to not go to or give a present for a 'Christening anniversary'...

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Some background: BIL and DH don't really get on but speak on the phone about once every month. They have one child who's 2 and a half.
BIL and SIL live about 3 hours away from us. We went to her Christening about two years ago but haven't seen any of them since. We send them all presents every Xmas and get their DD a present for her birthday as well.

Now BIL and SIL have sent us an invitation to a 'Christening Anniversary' for their DD which is basically a party to commemorate when their daughter was Christened.

I've never heard of one of these anniversaries.

We haven't replied yet but DH spoke to MIL last night and she thinks we're BVU to not go and not send a present.

What the actual fuck?

AIBU to think you can't just invent random occasions and expect people to rock up bearing gifts?!

Please please add this as an annual reminder in your diary and forever send a card. Get 29p birthday cards and cross out birthday add christening anniversary. Get cheap christening cards and add the word anniversary. Get cheap anniversary cards and add the word christening. See how many years you can do this before they stop speaking to you

Oh my word Phyllis I'd forgotten all about holy medals. I used to have quite the collection...

Tizwailor I barely remember the date of DD's and it was six weeks ago!!

YANBU
Sounds like rubbish to me

Well obviously it's a stupid idea, it's definitely not a 'thing' and certainly is just an excuse for a party money. I'd just acknowledge the invitation in a "well this is a new idea" kind of way and then tell them you're not attending.

Don't pander to this crap.

Sounds like they are trying their luck! As a catholic coming from stereotypically huge family I've never heard of these parties. I did used to get chocolate from my grandparents on the feast day of the saint I was named after though.

Love the suggestion of the pope soap on a rope!

ZenNudist. Yes. Do it.

I've heard of a first communion shower, now this What is going on?! Maybe I'm getting old and grumpy but fgs.

A First Communion Shower??????

Words. Fail. Me.