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To think the jeans should have been returned washed or at least sooner?

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listsandbudgets · 22/02/2015 23:25

You're probably all going to tell me I'm being entitled but this is irritating me so thought I'd put it your judgement.

DS is potty training at the moment. Last Friday he had an accident (wee not poo) at nursery. When accidents happen nursery staff bag the clothes and return them for washing which is fine. However they accidentally put DS's jeans in the bag of another boy. I noticed they were missing and asked nursery if they knew what had happened to them but they couldn't find them.

They were finally returned by the other boys mum on Friday this week in a different nappy bag (nursery always use orange ones this was white) but still unwashed. They STUNK - honestly I felt sick when I opened the bag. I had to rinse them for about 10 minutes before the stink of ammonia faded.

AIBU to think that the receiving parents should have washed them before returning them especially after hanging onto them for a week, clearly having opened the bag and then rebagged them? Or should I jsut be grateful they returned them at all?

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steff13 · 22/02/2015 23:27

Well, I would have washed them, but I don't know if it was unreasonable not to.

SisterMerror · 22/02/2015 23:30

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LineRunner · 22/02/2015 23:30

I'd have washed them or returned them sooner, yes.

And if I couldn't return them sooner for a good reason I still would have washed them.

CaptainNancy · 22/02/2015 23:30

Yikes! Not nice. I would have washed them...

MrsBungle · 22/02/2015 23:32

I'd have washed them too.

westcountrywoman · 22/02/2015 23:34

Is it possible the other child only attends on as Friday, hence why it took a week to return them. If it was a small accident, maybe she didn't notice they were wet when she opened the original bag, just saw enough to realise they weren't her child's and rebagged them.

EstRusMum · 22/02/2015 23:42

I don't know whether I would've washed them... Probably not. I'd be pissed off at nursery workers for sticking some other child's wet stinky jeans to our bag. But definitely would have returned them sooner.

OddFodd · 23/02/2015 00:04

I don't know if I'd have washed them because:
A) people are v funny about washing with wrong detergent especially when pfb are involved; and

B) there may have been a poo in there which I wouldn't have wanted to deal with

NeedABumChange · 23/02/2015 00:35

I would just be grateful to have got them back.

DancingDinosaur · 23/02/2015 00:43

Well I would have washed them cos I'm nice like that Wink but really it is a bit gross, so I wouldn't necessarily expect someone else to do the same.

Annabannbobanna · 23/02/2015 00:49

I would not have washed another child's soiled trousers. Yuk. I probably would have returned them sooner though, I wouldn't want them stinking up my house/car.

forago · 23/02/2015 00:56

no way would i have washed them. but i would have returned them th enext day, or tried to. The parents might work though or have been away. Th enursery i used has a washing machine and tbh i would hav eexpected them to wash them in this instance, as it was their error.

BerylStreep · 23/02/2015 01:20

I might have washed them, but would probably be a bit eugh.

meerschweinchen · 23/02/2015 01:23

They might not have hung on to them for a week - at least not deliberately. Maybe the other child only goes to nursery part-time?

Weebirdie · 23/02/2015 02:37

I would have washed them without a second thought. Its a childs wee wee for goodness sake. And lets fact it if a person wouldn't wash them then how do you expect nursery workers or the likes to have to deal with your childs wee wee?

MaudeLebowski · 23/02/2015 02:50

I wouldn't wash another child's pissy pants. I'd have left them in the carrier bag outside and forgotten about them, tbh.

Concordial · 23/02/2015 03:54

There were a pair of wet shorts and underpants in DS's bag that weren't his a few weeks ago.
I washed, dried them and packed them back up to give to daycare the following week. Didn't give it a second thought really.

HelpingHands64 · 23/02/2015 03:58

Could it have been possible for her not to have seen the extra clothing until the morning of the nursery drop off if her child is part-time?

londonrach · 23/02/2015 06:59

Depends if i know person. If not know person i wouldnt in case child had a problem with certain washing powders.

my2centsis · 23/02/2015 07:12

I would of washed them too. Surprised at the people you wouldn't tbh... Common courtesy and all that

RestingFuckFace · 23/02/2015 07:16

Id have washed them. They practically baby wee. On a pair of trousers.

Mixtape · 23/02/2015 07:18

I wouldn't expect them to be returned washed.

diddl · 23/02/2015 07:21

of course someone else should have washed your kids pissed on clothesHmm

Failing that, of course they should have returned them ASAP-it should have been the only thing on their mind.HmmHmm

Good grief!

Gileswithachainsaw · 23/02/2015 07:24

I'd gave probably washed them unless they were pooey in which case sorry if have binned.

Most if all though I'd have sent dc in with clothes that are old and won't he missed

TheRestofmylifeiswaiting · 23/02/2015 07:25

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