Aibu to think that cosmetic surgery on people that are all reading pretty is completely vain and unnecessary

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This is my first aibu. so do you agree with me.

My friend is getting a nose a chin implant and I think that it is completely unnecessary as she is already pretty.

although obviously youre entitled to your opinion, but it is a useful skill in life to know the difference between what is your business and what isnt

Well if it goes wrong she'll look a bit of a state then you can say 'told you so' which you're dying to say!.

It is my business if I was asked though surely

Friends should be asked? Are you a bit controlling?

this is why friends should be asked about cosmetic surgery

Unbelievably arrogant.

her body her choice

I doubt your mate is being operated by the local quack- I think her fully trained doctor would be more aware of the level of risk she is taking.

Are you sure you are a friend of this woman? There's nothing that you have said so far that indicates anything of the sort.

this is why friends should be asked?

As in get your permission?

Now I know you don't mean that! she does not need your permission or approval.

It is invasive. Yes. Of her body, not yours. A big decision. Yes. Her decision, not yours.

You don't get a vote. This is not your body, not your choice.

Friends often chat about stuff like this and canvass opinion.

Asking for advice does not obligate you to take it.

She has chosen to have surgery.

She asked your view, you gave it. There ends your input into her decision making process.

hang on, it's your business if you were asked?

So if someone asks your opinion on something, that means you get the right to demand they take a course of action that you approve of?

I really don't think it does.

Maybe i am letting my person opinion on the topic effect me. I would never say "told you so" because that would be a horrible thing to say.

I do beleive that plastic surgery is a nasty industry that preys on insecure people (not all though).

She asked your opinion not your approval to go ahead. You seem to be confusing the two. Having given your opinion - which is yours and yours alone - you need to resist the urge to make further noise from the moving hole in your face and allow her to do as she wishes. Unless she's being sectioned of course - then it's no longer up to her. Is she being sectioned?

obvious is obvious.

YANBU OP!
Have you considered contacting her doctor and letting him/her know that you forbid it? (As a concerned friend of course).

My person opinion on cosmetic surgery is that it is wrong for people to change their bodies but I do believe that people should make their own choices.

Ahh and there ^^ it is.

It took a while but you got there eventually...

OP, do you think plastic surgery is acceptable to 'correct' bodies?

Meh, I got a procedure done due to damage as a result of disease- Do you approve of that? Would you think it's ok to take the risk with the anesthetic-me being a parent and all.

I'm a crappy friend, cos I just want mine to be happy and support them in that endevour!

Many years ago I had a cosmetic procedure that I deeply regret. There was nothing wrong with me physically, I was unknowingly suffering with body dysmorphia. I firmly believe anyone considering cosmetic procedures should have to have a psych evaluation first.
OP I wish one of my friends had had the chance to talk me out of it, as it was I did it in secret as was living abroad at the time.
There is every chance your friends perception of her perceived flaws is different from those around her and I think she is lucky to have a friend who cares.

Haha yes! Lucky to have a friend who cares so much, she starts a judgey thread blabbing her business across the internet.

The OP clearly thinks she's not BU, so it seems the only reason for this thread is to invite others to slate her friend's decision.

So,if you didn't think she was pretty you would see it as necessary?

It's unnecessary for everyone but some chose to do due to various feelings

Know it would be unnecessary if she was pretty or not