a mountain walking day as it was a memorial walk for a friend that died.

There's no law that baby sitters can only be used post7.00pm you know!

I think you should go and just have a couple you don't need to get drunk but will be nice to have some time the two of you and doing something that you both use to enjoy before DS come along

To be honest I don't see the difference in going out for a few hours during the day and going out later when the sitter is giving your ds tea and putting him to bed. If that's what you are asking. But your posts read like its because you know you will both go out for a few hours and you will have to come home alone and do all the evening stuff yourself, alone. Which is fine, but sounds like he does this alot. Leaves you and your son alot to go out with his friends. Its sounds like you feel the balance is wrong.

Why on earth wouldn't you want to. I'm baffled. You happily did it before your Ds was born so obviously enjoy it. You spend a lovely afternoon together. What's not to like.

We don't do this and I don't know anyone who does, but I would never judge anyone for it! So long as you won't be coming home drunk, there is no problem! Surely you could enjoy the atmosphere, and spending time with your oh without drinking lots? Go and have fun!

I worded that badly - I am not aware of anyone doing this, doesn't mean they don't!!!!

We do go out frequently, (he goes out a lot without me too)

I had a feeling he might. So in fact you're left in charge of the house and your ds most of the time you're at home, and you get up with ds in the morning too, on days off?

And I bet your dh is going to go to the pub/watch the football whatever you decide - so it isn't about a nice little outing for the two of you, whatever other posters may be imagining - he's just trying to make it sound better by suggesting you get a babysitter and come along too. Then you get home and do all the work again.

You're the grown-up running the household here, aren't you, OP? What's your dh's role?