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AIBU?

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AIBU to NOT want my friend to send me pictures of their child?

30 replies

MkDaddy · 25/02/2015 18:15

A friend of mine found out that they were expecting their 1st child, which of course is delightful news indeed however I have become totally sick of them constantly bombarding me with endless pictures.

First it started with pictures of the bump, with every message she sent there was pictures of the bump, videos of the bump. At first this was ok, after all I totally get the excitement of it all as my partner and I were also expecting too (and it was my 1st child so naturally ecstatic about it!!) but then it became absolutely relentless. I had tactfully asked her to stop posting so many pictures of herself but instead it got worse. Then her child arrived and it went into overdrive!!! CONSTANT pictures flooding my phone, it was getting to the point where I had more pictures than of my own little one and rather than being asked how I was, what I was up to etc etc it was just baby videos and photos and it got to the point where I just couldn't hack it anymore!!!

Now I realise that some will probably think that I'm being overly harsh on a new and obviously excited mother, but to clarify also being a new parent I understand the excitement and the want to share that. Things is we're not exactly very close friends or related and frankly having their child rammed down my throat seems odd behaviour. When I have politely asked them to stop sending me as many pictures and videos they have totally ignored me and it's gotten to the point where I have had to be blunt and flat out tell them to stop messaging me. They had said they're a proud parent and weren't going to apologise for that, but I feel there is a difference between being a proud parent and one who constantly shoves their child into your face against your will.

I'm sure this will draw many critics but what are peoples thoughts here?

OP posts:
InteriorsMum · 25/02/2015 18:18

What do you think would happen if you started doing the same to them? Do you think she would "get it" then? Yanbu would drive me mad too!

FourEyesGood · 25/02/2015 18:18

Are they direct to your phone or on Facebook? I think that makes a difference, although I'm not entirely sure why.

alwayslookingforsomething · 25/02/2015 18:19

Facebook? Why don't you unfollow?

Cariad007 · 25/02/2015 18:20

Is she actually sending you the photos or just posting them on social media? If it's the former then no YANBU but if it's the latter then yes YABU as there's always the option to mute her feed.

FourEyesGood · 25/02/2015 18:20

I like InteriorsMum's idea, but send pics and news about your DP instead of your DC. Grin

KingJoffreyObviouslyWatchesHol · 25/02/2015 18:30

Buy a new plant.

Send her daily pictures of it's development.

MkDaddy · 25/02/2015 18:30

It's directly to me. I hid her fb timeline a looooong time ago!! I've no issue with that sort of thing on fb because I don't have to see it if I wish. When it's directly to me though......

Interiorsmum - I am really quite conscious of the fact that I don't wanna be like them to anyone!!! Besides with them it just wouldn't sink in at all, they'd probably love it.

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WayfaringStranger · 25/02/2015 18:34

Directly to you? That is irritating beyond belief.

Cariad007 · 25/02/2015 18:35

In that case OP you are DNBU. What sort of entitled person says "I'm a proud parent" and continues to bombard a friend with photos when they've specifically asked them not to?

Perhaps you should bombard them with photos of your DH's penis and when they ask you to stop say "but I'm a proud wife"!!

gamerchick · 25/02/2015 18:37

Maybe it's time for a taste of her own medicine as been suggested Grin random photos X times a day flooding her phone.

She might not get the message but it might be amusing.

MkDaddy · 25/02/2015 18:41

Btw if you didn't guess it from my name I'm not female Cariad007, though I guess I could send vaginas 24/7 haha.

OP posts:
YogaCake · 25/02/2015 18:48

My friend did this, DAILY emails via something called 23snaps. Cute for about a week then I had to unsubscribe. YANBU at all!

SelfconfessedSpoonyFucker · 25/02/2015 18:57

Tell her you are going on a new diet and then proceed to send her pictures of every single last thing you eat or drink even if it is a glass of water. If she complains tell her that you are proud of your new willpower and will not apologise for it and as your friend she should be happy for you. Will work even better if your new diet is eating whatever you want including junk.

Cariad007 · 25/02/2015 19:37

Haha, no I hadn't noticed but just because you're male doesn't mean you couldn't have a DH!

PragmaticWench · 25/02/2015 19:41

DH has some friends who once emailed a video montage of pictures of their pfb with the title 'The Golden Boy'.

They were not being ironic apparently.

corgiology · 25/02/2015 19:41

Problem with retaliating is that she may just think oh great and then join in sending pics of dinner/plants etc AS WELL as the baby ones!

PrettyFeet · 25/02/2015 19:42

Very annoying indeed.

Do all of the above Grin

Koalafications · 25/02/2015 19:43

YANBU, that is bloody tiresome.

Dizzbomb · 25/02/2015 19:45

God no YANBU that sounds weirdly suffocating.

LMGTFY · 25/02/2015 19:51

Perhaps take a leaf from this guy's book: www.sliptalk.com/telemarketer/
It would drive me insane too!

Xenadog · 25/02/2015 19:56

I would just delete the pictures and not reply. A few days (weeks?) of this and she should get the hint. Alternatively text her back that you are sick of looking at her boring photos and can she stop sending them. You might find you ever get a photo or message again!

Totality22 · 25/02/2015 20:00

It's probably not at all politically correct but knowing OP is a bloke makes me think this behaviour is even more "odd"

(not in a "think of the children" / pervert kind of way but more in a men aren't as maternal as women so a bloke is even less likely to care about some random's kid!)

How do you know this friend OP? What does your partner make of it?

Totality22 · 25/02/2015 20:01

You could take some nappy pictures? Daily shit updates for your mate Grin

Peony58890 · 25/02/2015 20:13

I think there's a lot of milage in this. For every photo she sends you, reply with a mundane random photo which relates to what you are doing at the exact time you receive the baby image. It could be a photo of a spider in the corner of your shed where the spades are kept, or a close up of the beans you are eating, or a photo of a misshaped toenail clipping, or the till lady scanning some bananas in Tescos.

InteriorsMum · 26/02/2015 22:38

Love that Peony!

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