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to be annoyed that I have been labelled a 'chicken'

63 replies

pinkie1982 · 10/03/2015 13:11

Last night DP and I popped into his parents house for a cup of tea and to show his dad our new car.

His dad came out and I went inside to see his family. His mum came downstairs in mis-matched pjs and his sister told me his mum has had the sh!ts and soiled her trousers three times that evening.
With that she sat forward, said 'here it goes again' and then didn't move until DPs sister told her to go upstairs. When she got there she shouted down that she didn't make it in time, would have to put a nightie on and would wash these trousers out in the sink first with the others!

I am 22w pregnant and at that point got up and said I was going, if she had any bugs I didn't want to catch them and I would see them another day. Then I went to the car and told DP we were leaving and the reasons why.

DP went back in to get his keys and a family friend that was there was laughing that I had left and said I was a chicken.
I am annoyed that they knew I was going round and his mum was ill and noone bothered to say and that they made a comment because I had left.

Now I have written it it sounds petty...

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ZombieApocalypse · 10/03/2015 13:12
Shock

She actually sat there and shat herself? YANBU, I'd have left on the spot. Gross.

iLoveFlop · 10/03/2015 13:13

That is fucking grim.

YADNBU.

Jackie0 · 10/03/2015 13:14

I don't know about petty but certainly absolutely disgusting

TheSingingMonkey · 10/03/2015 13:15

YANBU in the slightest. Why on earth did they not tell you she was ill. You are not being petty, they clearly are idiots.

NaiceNickname · 10/03/2015 13:15

Bug or not she sounds fucking vile, ugh. YANBU, or a chicken.

FaktiskDetteErGrunden · 10/03/2015 13:15

They sound horrible.

They are trying to humiliate a woman with diarrhoea and they trying to minimise your concerns about germs (normal during pregnancy) and then manipulate you by calling you a coward so that you will what, clear up after their mother? I don't get it.

It doesn't sound petty. I don't exactly understand it but it sounds completely dysfunctional and without respect.

PureMorning · 10/03/2015 13:15

Shes a dirty mare.

Id of left earlier

squoosh · 10/03/2015 13:15

Well they sound, ummmm, charming. It's so nice to get a detailed description of someone's attack of the squits.

Is it too late to run for the hills?

tomandizzymum · 10/03/2015 13:15

That's nasty. I would have left as well. I didn't realise that getting sick was a challange. I don't have the habit of rubbing myself up and down on sick people and competing about being a better sick person than others.

BloodyDogHairs · 10/03/2015 13:15

Why did she just sit there Shock surely the minute you feel you need the toilet you go.

You were right to get out!

popalot · 10/03/2015 13:15

YANBU. It's common courtesy to let a preggers lady know if you've got a tummy bug. It all sounds a bit messy and unhygenic, sitting there and having an accident then exclaiming it to all and sundry and washing it all off in the sink. You did right to leg it fast!!!

TheSingingMonkey · 10/03/2015 13:16

Grim grim grim.

MissMuesli · 10/03/2015 13:16

I wouldn't have wanted to be around anyway poorly like that, especially when pregnant. You are not being unreasonable, vile

CaptainAnkles · 10/03/2015 13:18

I don't think I'd want to be around them at all if that's acceptable language and behaviour in their house. Horrible.

MinceSpy · 10/03/2015 13:21

Has the woman got no self respect or standards? Having an upset tummy is one thing but sitting in your own mess is disgusting.

Pregnant or not you were right to get out. I'm truly stunned your husband wasn't right behind you.

squoosh · 10/03/2015 13:21

Are they always that coarse? It would put me right off someone knowing their family was so grim.

Floggingmolly · 10/03/2015 13:23

Jesus, steer clear as much as you can! The fact that you're wondering if you're being petty shows their work on you is having an effect already...
Vile people.

sosix · 10/03/2015 13:23

Yanbu even if nit pregnant. Thats revolting.

RatMort · 10/03/2015 13:23

It doesn't sound 'petty', it sounds incredibly gross. They sound uncultivated, to put it mildly, and while I'm sure in some universe it's considered a compliment to someone's company to be so enthralled by their conversation that you sit there repeatedly soiling yourself rather than go to the loo, it's not in mine. I wouldn't need to be pregnant in order to limit my exposure to both their conversation and their hygiene.

Am hoping the sink in which the four pairs of shit-smeared pyjamas were being washed was not the one in which the teacups were washed...

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TheSingingMonkey · 10/03/2015 13:24

Are their standards of hygiene always that disgusting?

peggyundercrackers · 10/03/2015 13:25

I don't think you were unreasonable to leave because what happened was disgusting, you don't just sit and shit yourself and then tell everyone.

if you left only because you thought you might catch something I think YABU.

DoJo · 10/03/2015 13:25

So much wrong with this that whether or not you are 'chicken' should be the least of your worries.

MrsCakesPrecognition · 10/03/2015 13:26

It sounds revolting to the point where I can't believe anyone behaves like this in RL.

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