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Re child has had a cold-like illness for 3 months

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insecurityissue · 02/03/2015 11:31

I don't know what to do.

My son has had cold like symptoms for 3 months. He is 8 months old and he is teething, but he seems to be getting worse and worse.

It started early December (the cold, not the teething, thats been going since he was 3 months old) and he was generally just snotty and coughing. I took him to the gp after 2 weeks, and was told it is viral. Over christmas, it persisted, he dribbled through at least 5 bibs a day.

I took back to gp mid January because he was getting a rash on his face and chest. GP said it was viral and would clear up. His face started to intermittently (sp?) burn up bright red and he was tugging his ears, rubbing his face on the floor, pram sides, cot and his eyes were producing greeny yellow gunk. I bathed the eyes and kept them clean, and all other symptoms, snot, coughing, snuffling, raspy breathing and rash were still present. I went back to the gp again early Feb with the eye and ear issues. He rolled off that it was all viral and teething problems and that is will go, but as I am "insistent that it must be bad and has been going on a while" (gp's words) he gave a course of antibiotics.

Finished those by mid Feb, but he is STILL poorly. He coughs and splutters with his milk, won't finish half his usual intake, isn't eating his solids and can't seem to sleep for more than half an hour before he is coughing, raspy breathing and wakes himself up. He is miserable most of the time, doesn't want comforting, playing with toys etc. He does have times when he seems to be feeling ok.

Friday evening, he started to refuse all fluids, and didn't sleep for more than 10 minute periods through to Saturday. I managed to keep up his fluid intake, offering him anything and everything constantly. I noticed in the hours of constant crying, that his tonsils are swollen, red and spotty.

Battling over the weekend, I called the gp surgery this morning and was told there are no bookable appointments for 10 days. So I called 111 for some general advice. They did an assessment and told me to call gp again, he needs to see or have a phone consultation within 2 hours. (Seemed a little ott, but I tried anyway) Gp receptionist said they have nothing, so I said about calling 111, but she said that being seen within 2 hours is what they always say. I called 111 again to say I had no luck, and was told to insist that I speak to a gp or nurse, and if I was unsuccessful, to just monitor baby and call 111 at half 6 and they will send me to ooh.

Needless to say, they refused to let me speak to the gp or nurse, and I just feel like he isn't terribly, life threateningly ill, but he isn't well and I want him to feel better. But I am getting nowhere, I know it is only a few hours until he gets to see ooh, but I feel so sorry for him.

He hasn't stopped gurgly-crying this morning, and keeps dropping off to sleep, before gasping awake and crying some more, wearing himself down, dropping off to sleep again... and repeat.

AIBU in thinking he needs to be dealt with, or does all this sound common to teething and viral illness? As a kid, my mother was constantly taking me to gp and hospital, and I remember often I felt fine. She just seemed to love the attention of having an ill child.

I am worried that I might be over-obsessing and being like her, but my gut tells me he needs to be seen, I am just scared that they will think I am like my mother. I know I am not completely imagining his poorly-ness as people are always commenting that they can't believe he is still unwell. If the ooh doctor says he is fine and it IS all viral and teething, I am going to feel utterly ridiculous.

Is there anything I could do at home to help him in the meantime?

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Gileswithachainsaw · 03/03/2015 11:48

Oh your poor ds. Thank god he's finally being treated.

I hope you can find the strength to complain when ds is home and feeling better.

wishing him.a speedy recovery Flowers

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chocciechip · 03/03/2015 12:42

I'm so glad someone is taking you seriously and hope your DS gets better soon. That's a long time for him to be unwell. Please make a complaint.

cartoonsaveme · 03/03/2015 14:02

I too am glad you are now getting the correct treatment. Poor thing must have been miserable ?? Some GPs are guilty of this - we have one in our surgery so I refuse an apt if I am offered him and wait for the good GPs!

SweetValentine · 03/03/2015 14:26

Speak to PALS and put a complaint in about your GP practice. They were being completely unreasonable Angry

If they're that busy they need a part time doctor. I was under the impression that they had to see a poorly child?

So glad you are getting it sorted at last Flowers

Stubbed · 03/03/2015 20:18

Glad you got seen. Poor little thing. Your Dr is rubbish. Mine would always see me on the day, no matter when I rang - he will see patients after clinic closes.

sunshine7981 · 03/03/2015 20:30

Poor you I would certainly complain about this gp. Did you say they are the only gp in the practice? If so this sounds awful, surely a good practice needs more than one gp? I hope you can find an alternative.

BlinkAndMiss · 03/03/2015 20:31

Oh your poor baby, and poor you. Your instinct is always right, my DS is ill with his throat at least once a month and my GP tells me it's viral. I'm considering changing GP because I don't feel that they are taking me seriously at all. You should put in a complaint about the GP and move surgeries as soon as you can, even if it is a further distance away. You'll probably find that if your DS is treated properly in the first place by the GP then you won't need to visit the GP as often anyway and distance won't be too much of an issue.

I'm glad your DS is on the mend, it's so typical that everything is blamed on teething when really it doesn't cause that much of a problem. I hope you both recover quickly.

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