to want my nursery to keep hush about ds firsts?

[tobytomcat88]

I have a friend who found out from her nursery that her dd took her first steps. she was so disappointed that she missed it.

AIBU to think they could keep hush if it happens knowing how excited mums and dads would be seeing it for the first time (even if it isn't the first time really)

I used to look after my nephew one morning a week, so my sister could go back to work.
I called our DM one day, genuinely torn and asking what she thought, should I tell my DSis that her son took his first steps at my house that morning, or let her think he did it for the first time whenever she happened to see it. I actually agonised over it, as I am rather sentimental about these things if I'm honest.
Mum said she'd probably want to know, but in the end I decided I'd tell her only if she asked.
Well, she came back to pick him up in the afternoon and as we were chatting up he got, and she said to me excitedly 'Oh I forgot to tell you DN has taken a few steps last night, did he take any today?'
Yay! I did confess to her I wasn't going to say anything unless she asked, but unlike me she isn't particularly sentimental.
I'd prefer to think I'd seen it for the first time. All mine took their first steps and said their first words etc at the weekends or in the evenings when Daddy was off work
I don't think DH genuinely believes it, but he goes along with it, for my sake or his I'm not sure

I've been looking after children for over 30 years and now childmind at home - it's really strange but I also have never seen any "firsts"! The children I mind are very thoughtful and save them for home

I save about 50% of firsts for DH! Sometimes he's been doing something for days and then suddenly DH will come rushing in to tell me about it

Dd's nursery had a policy of not telling you firsts which i loved!
Though as pp have said, dd potty trained at nursery and I was more than happy for them to experience those 'firsts'!