Stop ds fucking screaming

[shutupnow]

I am shut in a room away from him. He has screamed, and I mean screamed, for the last hour after losing his screen time for the day after he kicked ds2. This is a rule he knows about, though it has never yet been enforced.

I can't stand it. Surely this is not normal for an 8yr old? I have stayed calm but just snapped at him to shut up and slammed the door on him. I feel doubly worse as they have been away at their dad's since Thursday and this was the last few hours of the holiday and it's ruined. I don't blame their dad - he is prone to these rages anyway, but this is bad even for him.

I feel desperate.

I agree zero tolerance on kicking/hitting etc. But.... Beware. Whilst your DS1 (quick to temper) will be learning it's not acceptable (and needs to be given strategies to deal with it alongside punishment) your DS2 is currently learning he can wind his borther up being unkind - and get your 1:1 attention out of it. Your DS2 will continue to be unkind because there's no reason for him to stop the behaviour.

Exactly. As I mentioned upthread, some kids know exactly what to do to wind up another. I've seen it happen, and the one doing the winding up ends up with no sanction.

Don't be hard on yourself OP, sounds like the last while hasn't been the easiest of times.

Exactly charity it saddens me children who are easy to wind up get punished further for their reactive personality.

I take my NDN boy to school. Every morning whilst my DS is putting on his coat and shoes he'll fiddle with DS stuff knowing my DS will become frustrated. There is no reason for him to touch it and he's been told if he wants a lift then stop it. I fully accept my DS reactio to his stuff being touched is extreme (he has ASD) but I also know this boy only does it to wind DS up.