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Mother's Day card from DP?

39 replies

Son90210 · 15/03/2015 07:57

I just can't help feeling offended that he's given me a card. I know he's sent it to say thank you but I feel like he's put me in the same bracket at his mother (and MIL and I detest each other).

OP posts:
Tutteredboast · 15/03/2015 08:02

He sounds thoughtful. Can you not just appreciate this?
Or is there more to it? Some hidden (you're my mummy) agenda?

Hakluyt · 15/03/2015 08:03

Eh?

JohnFarleysRuskin · 15/03/2015 08:04

What does it say? Need more information!

BlackDaisies · 15/03/2015 08:04

How old are your children? Is it just to say you're a good mum? What was the message inside it?

silverbangles66 · 15/03/2015 08:05

Are you a mother? To his dcs?

Is he acknowledging the role you play and what you do as a mother?

Unless there's sime hideous backstory, can you not just say thank you? YABU

Aeroflotgirl · 15/03/2015 08:16

You sound very ungrateful, I got nothing from dh, but the kids made me cards at school and nursery.

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 15/03/2015 08:18

?? I'm constantly amazed at the things people can find to be offended about.

notsolovely · 15/03/2015 08:22

I am hoping there is a massive drip feed coming on like you don't have kids and are not pg. Because if not YABU. DH always got me a mothers day card. dd is 10 so goes with him and picks it now. But i think a dp buying a card for his wife who is a mother is completely normal. even if the kids aren't his.

AlpacaMyBags · 15/03/2015 08:23

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missusdaly · 15/03/2015 08:27

Seeing as there is a plethora of Mothers Day cards enscribed with 'To My Wife On Mothers Day' I would conclude that this is very much a thing and YABU.

Casimir · 15/03/2015 08:28

Leave him.

Sirzy · 15/03/2015 08:28

I opened this expecting a "AIBU to expect a card from my dh" thread

keepsmiling2015 · 15/03/2015 08:33

You're annoyed your dp got you a mother's day card? You're hard work, poor guy!

Imperialleather2 · 15/03/2015 08:34

Your poor dh.

Get over yourself. even if he has put you in the same bracket as his mother, you detest her he doesn't.

FernGullysWoollyPully · 15/03/2015 08:35

You should punch him. Then dump his clothes on the lawn and burn them. Then leave.

What a horrible horrible man you're with....

Hmm
Holepunch · 15/03/2015 08:37

My friend's ex used to call her mummy at most inappropriate moments Wink (and they didn't have DC). There was definitely a very strange mother son dynamic going on there and she's well rid, but unless there's something like that you haven't told us, really?

Camolips · 15/03/2015 08:37

He loves you and his mother. In different ways. He just wants to thank both of you on Mother's Day. So yes, you are in the same 'bracket'.

Pipbin · 15/03/2015 08:37

I think you are being ungrateful. He is acknowledging you as a hard working mother.

Fairylea · 15/03/2015 08:38
Biscuit
MildDrPepperAddiction · 15/03/2015 08:41

What a horrible, ungrateful person you are. I hope your DCs grow up with more manners.

PrettyLittleMitty · 15/03/2015 08:41

What a bastard!

You sound like a lot of hard work op

HollyJollyDillydolly · 15/03/2015 08:44

Looks like men can't win either way. I think it's nice he's made the effort?

MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 15/03/2015 08:59

If you have children and he's bought you a card from them cos they're not old enough to be able to do it themselves then that's lovely of him and you are....well...I don't know! Why wouldn't you appreciate it. It's a lovely thing to do.

If you've no children well I don't understand him. Dh never did that before we became parents. I would've considered that a very strange thing to do!

FitzgeraldProtagonist · 15/03/2015 09:07

Is this a reverse? Like if you wrote "DP hasn't gotten me a card" you would get lots of "your not his mum! Entitled!" Type responses but as it is you will get more "if you are a mum, you should totally expect a card!" Type responses - this proving your happless DP should have shown you appreciation after all? Am getting too suspicious by half!

RestingFuckFace · 15/03/2015 09:08

People on mumsnet are weird about Mother's Day. And putting flowers in vases.

Hmm
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