To wonder if any of you have gone to your school reunions

[Behindthepaintedgarden]

and what were they like?

Trying to decide whether to go to mine, or not.

My 20 year one was last year. I didn't go as my parents no longer live in my home town.

I'm going to my first one in a couple of weeks.

Nervous and excited at the same time.

must not get drunk

No. Too far away. I had three close friends in high school and we are all still in touch and I see them once a year when I am in my native country.

I'd rather stick pins in my eyes

Redglitter i opened the thread all ready to post that lol

God no. They hated me then, its not a period of my life I want to revisit

Would rather paint my face with a shitty stick to be honest.

Nope, apart from the 3 or 4 people I have on Faceache, I have no desire to see any of them again

Oh no, my high school had a ten year one a while ago. I considered it, then realised that aside from a handful of people I've remained in touch with, the rest were tits and asshats and I'd be forking out money to spend time with people I actively disliked as a teen.

There haven't been any in over 30 years AFAIK!

I went to one at school (It was a lunch) 20 years after we left, and it was lovely.
I think what often affects your thoughts on this though is how much you liked school. I had a great time at school, and it was nice to catch up with people all those years on. To the extent that around 15 of us now try to meet up each year for a pub lunch somewhere - and this is with people who are spread throughout the country, hardly anyone is local.

Christ, no. And I would think anyone who did either insanely masochistic or hadn't moved on psychologically from their teens.

I went to one - School was on a Scottish island - only 90 in the year... 3 of us came from "down South" to attend along with 40ish other people who had stayed on the island. (was visiting mum anyway) Was the 30 years on reunion...

O...M...G... it was dull.

What happens at them? Do people stick to the groups they were in at school? Had people changed much? Was there much showing off? Proving how well they'd done in life? etc etc

I went to one. It was awkward, like going to a youth club disco in the next town where you half recognise people but don't really know how to start a conversation with them.

I f***g hated school due to the idiots I attended with. They made my school life a frigging nightmare. (I was clever enough to pass my 11+ to get into the Grammer School. Unfortunately, everyone else had mummy and daddy pay)

No way would I want to spend any time with them now.
If I heard they died in very painful and suffering circumstances I would probably celebrate.

My sister went to hers and said it was a bit of a disappointment. She was looking forward to a trip down memory lane, a bit of a laugh about all the things they'd got up to during their school days, the boys they'd fancied, the music they listened to etc. Instead everyone just sat around chatting about their jobs and their kids. She left early

no effing chance.
there was one that was held 10 years after leaving. i didn't go, thank god. i heard it was dreadful. everyone stuck to their old cliques. loads of oneupmanship and snobbery. my friends who did go didn't have a good word to say about it and were kicking themselves that they had shown their faces.
then, horrors - another was held 20 years after. as if one bad one hadn't been enough! one of my well-meaning but sadly misguided friends tried to strongarm me into going. she wouldn't take 'no' for an answer but i absolutely refused. she went on her own on the night, for a while. it was a gigantic flop, by all accounts, and very few turned up. i would have been raging if i had been one of the numpties there. some things are best ignored.

I would happily push 90% of the people I went to school with down the stairs.

Also going to mine in 2 weeks. Will report back then.

I refused to go to mine but my friend made me !!!
I actually had a great time but was with 2 friends that I am still in touch with so it wasn't too bad. It's weird because I realised that my memories of school might be a bit faulty.
We now meet a couple of times a year, not everyone that was there but about 8 of us and it's brilliant fun

I'm a bit puzzled by the expectation that people would chat about the things they got up at school, or who they fancied - I mean, who remembers that stuff years on? I suppose it's different if you've only been gone five years or something, but a lot has happened in my life since, and, not only would I not remember who hung around with whom, I'm not sure I'd remember A tenth of my year, even with name badges. I left school in 1990.

I went to dh's 20 year one with him a few years ago

it was cringe

everyone showing off and trying to get one over on eachother about how well they had done

dh said his facebook friends that were female (from his school days) were all posting about how they were getting facial peels / botox / new hair do's / dieting etc in the weeks running up to it

I am 10 years younger than dh and one of his ex school mates was really put out because I was younger than his gf by 2 years...I think he wanted to have the youngest gf

what a load of mid life crisis old nobbers

Well obviously you won't remember all the details. But I can remember quite a lot about my teenage years, where we used to go to socialise, who were the pin ups at the time, some of the more eccentric teachers and so on.

I can't imagine anything worse tbh