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DH just referred to me as "an attractive lady"

166 replies

EddieStobbart · 24/02/2015 21:34

This was his response to my whinge observation that he never pays me a compliment (after being freaked by someone commenting that pictures of my younger self look like a completely different person).

AIBU to think is this a bit weird and creepy? And def NOT a stealth boast...

OP posts:
ReallyBadParty · 25/02/2015 21:51

DH has just told me that I'm extraordinary, certainly not ordinary.....??....

SummerHouse · 25/02/2015 22:12

A friend of mine once said I look like Gail Platt and ET's love child.

Sorry, obviously a stealth boast post.

Mrsjayy · 25/02/2015 22:52

20 year old indian girl yeah im sure the resemblance to Alan Rickman is uncanny Grin

JollyFrog · 25/02/2015 23:07

I was moaning I was fat. DH pointed out that he had only made me fat 3 times (3 pregnancies) and the rest of the time I'd Done it myself. Gee thanks Hmm

LineRunner · 26/02/2015 00:30

Just to report in that under-the-viaduct man has had a shave.

Loving Alan fucking Rickman. Smile

Sandbrook · 26/02/2015 01:49

My X came home from a boys night out to tell me his pal said I was ugly.
I asked him what he reply was and he said he said nothing, pal was entitled to his opinion ??

OnHerMajestysSecretCervix · 26/02/2015 02:12

I got a great one at the weekend:

'You're weird, a bit of a twat, you annoy the fuck out of me sometimes and I love the ever-living shit out of you'

Highest compliment he has ever paid a girlfriend apparently.

Made me grin like a twat Grin

AimlesslyPurposeful · 26/02/2015 02:44

I was telling an Aunt about my new neighbour who looks just like gorgeous Kim Sears. I said I felt just like a donkey in the stable next to a racehorse and that I feel "short, fat and ugly everytime I see her."

"Oh, you're not fat!" She said, cheering me up no end. Hmm

Flambola · 26/02/2015 03:27

Aw, my DH tells me I'm gorgeous all the time.

It's cos he thinks im way out of his league, needs to keep me sweet.

Although he did say my skin was like korma.

XLIX · 26/02/2015 03:37

I made a special effort for dinner out a few weeks back, hair in fetching side plait, slap on..I sidled up to Dh...He gazed at me in what I thought was adoration...which was apparently wonder..DH gazed into my eyes " WOW! Make up really does work, honey! ".....

HarimadSol · 26/02/2015 04:43

Me: It was nice of your aunt to say I looked thinner than before I was pregnant.

DH: Yes, well, she's known for flattering.

Me: Hmm

Grin
CheerfulYank · 26/02/2015 05:04

I am dying at these. :o

whatisforteamum · 26/02/2015 07:54

Brilliant thread at least we know we are not alone with our backhanded insults :)

KatieScarlettreregged · 26/02/2015 08:29

Alan Rickman Grin
Who does he think Alan Rickman is?
Too funny Grin

BallsforEarrings · 26/02/2015 08:41

My DH used to do this sort of thing all the time. I do recall he once said (when we were off out and I'd made huge effort) 'I have to admit you look very nice'

Wtf was 'have to admit' about! He was actually notorious for putting his foot in it at the time, my friends thought he did it deliberately it happened so often!

He once said 'I'm just happy to settle down with someone average now!'

I had just had a couple of VERY complimentary boyfriends before that who had acted like I was beautiful so I was rather underwhelmed to now be 'average settling down material' to say the least!

Mind you he never drops clangers now and I accidently referred to him as 'a funny shape' a week or two ago and he keeps bringing it up - I don't know why I said it now, it just popped out in conversation! Blush He keeps saying things like 'Well what do I know, I am a funny shape!'

Trills · 26/02/2015 08:47

I think he learned it early on and repeats it randomly

Shodan I rather like that :o

LollyLondon · 26/02/2015 08:59

The first thing DH said to me after I walked up the aisle was "I like your dress". Wow, the enthusiasm bowled me over.
I thought I looked flipping amazing!

VeronicaCaCa · 26/02/2015 09:06

Alan Rickman Grin

chrome100 · 26/02/2015 09:21

DP and I went on a bike ride for Valentine's Day. We stopped for a breather at the top of a hill and he gazed at me with what, at the time, I erroneously thought was adoration. After a pause he said, "you've got snot on your eyebrow".

MumToFourCats · 26/02/2015 09:28

My OH will say "omg you have beautiful eyes" and then say "nice moustache" or flick a long hair on my chin (that wasn't there 30 seconds ago) Hmm

An ex told me I had sturdy legs.

Another ex told me "you are beautiful - to me" and like a pp it was the pause between beautiful and "to me" that changed the remark.

My dad said to me on my wedding day "are you going to get ready soon?" I was wearing the wedding dress, veil and had my bouquet in my hand! No idea what he thought I would change into! Yes dad, I always wear this on a Saturday Hmm

GoodbyeToAllOfThat · 26/02/2015 10:03

'You're weird, a bit of a twat, you annoy the fuck out of me sometimes and I love the ever-living shit out of you'

So cute. :-)

An "attractive lady". You must have been so chuffed. It sounds like a clumsy, searching for something to say comment.

Withershins · 26/02/2015 10:06

A guy once asked me out by saying that he found me "reasonably attractive", his actual bloody words, funnily enough I didn't take him up on his offer.

My husband did once refer to the new dress I was modelling for him as "you look nice and airy" Shock haven't let him live that one down yet.

My mother refers to one of the weather guys on the TV as "the one with the unfortunate face", which just cracks me up.

StayGoldPonyBoy · 26/02/2015 10:14

Trying on new dresses in the changing rooms and was coming out to show DH each one

'Yeah that one does make you look fat, I mean, you're not, but you do look it' Hmm

The attendant in there looked at me, expecting me to go mad. I liked the honesty!Grin

HellKitty · 26/02/2015 10:17

I get,
'see I still love you without all your make-up'.
'I bet you were a looker in your day'
'I wouldn't mind a bit of that like -honk honk' (on my tits)
But I know he loves me and thinks I'm out of his league Grin

I was once stopped by a woman who used to work with my mum, 'oh you're xxx's daughter, she's a handsome woman'. Handsome? That's not good right?!

holypants · 26/02/2015 10:42

A council rat exterminator - a man who spends his days looking at bloated rodent corpses - recently said to me, "are you all right? You look a bit ill." I wasn't ill, but felt I should feign illness because the alternative - that I looked like week-old road kill - was too awkward.