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AIBU?

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to ask you when you met your partner?

79 replies

lostoldlogin · 07/03/2015 23:18

I'm 30 with a son who will be 4 next week. I'm generally happy, but I am single. Apparently I'm attractive and intelligent, have a good group of friends, I do sports, have a job etc etc.

But I can't seem to find a partner and having been not too worried about it for the last few years, now I'm worrying that I'll be alone forever. I know it sounds a bit over dramatic - but I do feel pretty lonely.

AIBU to ask when (and how!) you met your partner?

OP posts:

IthinkIneedmorewine · 08/03/2015 07:23

We met online when I was 28 and he was 34. 3.5 years on, getting married in July!

Bellabutterfly2014 · 08/03/2015 07:33

My partner and I had been friends for about 16-17 years; we had a simar circle of friends and used to all hang out together but never went out with each other but it would seem we always had a thing for each other.

Anyway about 3 years ago he split up with his ex and I was already newly single and i saw him and he was staying in his friends apartment while he was working away for 6 weeks so I said he could stay with me.

Our friendship blossomed and I realised what a great guy he was. Then one night I came home from work and noticed my table all laid out, a bunch of flowers and he'd cooked me a lovely meal; I asked him what this was in audio and he said to say Thankyou for taking him in and he wanted to tell me how he felt!!! It was a massive gamble for him but the rest as they say is history - been together 3 years now and I couldn't imagine life without him.

Most of my friends were friends beforehand so maybe your Prince Charming g is right under your nose xxx

GoooRooo · 08/03/2015 07:39

I was 30 (I'm now 40). At my 30th birthday party I apologised to my mother for not having given her grandchildren (she laughed and told me not to be stupid). I had resigned myself to being single and childless forever.

Three months later I met DH on a forum, not unlike this one but with more men. Two months after that we met in person and within a month had moved in together. We married when I was 32 and now have a DS and another on the way.

At the time, meeting people on the internet was seen as A Very Weird Thing so we lied to everyone and said we'd met in a pub. These days half our friends are internet dating.

Pengweng · 08/03/2015 07:46

Met at 18, got together at 20, married at 27. We met through my friends now husband, they are in the same band.

lavendersun · 08/03/2015 07:48

36 and I literally bumped into him in a coffee shop, a completely random stranger, he bought me a cake, we went out for dinner that evening and decided to get married two weeks later.

I had been very single, entirely by choice for 5 years. I worked in a male dominated environment and had turned a lot of men down as I would rather have been at home with my cat than have dinner with most of them who asked me.

12 years later ....

EveBoswell · 08/03/2015 07:49

Singles club. I was 50+ and then, married to him, had the most wonderful 16 years ever. If people my age can do it, anyone can. Just be positive in your life, OP.

PixieChops · 08/03/2015 07:50

I was 27, very drunk and dressed as a pirate (Halloween) my oh would have been 30 and had a girlfriend at the time so we just became friends. His relationship broke down and in the following summer we got together. Within a month of us being together I was pregnant with DD and now I'm pregnant with DS (our children will be 13 months apart) Im now 29 and OH is 32. My advice would be to never ever look. I looked for 3 years because I was panicking and only when I stopped looking did I actually meet him. By then I wasn't settling for just any idiot either. Been single for 4 years and was loving it!
My mum on the other hand didn't meet my step dad until she was 35, they've been together 15 years and getting married next year. My mum was a single mum, very similar as my dad had nothing to do with me either. They met whilst my mum was buying a single bed for me from him! You won't be on your own forever and you'll probably meet your new OH in a place where you'd never expect

mrsm16 · 08/03/2015 08:03

We met when I was 25 he was 27 on pof, had the best first date I've ever had, everything was just so easy and relaxed when we were together! moved in to his house 5 months later, ds born 18 months later, now 4 years on have bought our own house together, expecting twins soon and getting married next year and I still can't believe how easy it's all been!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 08/03/2015 08:10

I was 26 and he was 20. Oops. We met at work. Still together 17 years on

HeyMicky · 08/03/2015 08:10

28, online. After a bad breakup I'd spent a year sowing my wild oats, then decided I wanted a serious relationship. I went on lots and lots of dates, American-style, no shagging. Was several months before I whittled it down to my now DH although he was in fact the first date I went on.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 08/03/2015 08:15

We met on plenty of fish just after I turned 29. We were moved in together and married by 31 and now trying for our first baby at 33.

OhMjh · 08/03/2015 08:23

I was 18, he was 21 and I was his boss at work. Still going very strong 3 years later, with 14 week old DD.
My mum, however? 40, he was 34 and as far away from her 'type' as you can get - still gloriously happy 4 years later and according to her, he's the 'one' after being single for 18 years.

OddBodkins · 08/03/2015 08:26

I was 34, she was 42 (both women). We met online and are blissfully happy 12 years on. Good luck op, you are definitely not too old!

Shockers · 08/03/2015 08:31

I was 30 and divorced with a son. He was 29 and happily single after splitting with a fiancée. We met at church.

We've been together 18 years (married 17) and have 2 children.

NotLoveActually · 08/03/2015 08:37

Met my dh when I was 25, was just about to finish up my 3 month redundancy notice, and had already booked myself a one way flight to Australia. We decided to spend 3 moths together, I then left, being too bloody stubborn to tell him I'd fallen in love with him and stay. I went out, we were in touch every day, then he called and asked me to marry him a week later. By the time he sold his house, wound up his business and flew out to me, we'd been apart for longer than we were initially together. We've been together for 9 years this month, and our 5 year wedding anniversary is next week totally outs self to anyone who knows me

Murphy29 · 08/03/2015 08:43

We were both 19 and in the same group for a uni class. Didn't get together until the next year and now been together 8 years, married 3 and have DS.

Salene · 08/03/2015 08:44

Met him on plenty of fish. He was my 21st date , I was his first date

I was 31 he was 34. We married 2 years later and we now have a 6 month little boy and have been together a total of 5 years in May.

tilliebob · 08/03/2015 08:47

When we were 15. Been together basically ever since.

NickyEds · 08/03/2015 08:54

When we were 18,on the first day of Uni. Moved in together at 21 when we finished Uni and have been together ever since. One 14 month old ds and a baby girl due in july. I do find it strange when I see my nephew who is 18 and think, bloody hell we were that young when we met!!!

whatisforteamum · 08/03/2015 10:37

I WAS 20 he was 26 at a New yrs eve party 28 yrs ago.

tomandizzymum · 08/03/2015 10:55

First job, both far from home, him 21 and me 22. Certainly not looking for 'the one'. That was 15 years ago!

notme23 · 08/03/2015 16:36

I was 17, in a nightclub! Classy

AmserGwin · 08/03/2015 18:22

I'm 39, been single for almost 2 years. Ex got with someone almost straight away and they are having a baby (great). It's hard, but I'm getting on with it and hoping I meet someone. At the same time I'm not just going to go with the first man that comes along, starting to get a bit lonely though. Get yourself out and about and hopefully it will happen to you x

FibonacciSeries · 08/03/2015 18:31

I was 36 and had given up. We got together a month before my 38th and are now married

BeachyKeen · 09/03/2015 00:21

met at 17, pregnant at 18 , bay 1 at 19, married atb20, baby 2 at 21
been together 20 years now
we are still rock solid, and know just how lucky we are

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