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AIBU?

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To ask lodger not to leave dirty towels on my son's high chair?

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Girl33 · 18/02/2015 09:05

That's it really. Friend staying with us for a little while and leaves his dirty towel on my sons high chair after a shower. I've tried to explain to him how disgusting it is but he just says germs are good for babies. Am I too precious?

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QueenArseClangers · 18/02/2015 09:32

Leave a shitty nappy in his bag. Open.

LumpySpacedPrincess · 18/02/2015 09:32

To be honest it doesn't matter if it is unhygienic or not. This man is a guest in your house and he is refusing to do something you have politely asked him to do, entitled much.

APotNoodleandaTommy · 18/02/2015 09:33

ChristyMooreRocks · 18/02/2015 09:40

Yeah, it's odd that of all the places he could leave it, he chooses the baby's high chair all the time!

I would just politely ask him to stop, tell him it's nothing to do with germs it just looks messy and he has plenty of other places to put it. If that fails, then shitty nappy on his bed is the way to go I think, after all, germs are good for you......

Feminine · 18/02/2015 10:22

"l wouldn't be bothered if it was mine or hubby's"
Are you both still in highchairs op?

merrymouse · 18/02/2015 10:24

Agree with others - never mind the germs, what is it doing in the kitchen?

AntiHop · 18/02/2015 10:26

Yanbu. It's not nice to do that and it's rude to continue when you've asked him not to.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 18/02/2015 10:28

Take it upstairs and dump it on his pillow - damp side down.

TheCraicDealer · 18/02/2015 10:29

I don't agree with the whole germs thing and personally I don't see it as a big deal, but if I were the guest I would comply, no question.

Exactly. You're doing him a favour by letting him stay in your home. A reasonable person doesn't just brush aside any concerns their host has and say, 'well I'm just going to do whatever the fuck I want', do they?

I'd dampen it a bit under the tap (don't overdo it though) and leave it on his pillow so he has a lovely wet bed. Then he complains say, "Sure a wee bit of water never did anyone any harm", see how he likes it.

Greenrememberedhills · 18/02/2015 10:33

Friend or lodger, it's a simply matter if telling him your house rules. It isn't a debate. It's your house.

TheMaddHugger · 18/02/2015 10:41

Your home, your rules

kittycatz · 18/02/2015 10:45

YANBU - don't understand why anyone would take a damp towel and hang it up on a high chair. Where is the high chair?
Just tell him where the damp towel should go and keep telling him until he gets the message or moves out.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 18/02/2015 11:07

So he's exiting the bathroom into the kitchen and doing a naked dash to his bedroom? Nice ! Or is he one of the rare few who wear a robe.

What TheCraicDealer suggested if it happens again, swiftly followed by a nappy if that doesn't work.

pinkyredrose · 18/02/2015 11:13

There's more likelyhood of germs being passed from the high chair to the towel IMHO.

HowCanIMissYouIfYouWontGoAway · 18/02/2015 11:15

whether germs are or are not good for babies is irrelevant.

He is leaving stuff lying round your house and you don't want him to.

He is basically saying I don't care what you say, I'll leave my shit where I want.

Well, it's not your job to pick up after him. What does he ultimately do with the towels? Does he come back and get them? Leave them for you to sort out?

It's not on.

championnibbler · 18/02/2015 11:17

I would remind him that's its your house.
and if he doesn't like the way you do things, he can leave and go sponge off someone else.
i certainly wouldn't let him past my door for a 'stay' again.

and yes - he will most certainly be wiping the prized possessions that fuel the very centre of his existence (i.e. his cock, balls and anus) with this towel. naice.

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Girl33 · 18/02/2015 18:54

He is staying as he was going to be homeless but is paying rent.

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Girl33 · 18/02/2015 19:04

He is staying as he was going to be homeless but is paying rent.

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TwoOddSocks · 18/02/2015 19:04

Wow I thought I was a slob but I would never leave dirty towels all over someone else's house. It doesn't really matter if you're being precious or not (you're not, who leaves dirty towels lying around in the kitchen?). He's living in your house and he should live by your standards, or move out.

It was a really simple request which would be no trouble for him to abide by if he's still doing it knowing it bothers you he's being a dick.

YouKnowNothinJonSnow · 18/02/2015 19:08

Leave a few shitty nappies in his bed and when he complains just say, "Oh germs are good for you".

championnibbler · 19/02/2015 11:39

When is he leaving? Has he given an indication?

flimmyflam · 19/02/2015 11:55

How many times has he done this after you told him not to? It's pretty weird if he is persisting.

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Girl33 · 19/02/2015 18:03

May! Counting down the days! He's just being difficult I think

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SoMuchForSubtlety · 19/02/2015 18:26

He's being controlling, perhaps he thinks your views aren't relevant?. Gratitude for you putting him up would be far more appropriate.

sykadelic · 19/02/2015 18:38

Just tell him to stop. "Do not leave your towel hanging around the house. Put it in your room. I don't like it laying about".

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