To secretly judge those who share stupid parenting memes?

[Bellerina2]

I go to Facebook today and someone has shared this:

"My promise to my kids~I am not your friend..I am your mother. I will stalk you, flip out on you, lecture you, drive you insane, be your worst nightmare and hunt you down like a bloodhound when needed because I LOVE YOU!! When you understand that, I will know you are a responsible adult. You will NEVER find someone who loves, cares and worries about you more than I do!"

Am I the only one who sees this sort of thing and thinks "well that's one way to ensure your kids move out and never visit you again"?

Then there's the nauseating ones about mother's of boys protecting their princes and no other woman's love ever being able to compare etc etc. I start to wonder if anyone thinks for themselves any more!

And it isn't just parenting memes, it's the "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" ones too - why???

Not a parenting meme but funny all the same

Another thing I find a little odd is that the mother of someone I know (girl from high school who added me on FB) died about 8 years ago but her Facebook page is still up and running. Not only do this girl and her friends write on her mother's wall to wish her for her birthday, Mother's Day and Xmas, but they also write messages to her saying "I'm struggling Aunty X, please pray for me and give me the strength to deal with what I've got ahead of me" etc. Perhaps it's a way of grieving but I do find it strange.

i think the posting of these inane memes spring from little insecurities that these people have.....maybe:-
did they marry the right guy?
did they make the right parenting choices?
could they have made better choices?
etc etc etc
these memes are a little touchstone to reassure themselves (and us) that all is well and the choices they made were the right ones.

can i ask you please if you secretly judge your facebook friends, then just dont be facebook friends with them. You dont have to. People deserve to not have their friends secretly judging them behind their backs.

Never in the sphere of humand history (or perhaps more approprately in ther relatively short time I've been frequenting these boards) have I come across a topic/discussion which resonates as fully as this one when really it probably shouldn't

The cancer ones really get on my nerves, as did the no makeup selfie (although frustratingly successful - as if not wearing make up was somehow the bravest thing anyone could ever ever do) and the ice bucket challenge shamelesly hi-jacked by cancer research

I know I sound like a grumpy git, but it seems that Facebook enables people to share the sort of crap (which I now know are called memes) which they think is clever, but rarely is, and also allows them to pretend (for the most part) that they're having better lives than they actually are.

Now this one goes out to my sister............

You can post as many "I'm a lioness and I'll defend my cubs to the death" and "My girls are the centre of my world, they make my life worth living" posts/memes as you like. If you truly had their best interests at heart, you'd stop having kids with people/sperm donors you didn't know. That the fruit of your over-active loins are rightly bought into and accepted by the wider family, doesn't mean that we approve of what you're doing!

Sorry about that folks. As you were.

There's always one, isn't there?

Cariad, we keep a dead friend's FB page going, it is a way for those of us still here to keep in touch.

Bran, no one likes to admit it, but everyone secretly judges other people in one way or another. Its better to secretly judge than be outwardly mean (although fb drama is highly entertaining ).

I don't know about the rest of you but I'm finding this highly therapeutic and have just thought of another pet FB hate - women (for it usually is just women) who put their names down as Jayne ProudmammyalwaysSmith etc!

itsnotme, If someone is posting loads of stuff i dont like seeing, then i either unfollow or delete them. It aint up to me the things they like, but if i was "feeling" judgmental about their posts, then id wonder if i really liked them at all.

I hope the people that i have on my facebook list, with access to my posts, thoughts, family photos, arent sitting there judging me rather than just defriending. Id much rather that. Its more honest.

Let's have it right, Facebook exists so that we can sit in judgement of others (from the comfort of our own screens). Sometimes that judgement will be for the better, sometimes it won't be.

I'm not going to delete people from my fb if they post things I find cheesey or sickly. It takes a second out of my day to read, eye-roll and move on. Only offensive posts get the goodbye from me, or a person who openly supports UKIP/BNP, as there is absolute no redeeming that in my eyes. I have a very good friend on there, I will still rolling my eyes at her bad grammar, duck pouting, Cheryl Cole loving statuses. Does not make me question whether I still 'like her' as a person.

Note to everyone who has said thy just share the funny ones.
No. No. Nobody else thinks they are funny.
They're all shit. Stop please.

I LOVE funny memes.

Just not shit, moony ones.

This is my favourite right now. For an obvious reason.

I hate the 'Martyr Mummy' ones, you know the - being a Mummy is the hardest job in the world, but I love your sick on my hair, I used to like going out at night, now I'll hold your hand blah blah blah boak

Ha! NBU At. All!

I love the OMG! That's not my child one though - I did share that - it doesn't count as wanky though I don't believe?!

It's the bloody stretchmark one that gets me: 'I'm a tiger who earned her goddamn stripes'.

No, darling, you are not a tiger. You are a woman who earned her goddamn stretchmarks through having skin that doesn't really like being stretched. Now STFU.

(Yes, I have stretchmarks )

Think your spot on there champion. My favourite today is "share this if you're against child abuse". Felt like saying no I'm pro it actually.

O.M.G. you are not wrong! I have defriended and hidden people on FB over this utter inane drivel.

I too share one that does all the 'I am crying on the inside being so brave' when she is anything BUT.....does my nut in! But she does in general. Not just a friend more someone I am stuck with through marriage

YANBU

They are cringetastic

The memes I can just about cope with - I've blocked the worst offenders anyway. It's the people that post 'so true' that give me the rage.

You all do know YOU have the power to control who you are FB friends with right?

I often get the feeling from MN, that FB is something out of our control that is simply "done" to us. It's not. You can delete and block at will.

"FB is a mecca to celebrate with other people who just can't hug themselves hard enough."

YANBU.

Actually I hate all the parenting memes with the exception of Tina Fey's.

Or should that be
'HATE ALL THE MEMES!' accompanied by the frazzled line drawing stick figure...

You don't have to un-friend people, you can turn off their updates - click on the top right-hand corner and choose Unfollow. I have done this with many of DH's friends

I too share one that does all the 'I am crying on the inside being so brave' when she is anything BUT...

I had one of them. A mutual friend commented on the pic saying 'Are you fuck, you've got shares in fucking Kleenex'