To ask lodger not to leave dirty towels on my son's high chair?

[Girl33]

That's it really. Friend staying with us for a little while and leaves his dirty towel on my sons high chair after a shower. I've tried to explain to him how disgusting it is but he just says germs are good for babies. Am I too precious?

Chuck it on the floor outside every time - when he complains tell him it's only a towel so not to be so precious - he can dry it.

its territorial and dominance stuff, especially deliberately doing it once you have stated its not acceptable. Ask him 'do you have memory problems or are you just being an arsehole on principle' and see what he says

or put your sons nappies in the bin in his room without bagging? - its just a smell, germs are good for you, challenges your immune system, and see how he feels about it

You can still insist he moves out even if he will be homeless - if he doesn't respect you, your space or rules then those are the breaks

He is being unreasonable and slobbish but you are majorly overreacting. You "feel sick"?!

May!!! Blimey.
Yeah, it sounds like he's being difficult.
I dunno..... could your DH not have a quiet word with him about this?

YANBU.

Surely he should keep his towel(s) in his room/bathroom and wash them when he needs to.

There is surely no need for you to come across the towels at all, especially not in the kitchen.

Also made the huge fucking mistake of permitting a "friend" to move in as lodger while DS was small.

No longer a friend.

You cannot treat this man as someone you need to be accommodating and polite to, if he is going to be living in your house for months. He has already made it clear that you are NOT important - to do this in YOUR home suggests a massive lack of perspective.

You need to lay out ground rules about what YOU will tolerate as the minimum acceptable behaviour if he is to remain in your home. It is massively stressful to have your own home occupied by someone who feels entitled to override your wishes on a whim. You and your DH need to work together on this, or it will seriously fuck over your relationship. It is in no way unreasonable to expect a long term resident to live by your rules. (Even if you weren't doing them a massive fucking favour!)

In short, YABU to ask. Or explain. Or justify.

All you should be doing is telling him. Leave your towel in your room. Not in any common areas. Definitely not the kitchen.

Thanks for your post glitter stained. Things have been tough for us since he moved in and I think it's most of the problem. At least I know somebody else has been through it too