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Original poster

I didn't get a mothers day card...

33 replies

ilovesooty · 15/03/2015 10:38

... from the foetus.

After all it's now the size of a grapefruit so surely my partner should have stepped up to the plate and bought a card and a fuck off bouquet as well as providing breakfast in bed to a complicated high spec recipe.

Given some people's expectations including cards and presents from babies I wouldn't be surprised to see this next.

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crazylady12 · 15/03/2015 10:42

There was one woman on Facebook moaning she didn't get anything she's 4 months pregnant, so wanted to tell her to get a grip.

blueballoon79 · 15/03/2015 10:42

I know the feeling. The diamond encrusted shoes my children bought me are too tight.

WorraLiberty · 15/03/2015 10:44

If you're lugging a grapefruit around all day, you should like totally put your feet up hun because you're amazing xxxxx

MGFM · 15/03/2015 10:45

Im 41 weeks pregnant and my DH did go out this morning and buy fresh goodies for breakfast....croissants etc... It made me feel better as am super uncomfortable at the moment! 4 months pregnant is probably a bit much though.

mrsmugoo · 15/03/2015 10:45

My one year old brought me a hand printed daffodil home from nursery. It was a mess, he could have at least concentrated when he did it.

AlPacinosHooHaa · 15/03/2015 10:45

Ilove - look forward to your posts when you have been at the coal face for a few years and still get sweet FA Smile

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ilovesooty · 15/03/2015 10:55

Al that's not me. Smile

I'm just unable to get my head round how spoilt and whinging some people are, and round the idea that mother's should expect cards and presents on behalf of babies too young even to know it's mothers day.

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FuckyNell · 15/03/2015 10:57

Grin @ at the coal face

AGirlCalledBoB · 15/03/2015 11:00

Ah my sister is 4 weeks from her due date with her first. She has had 3 miscarriages so we are all super excited to meet this baby. I am seeing my sister later so I bought her a card from the bump Blush just thought it would make her smile and also got her a pair of mummy socks in the envelope Grin

slightlyconfused85 · 15/03/2015 11:03

I totally get what you mean, but when you are the exhausted mother of a small baby and you're working harder than you ever have in your life, when your DH doesn't get you a card representing what is really his gratitude then you might feel differently.

chickenfuckingpox · 15/03/2015 11:05

Being the exhausted mom of three that i am if i had a dp i would be expecting him to pitch in not buy a fucking card

Original poster
ilovesooty · 15/03/2015 11:06

He can show his gratitude by his actions and words or even with little gifts any time. Why should he have to buy into a commercialised day to provide a card and gift from a baby?

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slightlyconfused85 · 15/03/2015 11:07

Not saying he should, just that OP might feel different when she actually has her child. It's nice to be appreciated but perhaps her DH will do this anyway.

comeagainforbigfudge · 15/03/2015 11:08

I don't get the whole mothers day card from bump thing either.

The mil wanted to have a "double mothers day" celebration today. (Suggested after we'd invite them to ours to meet my parents - so in a way it is a double mothers day)

I'm not a mother yet. Baby is still cooking!! And I'm still in denial probably ha ha ha

Although if I'd been through what your sister had been through AGirlCalledBoB I'd appreciate your thoughtfulness Grin
contrary? Me? Never?

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ilovesooty · 15/03/2015 11:11

I think it would be more important for people to co parent effectively all the time and work as a team showing mutual respect and consideration.
Hallmark days just bring the worst our in people and highlight problems that are already there.

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KatieScarlettreregged · 15/03/2015 11:16

I am not a fan of Hallmark Day. I find it cringey that my DC are expected to show their love for me on a designated day and loathe the fact that they should have to spend money I'd rather they kept for themselves (poor students). I feel similar about my birthday, TBH.
I was most insistent that they not bother, a kiss would suffice, etc.
Yesterday I got a card explicitly stating this is not for M Day, presents and have just found flowers in a vase in the front room.
Their argument is that these items are not for MD but, "Just Because" Grin
(Disclaimer - I do make a fuss of Mum and MIL because they like it, my Fatwah is purely for me)

crazylady12 · 15/03/2015 11:16

MGFM that's lovely that's the type of thing you need he sounds lovely not gifts off an unborn child.

bruffin · 15/03/2015 11:17

Mothers say isnt a hallmark day though is it. It is a religous holiday involving going back to your mother church. When mine were younger we would go to church and the children were given flowers to give to their mums.

Frusso · 15/03/2015 11:20

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ilovesooty · 15/03/2015 11:21

It's become a hallmark day with associated expectations. I doubt if most families go near a church and its religious significance is long gone.

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WorraLiberty · 15/03/2015 11:26

It doesn't matter how Mother's day originated

It's definitely Hallmark and florist's day now.

ScathingContempt · 15/03/2015 11:27

You can actually buy mother's day cards from 'bump', I saw some this year. And one 'to my girlfriend on mother's day' which is all kinds of Freudian wrong.

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ilovesooty · 15/03/2015 11:29

I bet you can get mothers day cards from the cat and dog as well. Grin

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Koalafications · 15/03/2015 11:30

I'm 7 months pregnant and would feel really uncomfortable if someone got me a Mother's Day card or present. I'm not a mum yet.

MrTumblesBavarianFanbase · 15/03/2015 11:30

Thank you for reminding me I have to phone my mother!

I absolutely agree it's all stupid, and in my experience it's the people whose hands on mothering days are over who have the highest expectations - ironically expecting grown up daughter's who now also happen to be mothers, or son's whose wives are mothers, to spend the day fussing over them, and gently complaining if they don't ...

Mothers of smallish children spend the day pretending to be delighted with odd versions of breakfast in bed served by 5 year olds on plastic plates at 6 am. :o