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AIBU to NOT want my friend to send me pictures of their child?

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MkDaddy · 25/02/2015 18:15

A friend of mine found out that they were expecting their 1st child, which of course is delightful news indeed however I have become totally sick of them constantly bombarding me with endless pictures.

First it started with pictures of the bump, with every message she sent there was pictures of the bump, videos of the bump. At first this was ok, after all I totally get the excitement of it all as my partner and I were also expecting too (and it was my 1st child so naturally ecstatic about it!!) but then it became absolutely relentless. I had tactfully asked her to stop posting so many pictures of herself but instead it got worse. Then her child arrived and it went into overdrive!!! CONSTANT pictures flooding my phone, it was getting to the point where I had more pictures than of my own little one and rather than being asked how I was, what I was up to etc etc it was just baby videos and photos and it got to the point where I just couldn't hack it anymore!!!

Now I realise that some will probably think that I'm being overly harsh on a new and obviously excited mother, but to clarify also being a new parent I understand the excitement and the want to share that. Things is we're not exactly very close friends or related and frankly having their child rammed down my throat seems odd behaviour. When I have politely asked them to stop sending me as many pictures and videos they have totally ignored me and it's gotten to the point where I have had to be blunt and flat out tell them to stop messaging me. They had said they're a proud parent and weren't going to apologise for that, but I feel there is a difference between being a proud parent and one who constantly shoves their child into your face against your will.

I'm sure this will draw many critics but what are peoples thoughts here?

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MkDaddy · 27/02/2015 08:46

Totality - They are someone I used to work with, I used to spend some time with them and their partner (also a former colleague) outside of work but this got less and less over time once I met my other half, family life being busy as it is. My OH also finds this behaviour very strange, they don't get along anyway after a difference of opinion over something though this never affected my friendship with this person as their argument had nothing to do with me.

Update - after confronting the person about this we are no longer friends. Apparently I am being unreasonable in saying that I found this a problem, and to be honest it's a relief. Now my phone is nice and quiet!! As they live near us it's maybe awkward when we see them at baby group, local shops etc but I'm certainly glad that I'm not alone in thinking this was weird!!!

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Ijustworemytrenchcoat · 27/02/2015 10:34

Haha as if you were the unreasonable one. I would honestly be glad to not be friends with this weirdo.

Nobody is that interested in somebody else's child! I am obsessed with my own, and have thousands of images of him, but I realise nobody else (except maybe grandparents) card about the minutiae of his life so I keep them to myself. Once in a blue moon I might sent a pic to a friend when I email them but I'm talking once a year, twice max.

I have a family member who gives a framed photo or photo block of their child every birthday and Christmas. Nog sure what I am meant to do with them all. I would prefer the odd u framed picture to stick in an album. I deliberately lost the key ring. Why they thought People would want a photo of someone else's child on asked ring I have no idea.

OhNoNotPooAgain · 27/02/2015 17:30

I had a friend who did this with pictures of her cat. So so annoying.

jay55 · 27/02/2015 17:39

Set up a folder to direct it all to or mark as spam.

Lepaskilf · 27/02/2015 19:25

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