AIBU

[lollylou2876]

I have been with my partner for 2 years, and living together for 1 year. My partner has his own successful business and weighs 33 stone, at first he was giving me £30 a week for food and keep until I explained he needed to pay his way he then started paying £80 a week which barely covers his food bill let alone provide for me (not that I expect that as I am financially comfortable). he does not do any housework at all, never has I explained he was not paying keep for me to do everything for him and I am not his mother but alas no change.

I am now 2 months pregnant he is working 7 days a week, we hardly ever see him and on Sunday I made a roast (all paid for by me) to take to his mums after cooking, housework and lugging all the food and my son up to his mums he got annoyed that I was quiet but polite with him as I didn't feel his mum's was the right place to discuss it, and tired due to the pregnancy and said I need to ask for his time, help and money, my point is he doesn't have to ask for laundry cooked meals etc.

AIBU ?

Ginger I just snorted my tea.

The questions I have I would get slaughtered for on here so I will just wait until someone else asks them

Oh God, I'm so rude, I forgot to answer the OP.

I think you can see you haven't made a great decision having a child with this man. He abuses you financially and has very little to offer you. I would cut my losses now. Once you cannot earn anymore you are going to be in dire straits if you are relying on him to support you and the baby.

Lollylou. I cook everything from scratch, make my own sauces, buy from local veg shop and butchers, eat meat free a couple of times a week, bulk buy dried foods such as lentils, pasta, rice as its cheaper, switch between aldi and asda. I can even do home made Chinese chicken balls in batter which are lush :)

Getting pregnant isn't always a choice you know

And sometimes it is.

Staying pregnant is a choice though.

We are lucky to live in times when getting pregnant is generally a choice.

YANBU, but you have allowed a situation to have arisen where what your partner regards as usual is not what you need. Can you have a proper adult conversation about what a couple in an equal partnership having a child and living together means? (and maybe his health and being a dad) Or are you just going to go on be quietly pissed off with him and see if he takes the hint?

Beauty its easy enough to be sure you DON'T get pregnant. Of course its a choice. There's abstinence for a start.