to think Valentines causes more rows than it's worth?

[projecting]

I'm single so have no vested interest in Valentine's Day whatsoever.

However, judging by both here and fb, there seems to be more couples nursing a festering sense of resentment than enjoying a soppy film together on the sofa this evening

Not in this house. The poles of possible response aren't 'couple row' or 'couple watch soppy film' - there's also joint indifference to the festival of pink tat.

What are people "rowing" about?

Not getting what they wanted?

I bought my husband a card & some chocs & I got flowers & wine.

We were both happy with that!

I do think that sometimes people set themselves up by being too subtle!

"Oh know, I'm not bothered about a present or going out".

Whilst hoping for jewelry & a meal out!!

"Oh know"
no, or course!!

of course!

No rows here either. Got a babysitter, had a very nice meal and then went cinema and then went for a little detour home via the secluded park a great day

We're having a lovely night here too - don't take it to seriously but do try to be thoughtful. I think people make too much of it though & end up disappointed unfortunately.

No rows here either, but a pretty typical Saturday night worth dp keeping the gin topped up.

With not worth, diddl it's catching!

No rows here either but am having a very dull evening. Might go to bed early with a book.

Does Disney's Planes: Fire & Rescue count as a soppy film?

I'm toasting my good single self with some cava. I don't know why people get their knickers in such a knot over Valentines's Day. Too many people are either overly enraged by it's very existence and too many people take it far too seriously. It's just a bit of fun, you really don't need to engage with the commercial side.

Im on my own with angry chicken poxy toddler at the moment. Lovely dh is legging it home from work with an m and s ready meal pudding and wine (no food left in the house and ds still infectious so couldn't get out today)
I think thats romantic in a way

If Valentine's Day causes a row, then there's probably something to row about - at minimum a lack of communication and/or lack of understanding of what the other person thinks is important in a relationship

Funnily enough we haven't.

We're generally quite good at it, but for some reason didn't today.

DS made a valentine card for a teacher at school, and so I sat next to him and made one for DH.

It's the only reason he got one. I wrote 'Happy Valentine's Day' in it and DS added the word 'Stinky' to the bottom of it.

That's about as good as romance gets on Valentines day in our house

No arguments at all though, we've had a lovely day out on a wet, foggy beach, and now DH is cooking salmon and watching Top Gun, while I MN and get used as a dog cushion by TinyDog. DS has gone to bed with a parting cry of "Hey. Ramsbottom!" at us in the Mr Gru voice from DM2. So all is as normal here right now

Haven't seen any rows on Facebook but I have seen one woman who got two massive bouquets of flowers. Apparently one was ordered days ago but hadn't turned up by lunchtime so she made her DH go out to buy her some more. I suspect they were close to a row.

ahbollocks - actually think that's more romantic than cards, flowers, meal etc.

We've not done Valentines since our first year of dating, almost 25 years ago now. I think of it as a dating or young/new love sort of thing. dh and I were in the supermarket picking up some stuff yesterday and I jokingly suggested getting some lovey stuff. dh said 'every day is Valentines day' and I think to some extent that's true. Better to make romantic gestures when you feel like ti than feel you have to on a particular day because of convention.

no rowing in this house projecting, just a late dinner as you know

nooka, that's what dp said to me, and it really is.

no need to fake romance for one night of the year when you have a loving relationship every day

We had a row this morning but it's all blown over and we made up , had a scrummy m and s meal and about to watch a soppy film - so we have covered both bases!

We're quite happy with a low key valentines day, cook nice meal and get cards and that's it. Hate the "but you should be nice 365 days a year,romantic when you feel like it etc". Nobody behaves perfectly every day, it's nice to put aside a day to think of each other, doesn't have to be a big deal!

Well today the universe told me it loved me and DH told me he had forgotten we were married -

I found a bunch of heart balloons caught up in the tree outside and DH left me a card saying 'to my girlfriend' (either panic buying or he's got it mixed up with OWs).

• so on balance i reckon i'm up. i told dh the balloons were from a secret admirer

I'm glad everyone here seems to be having a nice day - evidently the people enjoying themselves are not the ones busily posting on fb

I've had two nice valentines (that I remember) in 35 years (and that includes a marriage) so the 14th February passes without fanfare in this house...

I don't mean to alarm you MrsKoala but there's someone lurking behind your balloons.

I much prefer year round gestures of love rather than towing the commercial line one day a year.
I have seen lots of angst regarding valentines presents.