I am raging ð??¡ Proper raging.
Text this morning read: "I have hired a cleaner to come on Friday to do the bathrooms, floors, kitchen, hoovering and general clean, as a Mother's Day pressie from all of us"
Firstly, I have had a horrendous chesty cold for over 2 weeks, as has our 2.8yo DS. We have both been coughing loads, day and night, so there has been little sleep for us. DH sleeps like a corpse and is generally useless if woken out of a deep sleep anyway, so I have been up &down during the night with DS - and working Mon-thur in a pretty demanding job - despite feeling miserable myself.
Secondly, we agreed before xmas that DH and DD (almost 19yo) needed to pull their weight more around the house. DD is just lazy and has - as a result - not only had the allowance we gave her when she started Uni removed, but also her travelling expenses too. Travelling expenses (which only amount to around £35/week) were stopped after she failed to keep to the rota we all agreed (all that was required was clean her own en suite, keep her own room tidy, clean the microwave and do 1 washing per week)
DH has also failed to keep to his part of the agreement, which was to hoover the upstairs at the weekend and clean our en suite. He has cleaned our en suite twice since December (me doing it the rest of the time as dirty bathrooms are minging) and has hoovered upstairs 3 times (again being done by me when I eventually crack after reminding him it needs done)
Thirdly, DH is always training for something (triathlons, marathons) leading up to an iron man in 2 years. This results in A LOT of extra washing, which I need to keep up with. I started going to classes on a Wednesday night (and a Friday morning, one I can take DS to in my day off - metafit with a toddler, bonkers 
). Exercise is important to me, especially for my mental health, as I have been to hell and back since my Mums suicide 4 years ago. So I NEED this time out the house, but it's at the expense of tidiness/cleanliness. I don't see why I should be the only one running myself ragged trying to keep up with everything.
So I sent a reply saying he had ruined my day, as a one off cleaning session is not what I need, those 2 pulling their weight on an ongoing basis is what I need (&we all know you have to tidy before a cleaner comes so this is even more hassle for me)
He thinks it was a nice gesture. I am seriously livid. Tearful even (but that's probably due to the exhaustion of the last 2 weeks lack of sleep)
The lack of sleep is possibly clouding my judgment, so MN - AIBU??