to take my friend's dd shopping to buy her mum a mother's day gift?

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Friend is a single mum of 3 children (2, 6 and 9). Her ex is rubbish (and that's being very polite ) There are no grandparents involved either. Her oldest is in my DD's class and is worrying about mother's day. She's made a necklace and a card but dd says she really wants to get her mum some chocolates as she thinks she deserves something nice as she works very hard and always gives the nice stuff to them. (both true)

Would it be unreasonable to invite friends dd for a playdate before mothers day, give her £10 and take her to the shops to choose her mum something?

I agree its the wrong approach.

Its far nicer to give the wee girl a lovely surprise like this than to make her earn the money.

My mum reacted very badly when someone did something similar. A close friend gave me the money for a cup for her that I thought she'd love. I've never understood why she was so angry. I think if I'd done a chore for the money she would have been happier. Personally I think it's a lovely plan.

I think it's a lovely idea and would do it without a moment's hesitation but I would ask the girl to 'share' the present with her siblings so they don't feel left out of it.