To feel sad about my DS's last breastfeed

[MrsNuckyThompson]

DS is 23.5 months. I'm about to go away for work for a week. We've only been doing one feed a day for the last 4 months or so. He never asks for BM.

So it feels like the right time to stop. I'm ready and so's he.

I'm so sad. I fed him tonight with big fat tears on my cheeks. My baby. It's the end of an era.

YANBU. It's how you feel. I was the same a couple of months ago but you will move past the sadness and can look back and smile.

I understand. After my youngest DC's last ever breastfeed I cried buckets.

aw hes still a baby just growing up. I didnt know you could bf children who were two when do kids usually come off milk?

Drama - that must be hard. I think I'll have another so it's not the last ever. Just his last ever.

I cried over dd's last feed (Although unbeknownst to me she had other ideas and it turned out not to be her last!! In the end I didn't know her last feed was her last, iyswim, but I still cried over the feed I thought was her last.)

I was a mess when I stopped BFing my youngest - it was awful, so sympathies. Don't forget that stopping will mess with hormone levels for a while, so be prepared for some PMT-like stuff.

I was exactly the same. I fed my DD for 26 months, and it felt so sad when it was over. I just knew the time was right. You will feel better soon. Just think about the lovely healthy start you have given your Son :). It's very special.

I was exactly the same. Just over 2yrs and he only had a feed at bedtime. It was sad. It is the end of something that was special.

Probably putting myself out here for a virtual kicking BUT I never felt like this. I wonder if mums that FF felt the same? I have absolutely no issue with how people choose to feed their children, afterall it's personal choice. IMO there is no wrong nor right. Your child is nearly 2 OP they can't stay babies forever whichever way they're fed.

I took a pic on my phone of DD's last feed at 27mo, then my phone bricked itself and I was locked out of my cloud account. Cried buckets when I got back in again (in my defence I was pg again by that stage so crying was a frequent response).
It is a sad but lovely thing, you have given him milky cuddles for as long as you and he both wanted to, and you'll always look back fondly. I enjoyed the brief moment of having my body back to myself, then instantly got pg and am now bfing no.2 .

I understand. I started a thread too about my DS. A bittersweet moment.

Why is it bittersweet? Children grow up. I never understand this mindset of some mothers when breastfeeding comes to an end. At the end of the day no matter how a mum feeds she did the best for her child and will continue to do her best by that child whether breastfeeding or not. I often think that mothers that feel sad when breastfeeding ends have more of an attachment issue than the child. I breastfed and am no better than a mum who chose or for some other reason had to FF. As I said children grow up. FFS let him!

We've only been doing one feed a day for the last 4 months or so. He never asks for BM.

This makes me wonder OP if he hasn't been asking then why the hell have you continued? He clearly has self weaned! This issue is yours and not his.

Blacklab - you're being deliberately inflammatory. He's not yet two and he had milk before bed just like the vast majority of under twos. What would you have me feed him?

Do you always have such problems with empathy blacklabs?

Ok I'll bite. You don't need to FFS me.

I have let my son grow up and he is growing up very well thank you.

I couldn't care less whether someone BF or FF. It was bittersweet as is any moment where you child takes new steps in life. Babies no more but I am happy for each new step. I have no attachment issues.

It does however sound like you have a few issues.

Fuck me Blacklab what's your beef? You sound like a bitter old misery. Now why don't you go and boil your head.... you might feel a bit more human afterwards

YANBU we all find a variety of things to get tearful about as our DC grow. I felt devestated when my oldest started school...I know some Mothers don't. We're all different.

can't there is no need to be that rude to Black

Going through this at the moment with DD. I've been longing to stop for ages but still feel upset about bringing it to a close!

I hated it the last months..... Haaaaated it - the pulling, the scratching, the most painful pinching!!! I kept trying to stop on a monthly basis after a year and literally did a happy dance the month I realised he was ready too.

yanbu I sobbed and sobbed. It was only 2 weeks ago and dd is 15 months. I didn't really want to stop and she really didn't and we both broke our hearts for a week. I stopped because I'm having ivf in the hope she will have a sibling. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.

I remember the time well, sadly not the last feed as it just ended and I didn't realise it was the last one, I never knew :-(. He was my first success at bf and it was hell for 4 months at the start, finishing was very sad. However he still cannot get enough of me a year later so all is not lost.

You are entitled to your opinion tawdry... I'm not that fussed about it though.

can't well you're a bucket of joy aren't you! SO pleasant.