to think, you did this, so stop complaining.

[snowmancarrot]

My friend has a ds with her now ex husband. She, by being obstructive and various other ways, made contact with his father as difficult as possible. Examples include, changing the days last minute, only agreeing to time when he would have been at work, trying to have him arrested for harassment when he was trying to arrange to see his son, saying he could only see him at her house. The list is endless. Lots of minor things to make sure it was unpleasant each time he was allowed to see his ds.

After months of aggravation from her he's said he can't drag their child through anymore of her emotional blackmail and doesn't have contact anymore.

Aibu to think that she can't then sit complaining about it to me, when it was her who wanted to make his life a misery as she believed he had made hers.

Maybe I need to cut her out.

Peaceofwildthings. Thank you :-)

Burnbabyburn I have backing from some that I've told. It's a very very complicated situation. He's very good at seeming to be reasonable and sincere but he's not, he can put on a front for years. I'm not even sure he thinks there's any problems and he's insisting I've made it all up... It's very difficult. Anyway sorry to hijack. I hope you've made a decision peace :-)

Wow. If what you say about her is true then she's an absolute piece of shit. No way would I befriend someone who behaves like that. It's abusive to the child and father alike.

Jaded did you actually read the opening post? This is all coming directly from the horse's mouth, the person actually behaving like this. The only other side to this story would probably be even more upsetting.

My friend is in what he calls the "cycle of mediation", every time he sets up a court date, his ex suggests mediation, the court frowns upon people who don't go to mediation.

Sometimes she shows up, other times she doesn't, either way it slows the whole process down and the situation starts all over again.

Yes thanks unclet.