to ask you when you met your partner?

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I'm 30 with a son who will be 4 next week. I'm generally happy, but I am single. Apparently I'm attractive and intelligent, have a good group of friends, I do sports, have a job etc etc.

But I can't seem to find a partner and having been not too worried about it for the last few years, now I'm worrying that I'll be alone forever. I know it sounds a bit over dramatic - but I do feel pretty lonely.

AIBU to ask when (and how!) you met your partner?

Yes exactly amy we get to do lovely couply things when the dcs are with their daddy, and do family time when they're home - it's perfect! Plus there's no resentment about any baby stuff that I know a lot of my friends have. Things their dps didn't do when the babies were tiny, and they have to get over that and carry the resent

I met dh when I was 30. We got together 2 years after that. I was convinced I would never find the one, and remember that feeling intensified at around 30. But it did happen in the end.

I was 17 and he was 21. We worked in the same office. Got together after about 6 months after he dumped his girlfriend

Now been together 11 years, married for 1 and have two dc.

When I was 40 having been a single parent for 13 years. In my experience these things happen when you least expect it so try not to dwell on it too much.

Ex boyfriend cousin

I was 23. He worked in the same place as my mum, and she set us up on a blind date. It was love at first sight, and we've been blissfully happy together for 17 years now, married for 9 years, and have a 13 year old son.

Friend of my older sister so known him since I was very small. We got together when I was 16 after I pursued him mercilessly 14 years and thee dc later we are still together. Although I am the exception within my friendship group. We are all late twenties through early thirties, and they are all single lucky buggers

I was 23.. It sounds young but it felt like forever to meet him as he was my first

I met DH when I was 27, I had a DS 7 at the time who I'd raised alone since birth so I know what it's like to be a single mum. We've been married 4 years now. We met through evening classes and I made sure I sorted out childcare so we could go out to decent places when we started dating. I realised it was worth putting the relationship on an adult footing, rather than just expecting him to visit me at home when DS was in bed - that would have been boring and a bit soulless for both of us.

Met him when I was 26, but we didn't get together until a couple of days after I turned 30. We met at work.

At 30 you really do have plenty of time!

I was 27 and set up by my mum (dp is her friend's son). Going pretty well a couple of years in, apart from his mum being a nightmare (DM recently informed me she always knew dp's mum would be a nightmare mil - ta mum!)

I met DP a fortnight before my 35th birthday. Had shite luck in my lovelife prior to that, hence no dcs yet. Am 37 now. We're ttc, with 2 mc's under our belt but with plenty of hope for the future.

We're engaged now and will marry later this yr.

Best of luck OP. Things can change overnight :)

Met my DP at drama school I was 22 he was 21. Have two DC and has always felt like the right thing.

I was 18 and we met on holiday on a train in France although we actually lived less than 15 miles from each other. We didn't get together for another year. We have now been together for 28 years.

I was 30 and had a 5 year old. I wasn't looking, was settled on my own and probably a little frightened to dip my toe into the dating world. We met online as friends, not remotely a dating site. 16 years later we are still great friends but married with 2 more children

I met my now DH (I've been married three times) a fortnight before my 30th birthday. I had two sons then, aged 9 and 5. We've since had another 3 DCs together, and been actually "legally married" for almost 11 years.
I just wish I'd met DH first, but I guess you have to kiss a million few frogs before you find the Handsome Prince

I was 28, lived alone, had been single for around 3yrs (though I'd not had a 'proper' relationship before I met my now dh) and had just finished a long-term job that I'd really enjoyed. I felt that my life was going nowhere so I thought I'd be proactive and joined a paid online dating site. He was the 1st person to make contact by winking at me.

We swapped messages and then texts and we met a few weeks later. That was nearly 7 yrs ago.

I was 3 weeks short of 31. Blind date with a good friend's brother. Been married 3 years, have a 2 year old and one on the way! :)

He was on my Facebook, a vague acquaintance from my gig rock club mosher days. I posted asking for some electrical advice - he came round and fixed my problem for FREE - (at the time I was a single parent to 3YO and 9MO had recently moved back to home town and was in a bit of a kerfuffle to be honest) He helped me with a few other DIY jobs around the house (paid, of course) a year later we became close friends, spent a lot of time together as single parents; during that time I fell in love but didn't say anything for a further 6 months. Turns out he felt the same.

We're now happily married.

I was 35, I was at a Tolkien Society innmoot, ended up blacking out and being taken away in an ambulance with a kidney infection! I met him again 3 years later at a pagan ritual, then he came to a Tolkien Society bbq that I hosted 5 years after we first met.

My sister separated from her partner, and father to their two children, when she was 30. The children were 7 and 5. This was almost three years ago and the ex is pretty crap really and only sees the children once every fortnight.

My sister met a man about 15 months after the split and they are now engaged. He had been previously married (now divorced) and has two children himself who are pretty much the same ages as my sister's children. He has his children every weekend and they all have a lovely time together.

She met him through online dating and I think it works so well for them because they each have children so have that common ground and mutual understanding of what being a parent means and they are both in the same stage of their lives.

And I meant to say that I met my partner through online dating when I was 26. We married when I was 29 and had a baby the following year.

I was 22 and a single mum to 3 children. I'd been in a long term relationship for 7 years but he cheated and left me for the ow when the youngest was 8 months old. I ended up in a pub with a friend one night, my youngest had just turned 1, and met my DH. I remembered him vaguely from school, we got chatting, then he pestered me for weeks to go out with him! We became official in the October and conceived our daughter in the November. Our relationship went from strength to strength, it's 4 years this year, we married last year and have another baby cooking away!

We were on the same uni course, but I thought he was a proper idiot. Then one night we were at a mutual friends birthday party and his friend bet him he couldn't pull me (classy I know). Turned out he absolutely rocked my world. That was 15 years ago, we have 3 DC now.

I met my DH when I was enjoying being independent and having my home and routine how I liked it. Cue a guy who I was happy to be friends with, hanging around for months whilst I realised I had more to gain by losing what I had. I think it helped that I was happy in myself and I had given up looking for Mr Perfect! Good luck, I'd say enjoy this time. When it's gone you probably won't miss it, but you might wish you had not fretted and just enjoyed it. Happiness is contagious, and good to be around, you might want to make sure you're in a good place so you attract the right man, (someone who seeks out a miseryguts is often on a power trip and more likely to be EA in my experience!). The time to be happy is now.