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AIBU

59 replies

lollylou2876 · 10/03/2015 19:16

I have been with my partner for 2 years, and living together for 1 year. My partner has his own successful business and weighs 33 stone, at first he was giving me £30 a week for food and keep until I explained he needed to pay his way he then started paying £80 a week which barely covers his food bill let alone provide for me (not that I expect that as I am financially comfortable). he does not do any housework at all, never has I explained he was not paying keep for me to do everything for him and I am not his mother but alas no change.

I am now 2 months pregnant he is working 7 days a week, we hardly ever see him and on Sunday I made a roast (all paid for by me) to take to his mums after cooking, housework and lugging all the food and my son up to his mums he got annoyed that I was quiet but polite with him as I didn't feel his mum's was the right place to discuss it, and tired due to the pregnancy and said I need to ask for his time, help and money, my point is he doesn't have to ask for laundry cooked meals etc.

AIBU ?

OP posts:
arethereanyleftatall · 10/03/2015 22:33

Eh? This sounds like a complaint one might have for a lodger, not for the person you're about to have a child with.

nslw · 10/03/2015 22:36

He weighs 33 stone and you let him get you pregnant...

YABU

Furyfowler · 10/03/2015 22:40

Im still wondering how she managed to let him :/

ImperialBlether · 10/03/2015 22:45

I worked with a man who weighed about this - he had a gastric band and is now half his original size but clearly still has a problem with food.

If this is a real problem, why for the love of god have a baby with someone who thinks he can pay 'board' which is more suited to a teenager?

Koalafications · 10/03/2015 22:48

What a bizarre thread..

LuisSuarezTeeth · 10/03/2015 23:03

Wake me up when it's all over....

olgaga · 10/03/2015 23:04

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GingerCuddleMonster · 10/03/2015 23:12

I am shamelessly posting for updates on the following;

a)the logistics of sex with such a rotund individual

b) see above.

HappenstanceMarmite · 10/03/2015 23:15

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SistersOfPercy · 10/03/2015 23:15

Ginger and fury, having pondered this for half an hour I feel the bigger question is how did they both fit under 'the bridge'?

GingerCuddleMonster · 10/03/2015 23:46

stacked one on top of each other...oh wait maybe we just solved the logistics question Confused

TywysogesGymraeg · 10/03/2015 23:53

OP seems to have buggered off. Interesting Confused

GoldenBeaches · 11/03/2015 06:55

I'm sorry but unless he loses some drastic weight he will be dead soon enough and then you won't have to worry about the food bill any longer.
Unless of course this is all part of your cunning plan Wink

countessmarkyabitch · 11/03/2015 08:49

No wonder shes buggered off if shes for real and getting these troll hunting responses Hmm

peutetre · 11/03/2015 09:32

So apart from the £80 he appears to be eating the rest to himself.

CupidStuntSurvivor · 11/03/2015 11:18

Was completely unintentional Warra!

SuggestmeaUsername · 11/03/2015 11:23

Are you sure he has a successful business if that is all he gives you?!

lollylou2876 · 11/03/2015 13:30

thanks for all replies & i can handle a few trolls & comments!!
i think the paying board comment sums it up and putting him back on a diet in order to get a gastric band seem sensible - also after some thought and its time i put my foot down or maybe up lol if he disagrees!

OP posts:
lollylou2876 · 11/03/2015 13:39

hi butterfly im interested to knw how u only spend £60 a week as i am a supershopper bt would find it hard on that budget any tips!

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FuckItBucket · 11/03/2015 13:44

I can't even...

What?

Number3cometome · 11/03/2015 14:53

Shamelessly adds a full stop

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OttiliaVonBCup · 11/03/2015 15:26

You do that, LollyLou, you do that!

iLoveMushrooms · 11/03/2015 17:31

so why get prenant, and if ur both rich get a cleaner or house keeper

KittensOnAPlane · 11/03/2015 19:03

£80 on food, well it explains how he is 33 stone - i dont know how you would spend that much on one person - what is on the shopping list?

Are you getting anything nice or good in the relationship? or are you just his housekeeper?

If you're not getting anything good, then show him the door

if you want to keep going, you need to get him to contribute more financially, and stop spending £80 on food for him (sounds a bit enabling)

Furyfowler · 11/03/2015 19:11

Sisters and ginger Grin

We spend £60 a week asda shop for me, oh and 2 kids under 6.... My oh is tye heaviest at 14st. I guess just don't eat as much.