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AIBU?

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To be a bit put out by this?

46 replies

LeetleSad · 03/03/2015 11:22

Name changed as this could out me.

Yesterday was my 30th. I was taken out to the shard and then to fortnum and mason for posh ice cream. Yay!
Then I got home and found I had won tickets to a kids theatre show that is absolutely perfect for dd. All in all, a really great enjoyable birthday!!

Anyway, I was talking to my friend this morning about yesterday. She phoned and we were chatting about what I'd done for the day etc.
I mentioned the shard and before I could say how much I'd enjoyed it or anything at all she interuppted with 'but I told you it was not worth the money as I went when it opened but you went anyway! Why would you do that?' I was a bit taken aback really but basically responded 'because I wanted to go and DH bought me tickets as a gift as he knows I wanted to go. Have I upset you by going?' She kind of fobbed it off but she clearly was put out by this. Conversation continued. When I mentioned Fortnum&Mason and ice creams she said 'oooo veerrrryyy posh' in a bit sarcastic tone, I just continued talking.
I then said about the tickets. She was silent. I said 'are you still there?' And she said 'I can't believe you. You ignored me about the shard and went anyway when I tried to save you that money. You then gloat about going to f&m and wasting even more money and now your rubbing it in my face that you won't tickets to the show I wanted to take DS to! What kind of friend are you??'

I hung up.
Her DS turned one a few weeks back. He is somewhere around 18months to 2 years to young for this show. She has never ever mentioned it to me before.
Yes - when the shard opened and she visited she said she wasn't impressed. I didn't realise this was instructions that I am not allowed to visit myself!!

She called me back 3 times afterwards and I didn't answer. I've had a text now saying 'bit rude to hang up on me And then ignore my calls!!'

Yes I suppose ignoring someone's calls is rude but AIBU given all the above???

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LindyHemming · 03/03/2015 11:24

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LurkingHusband · 03/03/2015 11:25

Personally, one word in your story doesn't fit.

Friend.

Nationaltrusthandbook · 03/03/2015 11:26

omg how awful! What a selfish person.

Glad you had a lovely birthday OP. I know it's a very cliched obvious thing to say but she's clearly put out and jealous of you, doesn't make it any easier though Sad.

cashewnutty · 03/03/2015 11:27

She doesn't sound much like a friend to me. Rude beyond belief.

DextersMistress · 03/03/2015 11:27

Your friend is jealous. That's all Smile

asmallandnoisymonkey · 03/03/2015 11:28

Sorry but she sounds completely bonkers

DoJo · 03/03/2015 11:29

Is she usually like this? Does she have form for undermining your happiness?

HoggleHoggle · 03/03/2015 11:29

Drop her pronto. Hideous behaviour on her part.

Jackiebrambles · 03/03/2015 11:29

She sounds unhinged to be honest. Make your life easier and just don't bother responding!

Is she a very good friend??

FenellaFellorick · 03/03/2015 11:29

she sounds really jealous.

DeliciousMonster · 03/03/2015 11:30

I'd text back 'the word you are looking for there is 'sorry'. Sorry for being controlling, sorry for being sarcastic and sorry for being jealous. HTH'.

DamselNotInHerDress · 03/03/2015 11:32

She's a jealous mentalist!
At least you had a lovely birthday.
Ignore this crazy 'friend', she only wants to piss on your chips, possibly to drag you down to her level of what most other people were going through yesterday, ie a dreary grey Monday!
I'm jealous that you went to the shard - I went just before christmas and had a great time, not a waste of money at all.
This lady should be avoided forever more lest you EVER dare to have another nice day out that doesn't involve her!

takeitonthegin · 03/03/2015 11:33

Green with envy. Tell her you didn't answer because you had just discovered you had won the lottery.

EponasWildDaughter · 03/03/2015 11:33

Wow. Have you been 'friends' for long OP?

Jackie0 · 03/03/2015 11:35

Haha sad cow, positively seething with jealousy . good riddence op.

MrsBojingles · 03/03/2015 11:36

Yikes - great friend there Hmm

DontTurnAround · 03/03/2015 11:37

WTF?!?

Not a friend OP. Does she often behave like this? Think I'd be cutting her off permanantly

waithorse · 03/03/2015 11:40

She sounds very jealous, ditch the bitch. Happy Birthday for yesterday. Wine

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 03/03/2015 11:40

Wow, how to make your day all about her tastes and preferences. I don't know why she flipped out when it was your birthday and quite normal to chat about the day's events. I would ignore her calls too until hell freezes over she texts/turns up on your doorstep to apologise face to face.

crazypenguin · 03/03/2015 11:42

Ignore!! I had a friend get all stroppy with me because I managed to get a PPI refund. Apparently I was "gloating" when I was sharing the news. (Actually I was within a hairs breadth of losing my flat due to money troubles, but y'know, details... Hmm )

Tizwailor · 03/03/2015 11:43

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ImperialBlether · 03/03/2015 11:43

She sounds completely barmy. I would just text her back saying, "You think that's rude? You spent the entire phone call criticising my birthday treats."

SoonToBeMrsB · 03/03/2015 11:43

Frankly your "friend" sounds like a fucking arsehole.

I'm glad you had a fantastic birthday, it sounded brilliant so please don't let that spiteful bitch take the shine off it.

Quitelikely · 03/03/2015 11:50

'Friend, Just because you thought the Shard was a waste of money it does not mean you can have a go at me for going - I really enjoyed it. I'm sorry you feel upset that I won a competition and went for ice cream but they were both surprises. I did not realise this information would upset you so much otherwise I would not have mentioned it. I thought your attitude towards me during the phone call was unpleasant so I hung up'

SquidgyMaltLoaf · 03/03/2015 12:00

I think her response was entirely wrong but if this is out of character I'd be wondering what's wrong with her. It sounds like she's upset about something else and is taking it out on you so I'd probably ask her kindly what's wrong before I jumped down her throat.