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Original poster

To be horrified at the thought of ......

76 replies

Jessicahyde85 · 13/02/2015 21:08

Two 12 year old girls being left home alone over night to look after a 3 yo a 4 yo and a 7 year old
Seriously what the actual feck??

OP posts:
Notrevealingmyidentity · 13/02/2015 21:44

People are just trying to ascertain if this is a current situation happening now rather than a past situation or one on the news. No one is saying you can't post Hmm

Original poster
Jessicahyde85 · 13/02/2015 21:44

I have only just found out about it now. My husbands idea to see what you lot said about it...

OP posts:
PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 13/02/2015 21:45

Why aren't you angry at the father too?

MrsTawdry · 13/02/2015 21:45

Your attitude is not one which people here enjoy OP. It's alarmist and attention seeking.

OP: THIS HAPPENED!!!

MN: And?

OP: IT HAPPENED THOUGH!!

MN: So?

OP: WELL!!! ISN'T IT WRONG??

MN: Yes.

OP: FUCK YOU ALL THEN!

You were hoping we'd all say "Oooh that's disgusting!! People like her shouldn't have kids!!"

But we're not going to say that because you give no backstory and no circumstances. people here are generally unwilling to judge any situation they know nothing about.

WorraLiberty · 13/02/2015 21:47

What MrsT said

Original poster
Jessicahyde85 · 13/02/2015 21:47

Oh right except all the people asking why I am posting, yeah alright then!! Can't help but feel that there is a full moon tonight!

OP posts:
PacificDogwood · 13/02/2015 21:48

Good grief, calm down, Jessica Shock

The kids are ok just now, yes?
Well, have a drink, let the weekend pass and report on Monday.
Sheesh.

Notrevealingmyidentity · 13/02/2015 21:49

Indeed there must be.

People are asking what you wanted to achieve from posting not that you can't post. We can't actually do anything. If you just wanted opinions fine. But it seems most people are on the fence about the situation, probably because they don't have all the info and know the people involves so it probably won't help you.

UncleT · 13/02/2015 21:49

Nobody needs to 'know' anything about this other than 12 and 3. Criminally negligent and absolutely unacceptable.

WorraLiberty · 13/02/2015 21:51

Maybe the mother wasn't sure if it was wrong?

You seem unsure if it's wrong or if you're just being 'uptight and insane', and your DH can't be sure either if he suggested you ask Mumsnet.

In my opinion it's wrong.

MsVestibule · 13/02/2015 21:51

OK, to answer your question, no, I wouldn't leave children in that situation. If it is happening at this very moment, and you are concerned that the children are in danger, you should phone the Social Services emergency number.

I'm just a little unsure as to why you want us to get as upset about it as you are.

Original poster
Jessicahyde85 · 13/02/2015 21:52

No love I was hoping that I would have responded like thefew I got stating how they felt about it.... Not shitty posts from women who have nothing better to do than start on so done who is upset... But well done you are so clever.

I clearly asked Ainu to be horrified indicating I was not sure if I was more upset than I should be!

OP posts:
MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 13/02/2015 21:53

I used to babysit for the neighbours when I was 12 and the kids were 3 and 4 too. It was never overnight though, 5 or 6 hours tops. I was paid for it.

Preciousbane · 13/02/2015 21:54

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PacificDogwood · 13/02/2015 21:54

I don't disagree, UncleT, but still think that further action depends on context - was this likely to be a one off? is there a pattern of parental neglect? what is a report to SS/police likely going to achieve at this point? what is in the best interest of the children?

If the OP is so disturbed by just having found out about this situation after it had actually been resolved, then she must of course report.
I cannot help but feel that there is a back story here.

Original poster
Jessicahyde85 · 13/02/2015 21:55

And how am I supposed to be calm, I was already upset then all this shit!! Really!?!

OP posts:
LongDistanceLove · 13/02/2015 21:55

So this isn't happening right now? It's something that happened in the past right? What are you going to do now you have this information? Call ss?

I don't understand why you are getting irate at the posters on the thread.

MrsTawdry · 13/02/2015 21:58

OP it's highly doubtful that most people would be unsure about this situation being wrong or not. And if you are GENUINELY unsure about whether it is wrong to leave two tweens in charge of small children overnight then perhaps you need a parenting course?

ssd · 13/02/2015 21:58

I'd report her then

RufusTheReindeer · 13/02/2015 22:02

Your OP gave no details

We didn't know if it was happening now, about to happen, happened 10 years ago, parents leaving the children, parents being rushed to hospital, nothing!

And then when people don't get as upset as you bearing in mind they had o idea what was going on you started insulting and "yelling" at them

For what it's worth if I knew someone had left their 12 year old in charge of the smaller ones for a night out I would probably ring 101 to see if it was something to be concerned about...

But that would depend on the circumstances....I wouldn't come on here

ssd · 13/02/2015 22:03

MN is the only place where everyone has babysat from the age of 12

load of pish

MrsTawdry · 13/02/2015 22:05

I babysat from 12 ssd Grin I really, really did....but I am 42...are you a lot younger? Maybe in the 80s things were a bit more relaxed?

MrsCakesPrecognition · 13/02/2015 22:06

Are the children safe right now?

ssd · 13/02/2015 22:06

I'm 48 and grew up in a scheme and have never heard of this

arethereanyleftatall · 13/02/2015 22:07

I'm not drinking and I've read through the thread twice and literally have no idea why the op is getting upset at the responses. Wierd.
As for the hypothetical/actual situation - no I wouldn't leave a 12 yr old in charge.

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