to consider flouncing off to a hotel by myself for a week or two?

[Mintyy]

Massive row with dh last night/this morning. Usual issues.

Long day at work, boss grumpy cunt, nightmare drive home. Get home at least half an hour later than usual. Dh is working tonight so as soon as I get home I have to start making dinner.

Child 1 (age 11) is downstairs when I get in and we exchange a few pleasantries about his day.

Child 2 (age 14) is upstairs in her room. I call up hello but get no reply (not unusual because she has those big earphones on her i-pod and listens to music while reading/doing homework).

Cook dinner, serve it up about 45 minutes later. Child 2 finally appears, not in the least concerned that she hasn't seen me/doesn't actually know that I'm home.

I deliberately see what will happen if I make no effort at conversation ... and neither of them says a single word! they just silently stuff baked salmon and egg fried rice with peas down themselves until dd announces that she'd like ice cream for pudding.

Feeling.taken.for.granted.is.a.fucking.understatement!

I have got a lot of money saved up in my personal account and could go away for a week to a hotel without even feeling a blip.

Should I? Just to show em??

Maybe a night or two. @):-

Aww you'd miss 'em after 2 days.

Definitely go though.

My mother used to say she was going to resign and see how we all liked it

YA probably BU, but I really do sympathise.

YANBU book it tonight & make sure it's a proper swanky hotel, don't just camp out at the premier inn round the corner!

Without a doubt at least a couple of nights....

Enjoy

Definitely go for it! You deserve a break plus they won't know how much you do for them when you keep on doing it. This will open their eyes ..

Can I come? I'll be quiet I promise.

But you are their mummy.... you are supposed to cook them their dinner! DS8 often ignores me (watching tv whilst eating - major error on my part but only one DC).

They would miss you if you went away. What's DH done?

What's dh done??

Not cooked their dinner often enough for a start!

Can i come?

OK! Here DH never cooks dinner as he's always at work. I don't work.
Every family is different.

Perhaps go to the hotel...! Make it one with a spa.

Well my dh is at home a lot right now so, no, I do not consider it my duty to cook because I am their Mummy.

They are actually both old enough to be able to cook a decent meal for themselves. Have you seen the ages of the contestants on Junior Master Chef?

Absolutely Op....

When are you going? I wouldn't even hesitate

Ummm.... so if DH is home a lot right now, and the children are able to cook a decent meal themselves.... why didn't you get home late from work to find your dinner ready for you...

I'll join you.

take me with you, pleeeeease...

yes. go. book yourself somewhere nice. with a pool. relax.

Because dh is at work and has been since 9am, he will get home at about 2 tomorrow morning. And because we haven't trained the children to cook actual meals. Doesn't mean they can't appreciate me for what I do, and unplug themselves and come down to say hello before food magically appears on plates. And then speak to me when they are eating it.

OBVIOUSLY.

Can I come??

LTUF leave the ungrateful feckers

I dream one day I will have enough of a cash stash to do this. Until that day I will regularly down tools and glue on my giant headphones and take to the bed with my laptop. the feckers here never notice

A long weekend in a hotel with room service, and text them selfies from your bed while drinking champagne

I pretty much consider this every week. Only want a night or two but think about it loads! Shall we all try and co-ordinate flounces!

Oh yes! A flouncing mothers meetup would be fun .

Funny, i have been thinking of doing the same. Sadly, or perhaps luckily i cant afford it.....

Mintyy! I'll come with you for deffo. YADNBU.

The last time I told DP I wanted to do this, he booked me a night in a lovely hotel himself.
The fuckers had a fabulous time with out me.