AIBU to think DH should cook me dinner?

[mrsp2311]

I'm not talking EVERY night. But once in a blue moon would be nice! We both work full time. DH leaves before I do on a morning but gets home earlier on an evening.
By the time I get home it is time for DSs bath and bed time routine so I usually don't start preparing dinner until 7:30-8pm.
I would love it if every once in a while DH would tell me to put my feet up and cook dinner for me.

I've tried batch cooking so all he would have to do is heat up something like a chilli and pop some rice on, but even this seems too much like hard work.
AIBU?

The root of this is that he thinks on some level that all this work is your work, womens work.

You tell him it stops now and take it in turns, one cooks one sorts the kids out.

You should make a list of all the things you do after work.
Show it to him and ask him if it's fair that you're doing all this while he sits on his arse.
Then ask him which of those things he's going to do.

A man who thinks he deserves time to wind down after work while his pregnant wife puts the child to bed and then cooks his dinner is basically a shit man.

This. What on earth makes him think this is ok?

I think you need to have a good open conversation with him about how you divide time off- as it is now, when does his day start? When does it finish, and how much time each day does he get just to relax? Then work out the same for you. Show him and remind him that you are pregnant- so if anything, you probably need more down time than him, but certainly equal amounts.

He should do both putting the child to bed and making dinner for a few months. He owes you.

Or he could just fuck off, and leave the rest of you to be a family without a Lord and master to support.

When I was pregnant, my ft working husband would come home, put toddler to bed, make our dinner and clean up. I felt so guilty that he was doing so much but I was signed off work unwell and couldn't do much. He never complained, but I really appreciated what he did. I don't know how anyone can watch their partner do absolutely everything and not feel a bit ashamed of themselves. He sounds awful.

I've found so many posts on here depressing the past few days. So many women describing how they do all the housework and childcare whilst their husbands do nothing. It seems like Mother's Day brought up a lot of resentment as so many women were hoping for a tiny break or gesture of appreciation and didn't get it. It seems like such a shame tht so many women seem to feel that they just have to accept doing everything and that their lazy partners couldn't possibly be expected to help. I don't understand how the situation comes about or why, when you're married to someone and having their children, you can't just discuss something like this. Surely he can see he doesn't have a leg to stand on?

Whatever pattern you get into now (and I agree both dc bedtime and dinners ahould be split 3/4) don't deviate from it in his favour during maternity.

Meaning, don't start doing it all just cos you are at home!

YANBU. DH should certainly be cooking too. Why can't he put DS to bed while you cook or vice versa?

Who cooks for your ds? If he has already eaten by the time you get in I would suggest you pick yourself something up in the way home from work and let dh sort his own meal out

You really need to split those chores.

One of you does bedtime and the other cooks for you both.

Or just mirror him. Come in and sit down. Do nothing.

We all like to relax a little after work. He would not have had one bite to eat since if he's said that to me.

So does he do anything else, any other housework while you are bathing DS and cooking dinner? Or is he just relaxing?