Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2

Original poster

to think Valentines causes more rows than it's worth?

50 replies

projecting · 14/02/2015 20:36

I'm single so have no vested interest in Valentine's Day whatsoever.

However, judging by both here and fb, there seems to be more couples nursing a festering sense of resentment than enjoying a soppy film together on the sofa this evening

OP posts:

Taz1212 · 14/02/2015 21:33

We have a nice dinner at home but otherwise don't bother with Valentine's Day. In fact, DH has already gone to bed because he is choked with a cold. man flu I prefer to get flowers on unexpected occasions.

MisForMumNotMaid · 14/02/2015 21:36

I whole heartedly recommend having a child on Valentines day. Chocolate cake, balloons and lots of laughter year on year.

MrsKoala · 14/02/2015 21:40

Yes, i've renamed him Balonz as a tribute.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 14/02/2015 21:41

It's steak and a blow job day next month. Get him a crappy burger and bite his willy

Koalafications · 14/02/2015 21:42

Arguing over valentines day...

tilliebob · 14/02/2015 21:44

It's a Hallmark day - no idea why folk are getting stroppy but yes my FB is full of angst or smuggery. Do folk really need a day to say how they feel/do something special!?

OttiliaVonBCup · 14/02/2015 21:48

Arguing over valentines day... confused

I know.
There are so
many other things to argue about instead.

Why do we have to watch bloody CSI, who ate the last chocolate, where are the car keys and who put them there...

Arguing about Valentine's Day.
Amateurs.

londonrach · 14/02/2015 21:51

Nope no rows here. Nice card each. Dh gave flowers. Never expected that but nice. Went out for the day, lunch out, went around a very interesting museum. Laughed alot. Im now im bed at mo mntting whilst cuddling my hot water bottle as someones got to warm the bed up whilst dh sees a movie in next room. (Flat on one level so can talk between rooms) Perfect day!!!

ipswichwitch · 14/02/2015 21:55

Well we had a row. Combination of us being bastard knackered and somewhat irritable (DC who don't sleep so neither do we), and DH being a bit of a tit.

I'm now in bed with DS2 who I assume is teething, but Calpol and gum stuff doing bugger all to help him. He's already woken 7 times and just wants cuddling.

Crappy end to what started out a nice day - got some lovely chocs from DH this morning.

ipswichwitch · 14/02/2015 21:57

Just to clarify, we didn't row about valentines day.

kittentwo · 14/02/2015 22:07

We can't even remember our wedding anniversary never mind valentines.

Taz1212 · 14/02/2015 22:10

kittentwo I never remember our wedding anniversary either! It's become something of a joke in our house because DH does remember and every year he comes home with something and I say, "Oh shit! Not again!!"

kittentwo · 14/02/2015 22:13

Ha yes we only know because smile gives us a bottle of champagne every year an we both go oh shit so it is happy anniversary darling. So glad we are not alone

NamesNick · 14/02/2015 22:16

well I've just had a proposal and of course I said YES!!

DP proposed I do the dishes seeing as he cooked

Christmasbargainshopper · 14/02/2015 22:19

Good day here. Dh and I went out for brunch and we just did cards. My toddler opened my card to help me.

kittentwo · 14/02/2015 22:20

Excellent namesnick

BossWitch · 14/02/2015 22:32

We bought life insurance today. Blokey looked a bit when I announced that 5 years was long enough for either of us to get over the death of the other, do some gold-digging, and marry someone who could take care of the mortgage. Who says romance is dead?

glamourousgranny42 · 14/02/2015 22:33

Its a capatalist rip off. My kids birthdays are either side of valentines day and its always been just another bloody thing to remember to do. When I got divorced it was so liberating not to bother with it.
one of the first things I said to my new partner was ' I dont do valentines' . We show our love everyday in lots of little random ways without feeling forced to conjure something up for the sake if it.
So yes YABU.

foreverton · 14/02/2015 22:38

In our house it's a busy day, it's our anniversary, Valentine's day and dd is 4 today so that overshadows everything else:)
Takes all the "pressure" off as today is all about her, look popular though with all of the cards in the window!

Philoslothy · 14/02/2015 22:40

I have never rowed on Valentines day and have never known of anyone row either. I think MNers like to row, they were all at it over Christmas too.

Ragwort · 14/02/2015 22:43

We exchanged cards this morning - I went to work and DH went to a football match and I went out to quiz night this evening with a friend - everyone is happy. .

Can't imagine 'rowing' about Valentine's Day - what is the point of a row if one of you has forgotten it/or not done what is expected of them? Surely a row isn't going to actually change anything? .

McFox · 14/02/2015 22:47

Only if people are immature about it and really think it means anything. If you need a card/gift/meal on valentines day to feel loved and valued, then your relationship needs a serious long look.

StrawberryMouse · 14/02/2015 23:02

I've quite liked seeing all the Facebook posts but then I am quite nosey. Have enjoyed seeing some of my friends happy and cringed a bit at others.

We don't really bother, I made dh some nice cakey things he likes and we had the offer of a babysitter but did the takeaway and film thing rather than sit in a row of couples and perform romance in public (can you tell I spent my teenage tears working in a restaurant?!).

Haven't spotted any rows yet but the night is still young.

Preciousbane · 14/02/2015 23:41

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

itsnotmeitsyou1 · 15/02/2015 00:12

I got flowers. I did specifically say 'It's a stupid non day' but said thank you and played nice. Will be firmer next year!

Have been on the verge of acting like a crazy bitch all day. I'm 7 weeks pregnant and have a disgusting cold. Partner has been appeasing the monster with mini eggs and tissues all day, finishing with Ghostbusters 2 in bed. Might as well start killing the romance now, plenty of practice for the next couple of years .

Flip

1 2