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to be ashamed this person is my friend?

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Mascarocharl · 26/02/2015 16:49

So I was at a friends house last night when a trailer for 50 Shades came on.

She commented "Oh my God that is such a good film"
Me Hmm "I thought it was terrible"

Disclaimer yes I've seen it, thankfully using Orange Wednesdays so it was really cheap and it was not my first choice of film and I've never read the books and never will.

I don't care if anyone reads the books or sees the film, the problem i have is that she was actually gushing about the film.

The soundtrack was amazing and fitted it so well. The acting was so good.

Theres a part in the film where she goes to visit her mother to have a break (4 hour flight) and he doesn't like she only told him the night before that she was going and then he turns up to "surprise her"

I said that it was so controlling and I would feel suffocated if that happened to me.

My friend replied - Yeah but you haven't read the books so thats why you think that, and well he is messed up because of what hes been through.

Obviously i'm being lighthearted but I just couldn't believe someone could gush about 50 Shades as if they'd just seen the most thought provoking documentary.

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kitchentableagain · 26/02/2015 16:53

I've read the books. He is MONSTROUS. As in run the fuck away.

But to a lot of people it's just fantasy and we're all so used to madonna/whore and men controlling women who are property that a lot of people don't see the problem.

NamesNick · 26/02/2015 16:53

went to see it on saturday with dp.

walked out half way through.

absolute dross

NamesNick · 26/02/2015 16:55

but if you are truly friends then you shouldn't be ashamed.

she likes it. it shouldn't change your opinion of a true friend

so yabu to be ashamed, yanbu to dislike the film

pilates · 26/02/2015 16:55

YABU

Ashamed seems a bit of a strong word to use, friends are entitled to have different opinions from you Confused

RatMort · 26/02/2015 16:57

There are people who think Forrest Gump is a good film. There are people who cried at Titanic while the rest of us were hoping the bloody ship would hurry up and sink because we'd been there hours watching Leonardo Potatoface gurning and wanted the loo. There are people who think The DaVinci Code is a perfectly nice read during their commute.

The world is full of maniacs.

nevergooglebrandybutter · 26/02/2015 16:58

My friend loved the books, I tried and thought it was dreadful.

I've put it down to english not being her first language and so maybe it was easy to read of something. Like Janet and John tie each other up or something.

Anyway, not ashamed, I am not friends with my friend because of her taste in books and film. Good job too.

Mousefinkle · 26/02/2015 17:02

No comments to make about 50 shades because I've never read the books or seen the film and have absolutely no desire to either. Just wanted to pipe up with agreement about Titanic, one of the worst films I've ever seen Grin.

maz210 · 26/02/2015 17:02

I love Forrest Gump, don't mind Titanic and also enjoyed the DaVinci Code (the book anyway, film didn't really catch my interest).

I hated 50 shades of grey (the book, no way would I bother seeing the film!) - I think it was just hyped up so much that some people think they have to like it.

Tizwailor · 26/02/2015 17:02

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maz210 · 26/02/2015 17:03

Mousefinkle - have you ever seen Meet Joe Black? I still can't believe someone actually recommended that film to me, I think they must secretly hate me. Not even Brad Pitt could make that film worth watching.

rookiemere · 26/02/2015 17:06

YABU to be ashamed of your friend. Seriously it's just a film ( which I haven't seen) and a crappy book.

If you knew what the subject matter was going to be, why did you bother going to see it ? Being cheap and not your first choice doesn't mean you aren't effectively bolstering the profits for something that you dislike.

farewellfigure · 26/02/2015 17:06

I thought it was entertaining enough [hides under desk]

I haven't read the books because I didn't want to put myself through the pain of the bad writing. But I went to see the film with a group of friends, and we had a right giggle as did everyone else in the cinema. It was laugh out loud funny. I guess we weren't taking it terribly seriously.

The acting was pretty dreadful. And as for the script, well that was shocking too. And the dialogue for that matter. OK YANBU. Dump your gushy weird friend at the earliest opportunity.

Smarterthantheaveragebeaver · 26/02/2015 17:09

I remember going to see that one Maz. I had no clue what it was meant to be about, and no desire to find out.

Also one with Warren Beatty that was really hyped as marvellous, etc but was absolute shite. Dick Tracy, I think. Madonna was in it also. I actually walked out and asked for my money back.

WorraLiberty · 26/02/2015 17:15

Disclaimer yes I've seen it, thankfully using Orange Wednesdays so it was really cheap and it was not my first choice of film and I've never read the books and never will.

I'm loving all these disclaimers Grin

I wish someone had kept a record of them so MNHQ could have compiled a book of howlers!

Basically you watched the film because that was what you wanted to do.

No need for the justification.

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Mascarocharl · 26/02/2015 17:16

Lighthearted

Do I really need to say that again?

Like I ALREADY said, no problem watching or liking the film or books but to go on like you think its one of the cinematic greats is rather odd.

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Charlie97 · 26/02/2015 17:17

Yabu I would drop you like a hot potato as a friend, if because we didn't like the same taste in films you were ashamed of me.

Beating my child, drink driving, mugging old people maybe be ashamed.

You sound terri my sanctimonious.

CelibacyCakeAndElevatorMuzac · 26/02/2015 17:18

Meet Joe Black was one of my all-time favourite films. It came out when I was about 16 and it blew me away, so powerful and emotional and so, so,.deep. I watched it about 50 times, I had the soundtrack. I cried every time when Death gives her back the man who's body he took.

I tried to watch it a year ago. I got half way through and was so shocked at how bad it is.

I'm distraught. I dare not rewatch Fried Green Tomatoes as that was my second favourite as a teen

Not seen 50SOG because it IS shite. I don't care what anybody says.

Titanic was embarrassingly bad, I was a.teen when that was released and it just bored me.

CelibacyCakeAndElevatorMuzac · 26/02/2015 17:20

OP, anyone who can't work out this is lighthearted, even with numerous big signposts saying "lighthearted" really needs to have a word with themselves Grin

mytartanscarf · 26/02/2015 17:21

It was just boring!

But - I did rather like the soundtrack Blush

A lot of people do genuinely think it's lovely and romantic though!

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Mascarocharl · 26/02/2015 17:21

Yabu I would drop you like a hot potato as a friend, if because we didn't like the same taste in films you were ashamed of me.

Beating my child, drink driving, mugging old people maybe be ashamed.

That deserves a double face palm.

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Charlie97 · 26/02/2015 17:24

Doh! I'm on strong painkillers post op, that's my excuse! Shock

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Mascarocharl · 26/02/2015 17:25

I bloody love Twilight and the soundtrack - would I gush about what an amazing film it was? Hell no.

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CelibacyCakeAndElevatorMuzac · 26/02/2015 17:27
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Mascarocharl · 26/02/2015 17:29

Doh! I'm on strong painkillers post op, that's my excuse!

It's fine, I'm about to leave this thread and go visit my friend Mr C Manson anyway.

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TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 26/02/2015 17:29

PMSL at Like Janet and John tie each other up or something

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