to want my nursery to keep hush about ds firsts?

[tobytomcat88]

I have a friend who found out from her nursery that her dd took her first steps. she was so disappointed that she missed it.

AIBU to think they could keep hush if it happens knowing how excited mums and dads would be seeing it for the first time (even if it isn't the first time really)

My cm is a good friend and I've joked that cm rule no1 is to keep quiet about baby firsts. After I excitedly told them dd was standing without support one evening and she replied 'oh yes she's been doing that a lot this week'.

I'm a childminder. No child ever takes it's first steps with me, ever. And it will never ever ever happen.

I would like to know as much as possible about dc day including trivialities and milestones.

maybe you friend can talk to the staff and discuss her concerns?

Maybe it's mums preferences but I would be really upset missing milestones

I think I would prefer to know so I could tell DCs when they are older and although I do get why this would be so upsetting, I think that's more important.

I'm a childminder. No child ever takes it's first steps with me, ever. And it will never ever ever happen.

I love this .

Dangerous - my CM did exactly what you did (I suspect). I will be forever grateful :)

I'm a nanny and ex nursery nurse. It's funny how many children take their first steps, say their first word etc at the weekends

dangerous
deargirl

your my kind of CMs

It really upset me going back to work that I'd miss a lot of ds firsts - but then I decided the first time I saw it would always be special, regardless of whether it was the absolute first time or not.

My DD goes to nursery part-time, and I want to hear about her day. It seems a charade (and even a bit sad) to pretend that no milestones can ever happen during the time she's away from me. They're her milestones, not some parental treat. I know she won't know or care, but I don't think childcare staff should have to watch what they tell me.

My nursery asked if you wanted to know

My nursery asked me if we wanted to know about her firsts. We said no. But, she's on the verge of crawling and I did ask if she had crawled at all, I said it's ok Id like to know. They said She crawled two steps on Thursday and she did the same when she got home with me. Still special as it's the first time we saw her doing it.

my son was potty trained first at nursery. I didn't mind about that one as he was way over three

Childcarer of 17yrs here .... None of the children I have cared for have ever crawled/ stood/ walked with me first!!! I have had to wait weeks sometimes for a parent to tell me their child took their 1st steps at the weekend :)

When my CM text me to say DS had taken some steps I was really excited but I was also upset that I had missed it.

She saw his first steps and she also saw him properly walk for the first time too.

She's a brilliant childminder though so I will forgive her for bursting my "ignorance is bliss" balloon

Mine did not mention him walking until we brought it up for this reason

Childminder here too and like dangerous no firsts happen at my house, I'm always very surprised when they come back after weekend having taken their first steps etc!

I work in a nursery and always make a point of asking if parents would like to know if they've had a first, majority will say no - but some know it's inevitable as they're at nursery full time and would rather know it's happened!

Like PPs for most though, first's happen at home

This genuinely wouldn't bother me, I'm not sentimental about firsts (more lasts!) but I can see why others would be.

I used to work in a nursery in the baby room and saw many first steps and heard many first words. I'd always say to parents "oh s/he was so close to it today!" and usually they'd come in excited the next morning and tell us what their little one had achieved.

It wouldn't bother me but everyone is different. I'd feel more weird about having a "first" that really wasn't. It's fun to know when it really got seen the first time even if it's not with me.

I genuinely don't mind too much. My nursery was lovely and filmed my dd crawling for the first time and emailed it to me. It was a lovely way to cheer up my day at work!

I work in a nursery and always make a point of asking if parents would like to know if they've had a first, majority will say no - but some know it's inevitable as they're at nursery full time and would rather know it's happened!

A majority?! Gosh.

I was kind enough as a child to wait until the first evening out together my parents had had since I was born.