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Re child has had a cold-like illness for 3 months

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insecurityissue · 02/03/2015 11:31

I don't know what to do.

My son has had cold like symptoms for 3 months. He is 8 months old and he is teething, but he seems to be getting worse and worse.

It started early December (the cold, not the teething, thats been going since he was 3 months old) and he was generally just snotty and coughing. I took him to the gp after 2 weeks, and was told it is viral. Over christmas, it persisted, he dribbled through at least 5 bibs a day.

I took back to gp mid January because he was getting a rash on his face and chest. GP said it was viral and would clear up. His face started to intermittently (sp?) burn up bright red and he was tugging his ears, rubbing his face on the floor, pram sides, cot and his eyes were producing greeny yellow gunk. I bathed the eyes and kept them clean, and all other symptoms, snot, coughing, snuffling, raspy breathing and rash were still present. I went back to the gp again early Feb with the eye and ear issues. He rolled off that it was all viral and teething problems and that is will go, but as I am "insistent that it must be bad and has been going on a while" (gp's words) he gave a course of antibiotics.

Finished those by mid Feb, but he is STILL poorly. He coughs and splutters with his milk, won't finish half his usual intake, isn't eating his solids and can't seem to sleep for more than half an hour before he is coughing, raspy breathing and wakes himself up. He is miserable most of the time, doesn't want comforting, playing with toys etc. He does have times when he seems to be feeling ok.

Friday evening, he started to refuse all fluids, and didn't sleep for more than 10 minute periods through to Saturday. I managed to keep up his fluid intake, offering him anything and everything constantly. I noticed in the hours of constant crying, that his tonsils are swollen, red and spotty.

Battling over the weekend, I called the gp surgery this morning and was told there are no bookable appointments for 10 days. So I called 111 for some general advice. They did an assessment and told me to call gp again, he needs to see or have a phone consultation within 2 hours. (Seemed a little ott, but I tried anyway) Gp receptionist said they have nothing, so I said about calling 111, but she said that being seen within 2 hours is what they always say. I called 111 again to say I had no luck, and was told to insist that I speak to a gp or nurse, and if I was unsuccessful, to just monitor baby and call 111 at half 6 and they will send me to ooh.

Needless to say, they refused to let me speak to the gp or nurse, and I just feel like he isn't terribly, life threateningly ill, but he isn't well and I want him to feel better. But I am getting nowhere, I know it is only a few hours until he gets to see ooh, but I feel so sorry for him.

He hasn't stopped gurgly-crying this morning, and keeps dropping off to sleep, before gasping awake and crying some more, wearing himself down, dropping off to sleep again... and repeat.

AIBU in thinking he needs to be dealt with, or does all this sound common to teething and viral illness? As a kid, my mother was constantly taking me to gp and hospital, and I remember often I felt fine. She just seemed to love the attention of having an ill child.

I am worried that I might be over-obsessing and being like her, but my gut tells me he needs to be seen, I am just scared that they will think I am like my mother. I know I am not completely imagining his poorly-ness as people are always commenting that they can't believe he is still unwell. If the ooh doctor says he is fine and it IS all viral and teething, I am going to feel utterly ridiculous.

Is there anything I could do at home to help him in the meantime?

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OohMrDarcy · 02/03/2015 11:37

If your gut says he needs to be seen, then get him seen

I've had two through the teething stage (now 5 / 8) and I've never had an illness go on 3 months! That seems insane to me... is it the same GP seen him each time? Do they know how long its been going on ?

Does he still have the eye issues etc? I'd probably take him to a walk in centre tbh if you can't get your GP to see him

WowOoo · 02/03/2015 11:37

Let him rest and sleep. That's the best thing for recovering and fighting illness. Give him some paracetamol for his sore throat. Or have you already?

I only go to the doctors when I've tried all the self help things I can and if I feel I need a second opinion. You know your son and you have to judge if he needs extra help and a professional opinion. So, if you are worried about him, just get him checked! Hope he gets better soon.

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/03/2015 11:37

No that's not right at all and I'm. Shock that no one will see you. He could well have a throat infection of some kind if his tonsils are spotty and swollen. Poor baby

insecurityissue · 02/03/2015 11:50

It is the same gp each time, he is the sole gp at our practise. I have never been through 3 month illness either, my daughter always appeared well.

I try to let him rest and sleep, I rock him, hold him and do all I can but after he falls into proper sleep, he starts spluttering and gasping and wakes up. I have been giving him calpol, and plenty of sips of water/weak squash.

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OohMrDarcy · 02/03/2015 11:52

I would be going to a walk in or something - a different GP sounds like a sensible move at this point

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/03/2015 11:52

It's also possible it's an allergy of some sort too if it's gone on this long.

But you need a prescription for Piriton of they re under a yr.

is there any walk in clinic within a 10 ime radius you can happen to he "just passing"

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/03/2015 11:53

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Eva50 · 02/03/2015 11:54

I can't believe the GP won't see a sick baby (It's not that I don't believe you - but it's really not good). I once phoned our surgery at lunchtime as ds3's childminder had phoned me at work to say she was worried about him and when I collected him he really wasn't well. Our surgery closes one Wednesday a month at 1pm, it just happened to be that particular day and it was almost one. The receptionist listened to me and asked me how soon I could get there.

As it turned out it was viral but the Dr said if he got worse overnight to phone OOH and if he wasn't any better on Friday to bring him in to see her at lunchtime as there were no appointments but she would see him then.

8 months is very little and he should be seen by someone today.

Stubbed · 02/03/2015 11:56

This is awful. I would insist on seeing the gp today. Even if ooh. Long term you need to register at a new practise.

cartoonsaveme · 02/03/2015 11:57

I'd defiantly be getting a second opinion. That's a long time for a normal healthy baby to be ill - unless you are living in awful conditions. Could be allergies or something. GPs can be too general at times and don't always stop and look at longevity

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/03/2015 11:57

fwiw I've had two children and I have friends with children too. none of them ever reported anything like this for teething. none of them. Red cheeks yes. irritable yes. stinky nappies and dribbling ues. off food sometimes yes. But no way on this planet is three Months of gasping and coughing and spotty tonsils and fluid refusal anything to do with teething.

SuperMoonIsKeepingMeUpToo · 02/03/2015 11:58

I thought allergy too. Definitely listen to your but instinct. Hope he's better soon.

insecurityissue · 02/03/2015 12:01

The nearest walk in is over 20 miles away and not easy to get to via public transport.

He has fallen asleep on his tummy on my lap, so hope he can nap for a bit.

Our gp is not very well thought of, but was the only one in our area that was taking on patients, and I have been trying for months to register elsewhere. When my daughter's eczema started to flare up, I had to wait 8 days for the earliest appointment and while he did give her a repeat for her creams, he told me it wasn't bad and I shouldn't have wasted an emergency appointment for it. I didn't though, I waited as I knew it wasn't urgent.

Thanks all for putting up with me, I am a bit sleep deprived so maybe I am just grumpy as well as worried.

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EstRusMum · 02/03/2015 12:07

Go to walk in centre. You need to see a different GP ASAP.
I also should say that it sounds like an allergy to me, at least that way is being described by other mums. I really have no personal experience with any allergy. Worth google'ing.

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/03/2015 12:09

Have you got a friend or neighbour who could take you.

I don't want to suggest a&e but I'm not sure how else you can see another Dr Who won't fob you off with teething Sad

ChairOfTheBored · 02/03/2015 12:10

Doesnt sound right to me, and I too might be back at the GP, if only to seek reassurance and rule something more serious out.

Mind, since DD started nursery in January I think we've had about 4 days where she's not been ill with something. Not the same illness, just cold after snot snivling throat hacking cold running into each other.

I console myself with thoughts of a boosted immune system (though is sod all comfort at 03:00 when you've got to actually function at work the following day...)

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/03/2015 12:10

start another thread maybe, in children's health asking for drs and nurses in the title?

Purplepoodle · 02/03/2015 12:15

Are u giving him ibuprofen too? If he has tonsillitis it's the only thing that will reduce the pain, paracetamol doesn't touched it. You can alternate calpol and ibuprofen for mac pain releif

Reekypear · 02/03/2015 12:15

Screaming allergies....start with cows milk.....switch it to goats, this made a huge difference to my kids.

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ChocolateBiscuitCake · 02/03/2015 12:41

My DS dribbled for the first two years...the dribbling will mean there is a lot of fluid going down the back of the throat which will be causing the rasping/coughing.

In a kind way, it doesn't sound like he is "ill" - the GP has repeatedly seen him and a sick child will have a fever or be a bit lifeless. Doctors shouldn't just prescribe antibiotics and as a mum of a child who sounds so like yours, some really do suffer with teething etc. the rash is probably from dribbling?

HOWEVER, ds also suffered terribly from silent reflux and diary allergy and once he was on a diary free formula (neocate - prescription only) and taking ranitadine & omeprazole, his symptoms improved dramatically. If your baby is weaned, then a diary free diet will be essential too.

But he still got every cold going as his pediatrician at the time assured me it would give him a brilliant immune system. Aged 2.5 he had his grade 4 tonsils (so large he couldn't eat and had sleep apnea) removed. Now, aged 5, he hasn't been ill for over a year!! And he returned to diary aged 18 months.

I sympathise - it feels relentless. Keep his cot elevated (books under one end), lots of fresh air walks in an elevated buggy position, dummy to suck to keep acid down, Vicks on feet with socks on top, Dr brown bottles, air purifier/humidifier in room all helped us a bit.

Can you see anyone privately?

Stubbed · 03/03/2015 10:14

How is your son today?

insecurityissue · 03/03/2015 11:02

Thank you everyone, we went to the walk in and were sent to the paediatric ward. He has a horrible infection in his throat and on his tonsils, which are apparently incredibly large. Kept in last night for observations and waiting for someone from ENT to come round and take a look to see if the tonsils need removing completely or just cauterising at the back where the dead flesh is.

He is still miserable, but slept a bit better last night with all the painkillers.

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MrsBojingles · 03/03/2015 11:31

Glad you got seen - thought it sounded like bad throat/tonsil infection to me. Hope he feels better soon!

QueenFuri · 03/03/2015 11:33

Your poor baby I hope he feels better soon. I would also make a complaint about your GP fobbing off a sick baby with teething is out of order, change surgeries too.

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