to be shoched that dd 15 is reading 50 shades!

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and i think dd 17 has also read it the comments she was making. i know i have been on threads here where people have tried to ban their dd d=reading this and i agreed with the majority that banning is not sensible. i wouldnt read it myself

to be honest, given the hype and the medias faux-OMG treatment of it, plus my memories of being that age, I would be amazed if a 15yo hadn't read it . Even if your regime at home is watertight (bag searches, no doors etc ) it only takes one person at school with an older brother or more liberal parents ...

Personally I wouldn't be worried - it's an early introduction to how hype works. Might act as an innoculation against Next Years Big Thing.

YABU. I was reading James Herbert and Stephen King at 11! They're FILTHY. Not to mention terrifying.

I'd read loads of shitty Jackie Collins stuff by that age. Put me off sex for a long time, lol.

I wouldn't be shocked. Its only natural that they would want to read it when there is so much hype about it.

I remember my friend in school was banned from reading Angela's Ashes by her mum, so she read a chapter of her mums copy every time her mum went out.

I don't think she would have been arsed about reading it if her mum hadn't banned it. :o It wasn't even that bad.

I was reading adult books (adult as in grown up, not erotica!) in my mid teens. Sex and violence were in a lot of the plots. Nothing to worry about IMO.

Oh yes, normal I think. In my day it was Forever by Judy Blume, then James Herbert and Jilly Cooper. Still think Rupert Campbell-Black is the sexiest fictitious man in history. And IMO those books are much ruder than 50 shades of shite.

i was reading all sorts of filth myself i remember, Jsames Herbert and bits of other books that my dad had, took a sneaky peek at his playboy and Love and Sex book,

apart from sex, isnt it a bad lesson for women?

I think as long as you stress to her that it's not representative of a normal or ideal relationship you're probably okay. Yeah it's dirty but that's definitely not the aspect of the book that would concern me.

You probably need to have a discussion with them about it.

Ask them what they think of the book, and take it from there. I agree that the sex isn't the concerning part, though I haven't read the books or watched the film.

that is a good point lurkinghusband it's an early introduction to how hype works. Might act as an innoculation against Next Years Big Thing.

I read 'Forever' by Judy Blume in the last year of primary school! I'd read all her other books, so didn't realise this would be young adult and just chose it as the next book on from the others...! When I asked my mum to take it back to the library for me, she saw the content was ! She said, "I don't think you should really have read that...!" Ah well, too late! I remember us all at school sat together at lunch time (boys AND girls!), reading passages of the book aloud to each other. Luckily, my mum had already given me a sex-ed lesson, but this was something else!

I don't thin you can ban a 17 year old reading stuff like that. 13 year olds are probably reading it.
It is best that a girl of that age can talk to her mum about it so her mum can tell her that it does not represent real relationships.
I think it is sad that so many young people are getting the idea from films and stuff on the internet that sex is as extreme as they show it.

completely normal but I can see why you're uneasy about it. I used to read dodgy detective stories that were really soft porn. Must have been 12-15. Chat would probably be a good idea. Hope none of you won't die of cringiness

Good God, I was reading Lady Chatterley's Lover (VERY risque in my day) and Marquis de Sade at just a little older. She'll be fine, I promise.

It was so badly written that I couldn't get past page 3 of book 1 so I will have to take everyone's word that it is a poor representation of relationships. Please point out that it is also a poor representation of acceptable prose.

If this was me (my DD is only 7 so I have this sort of thing to come...) I would read it so that I could talk to her about it and discuss the crappier finer aspects of it with her.

FFS.

If you don't want DCs to read something just tell them they must. It's not rocket science!

It's a normal teen thing. My mum wasn't happy with me getting Rosemary's Baby from the library at that age what with the whole being drugged and raped by Satan scene, I read it anyway and remained mentally unscarred. Never tried to make close friends with the upstairs neighbours though, you never know .

Dsd (nearly 17) has read all three, tbh I was more shocked that she was reading books

I would sit your dd down and have very stern words with her about her choice of reading matter.

Nobody, regardless of age, should feel compelled to read such badly written shite.

I remember reading all sorts at that age. I vaguely remember some James Herbert type book with people fornicating in goat entrails for example. Oh and Point Horror. Sexy cheerleaders, seducing, drugging, shagging and murdering jocks.

I'm normal despite all that

We used to read Lady Chatterley's Lover and growl "get thee in t'shed" at each other. Happy days.

Andrewofgg is of course right.

I shall make sure I repeatedly nag dd to read Twilight when she's a bit older.

Get thee in t'shed

am not going to read it but I might suggest lady chatterley , is it better prose?

I'm shocked that you're shocked ;)

My teenager has come over all literary snob about 50SoG (but she's read the game of thrones books which are certainly worse).

The film has a 12 certificate here .. So my preteen could quite legally go and see it, though he would probably expire of embarrassment at the very thought.

Point Horror! I LOVED those books!