Aibu to think that cosmetic surgery on people that are all reading pretty is completely vain and unnecessary

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This is my first aibu. so do you agree with me.

My friend is getting a nose a chin implant and I think that it is completely unnecessary as she is already pretty.

But she doesn't think she is pretty enough and is trying to change that, it's a slippery slope too..

I'd have a nose job if I had money.

It's her money. Why worry?

Define 'pretty'

It's her nose and chin. The only that matters is how she sees them.

I think pretty is just pretty it's hard to describe what makes someone pretty.

But I still beleive the surgeries are unnecessary as her nose and chin look fine

It doesn't matter what your opinion is though, does it?

I mean that in a nice way, not snotty.

Of course it's hard to describe because everyone's idea of pretty is different.

Your idea and hers are clearly different too, so don't give it another thought.

I just feel like she is wasting her money on these surgeries and that with two young dc she should not go through the general anesthetic risk (even though very small)

I feel like as a friend you should make sure that the people you know make the right desisons

It woukd be OK if, in your opinion, she was ugly?

It's fine for you to think that. Not everyone thinks the same, notably your friend.

Slight accusation re: the GA risk. Do you think she's being reckless/selfish?

Define 'right'.

I think as a friend you should mind your own business and not be arrogant enough to assume that your opinion equates to the right decision.

I don't think she is being selfish or reckless she and dh are well of so they will not suffer financially. But I just could not risk an unnecessary anesthetic myself (but I tend to be a very safe person).

I think I could understand if she had a very ugly nose/chin. Also the proceeder involves a silicone implant at the top of the nose. I have never heard of this being done before? .

I don't think that I am always right. But as a friend you should help your friend make the best desion. My person opinion on cosmetic surgery is that it is wrong for people to change their bodies but I do believe that people should make their own choices.

Do you think your opinion is all important?

It's just that you're not really coming across as worried about the anaesthetic risk, but more that you're pissed off that she has made her own decision that doesn't match what you would do.

Has she sought your opinion and asked for advice?

She has sought my advice and her dh opinion and we both beleive the surgeries are unnecessarily. All of our circle of friends share the same view.

why do you think that you know what the right decisions are for other people? I am sure you don't mean to come across like this - but that's a fairly arrogant thing to say. It's your responsibility to ensure people make the right decisions and you know what they are.

Well, it's not and you don't. You have only your opinion. Which isn't worth that much when it comes to other people's lives.

It really doesn't matter that you think she's pretty. It's her face and her life and if she is unhappy then she has the right to choose to do something she feels is going to improve how she feels.

Like people have said it is a slippery slope what if she wants her cheeks done or lips. This is part the reason I have my view on surgery

But you are not her. I am currently thinking of having my belly button done. I am 54, on the cuddly side and I still want a dangly belly ring. My money my body my choice.

Well she got your advice and is going ahead with the surgery regardless of what you think.

Just support her from now on otherwise she'll move away from you if she senses your criticism.

OP - AIBU?

Other posters - yes

OP - I don't think I am.

Why did you bother asking?

what if she does? They are her cheeks and her lips.

But howcanimissyou it is a very invasive thing to do and a large choice to chose. What If you do not like the results after for example. This is why friends should be asked about cosmetic surgery.

not your business