to wonder why my DH fills up the dishwasher but doesn't turn it on?

[Twiceover]

Sometimes, not all the time. He fills it up...and then he leaves it. So that when you open it the next morning to get out the breakfast dishes they're still dirty. And there's no clean dishes. Why does he do this? What possible logic can be running through his head?

• Oh, there might be room for another teaspoon, I'll just wait?
• Ooh, something shiny over there? Now what was I doing?
• There, I've tidied away all those dirty dishes, now the kitchen looks lovely, job done. Drives me mad. Does anyone do this? Why????

Thought this was just mine. I think it is partly to do with being economical: the machine cannot be switched on if there is any space at all; and partly because whilst he is v concerned with tidyness (so everything is put into the machine) he's not really bothered about the process by which the dishes are then cleaned, put away and made ready for re-use. V strange

Mine doesn't turn it on in the evening, because he's the first one downstairs in the morning & would feel obliged to empty it (horror)!
If he 'forgets' then I have to turn it on in the morning, and as I am in before him I of course am obliged to empty it.....Lazy soab

Mine too!

We are all married to the same man.
I have now banned dh from loading the dishwasher because he puts 3 things in declares it full and forgets to put it on.
So now I do it.

Someone in my family, they all flatly deny it of course, but someone takes the last thing out of a packet (could be crisps, biscuits, teabags etc) and leaves the empty packet there masquerading as a full one. Highly annoying.

We do the dishwasher thing too, but as others have said it's usually left for one or two things more then forgotten.

Mine claims he doesn't know when the dishwasher is clean and waiting to be unloaded or gathering dirty dishes before going on.

Well, open it up, take a look and all will be revealed.

Some years ago I used to nickname my dishwasher "Jaws" because I was convinced the rest of the family were afraid it might bite them, hence their regular tendency to stack stuff on the worktop above it rather than IN it. The kids seem rather better trained now. Husband is still a work in progress.

Fear of 'domestic job' commitment. There are different burdens.

1. Clearing rooms of dishes, kitchen table, coffee cups in the lounge, bedsit glasses of water.
2. Taking the cleared dishes on the kitchen side and stacking them in the dishwasher.
3. Turning the dishwasher on.
4. Emptying the pots, pans and crockery.
5. Tidying it all away.

It is easy to do just one of those things and SUPPORT the whole activity than it is to take RESPONSIBILITY for the whole activity.

So X does some of those things and Y does another.

We all try to carve as much time out of our 'me time' as we can. But Hey! One day we will have proper robots...

Oh, and none of my lot seem able to stack it efficiently and would put it on barely half full.

sometimes i fill mine up, know im going to make a snack or a cup of tea later so leave it until im finished with the kitchen for the day but then forget. i hate waking up in the morning to no clean dishes but i only have myself to blame

why does mine walk into a room and not switch lights on, if i have been upstairs in bed ill i come down to darkness.

why does mine never think to shut curtians when people can see in, on our busy road? but is paranoid about burlgary?

when you have spilled something, why not just strecth that hoover to the whole room than the little spillage, ie, other stuff next to spillage could be hoovered but is left

Mine loads the dish washer, switches it on, wipes over the surfaces (see you're all thinking that he's like a superman) BUT I go in the living room and there's dirty dishes, there may be some in the dining room and when he washes up the bowl/ sink are always covered in old food and grease! Drives me nuts!!! It's like doing half a job!

My DP does this too. He never explains why.

I am not alone!

dh is a swine for loading the dishwasher and putting it on and then and only then will he check to see if everything that could be in there is actually in there

then he'll say "there's NO room, that'll have to go in next time" ....when it's only a plate or three bits of cutlery that could perfectly well have gone in NOW!

and he looks like a kicked puppy if I point that out. " OF COURSE there is room for three teaspoons and a plate....."

He's waiting for you to rearrange it

OP stop sleeping with my husband!

Mine loads it with clean stuff that doesn't need to be in there...a pot in which frozen peas have been boiled. No butter, salt or owt, just boiling water. That pot does not need to be in the dishwasher.

My DH has two extremes. If I set the dishwasher to run over night, DH leaves his last cup and plate in the sink and it misses the wash. Or. He puts the machine on to run overnight and sets it to start in 9 hours at midnight and then wonders why I didn't empty it when I got up for work at 7.

He thinks he does all the washing. He has no idea.

I do this, although it's not my lovely Mothers faul, but mine.
the sad and horrible truth is that... I forget to switch the dishwasher on. I get distracted and walk away, then when I wake up in the morning and go to empty it and reload it before work, I do

It really annoys me, but I just can't help it. Sometimes I am convinced that I have switched it on and even heard it running Maybe gremlins turn it off to fuck with us ?

I'm a bit worried about the number of people who seem to turn their dishwasher on last thing at night and leave it. I admit I used to do this - until a friend had a major fire caused by a dishwasher left turned on when they had all gone to bed.

I never run mine overnight. Just after dinner in the evening. It is finished by the time I go to bed.

I rarely bother unloading it until morning though, as I am usually too knackered.

I'll swap your DH for mine. Turns the dishwasher on ok.....but it is half full. Every. fucking.time.

We don't have a dishwasher but on the rare occasion that DH washes up he leaves the used water in the bowl with all the cutlery in the bottom and if anything isn't in a foot's radius of the sink it doesn't get done. Oh yeah, and the old dirty washing aimed vaguely in the direction of the washing bin, not in it. I've just got another washing basket to keep in the bathroom because he keeps leaving pants and towels on the floor, he still manages to miss the basket

My DH does this as well. If ever I divorce him in a blaze of drama and send him packing back the US, it'll be because of this. It drives me spare.