Just been sterilised...AIBU or should hubby do more?

[crabbiepattie]

I came home, DM had pucked the kids up from school, looked after them, fed them, tidied the house, made tea. Amazing!! She is amazing!!

DH has looked after kids...let me have a lie in and brought me 1 cup of tea in bed...

House is now a tip again...ive tried tidying but my tummy gets sore and painful. So Im sat on the sofa with a hot water bottle. Im day 3 post op BTW.
Kids are bored. Dont know whats going on in the kitchen.
Ive stripped beds annhoovered this morning and nowt was said about me taking it easy or him doing it instead. Just "what are you doing?!" Then he had a go at me for saying it needed doing in an angry way!!

AIBU??? I just want a cup of tea and some toast and to be told to rest up!!!

Johnfarleyruskin it's not really a 'major op' nowadays, assuming the OP had the standard procedure.
Having said that, no one should feel pressurised into any form of sexual activity.

He sounds like he could be more considerate, and you sound like you could be less of a martyr.

3 days post op, you've stripped the bed, hoovered and given your husband a wank.

None of those things were necessary.

Now if there is a job that is really necessary, tell him about it and ask him to do it.

Sorry OP but you do sound a bit martyr ish. Stay in bed and ask for food and cups of tea. There is absolutely no way that you can convince me that u needed to strip beds and vacuum! Really? I totally agree that u shouldn't be doing anything, but u have, therefore your OH presumes you are ok! So, stay in bed xxxxx (please!)

I just told him I was coming up to lay on the bed because my tummy was sore nd he huffed. I think in his head, im over dramatising things. Maybe I am, I dont know, but him huffing again when I asked him to clear the bed of laundry baskets kindve pissed me off. i cba arguing. Just taken two co codamols.
Dont know what hea expecting of me atm, but I at least thought there would be a bit more TLC than being left alone to sort myself out.

Ok I will rephrase:
You're recuperating from an op two days ago, you're in pain and you really wanted to give your dh a hand job?

Hes cooked dinner today.
I didnt really want to give him one, but did to shut him up.

Yout h sounds like an arse! I would be ripping him one op, I bet he would change his tune if he had an operation on his man bits. My dh had a circumcision recently, and was in pain for a month , wound did get infected though. I would not tolarate his behaviour.

Can't the children Hoover and strip beds?

JenniferG yes he pays all bills whilst im doing ITT. Does 50%childcare, all the laundry (except putting it away!) and occasionally empties/fills dishwasher!!

Hes just bathing thr kids and puttin them to bed. I really cant failt him as a father. Hes just a bit thoughtless as a husband sometimes.

Wow. I wouldn't pressure my wife into any kind of sexual activity if she just had a cold. Or was tired. Or just didn't want to. Or for any reason. Never mind three days post-op. I can't imagine how lying there while an unwilling, in pain, pissed off wife tugs away can have been enjoyable for anyone.

If you are in a lot of pain still and there is pus coming from the wound, you may have an infection and you need to see a dr.

Fuck the housework: there should not be pus coming out of the wound. You need to get yourself checked out.

Ill go see the dr in the am.

Thanks for all the replies x

How are you doing this morning Crabbie?