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people that do an emergency stop when the lights change are dangerous and wrong

417 replies

magrate · 13/02/2015 09:02

I drive for about two hours everyday for my new job. Have to go through over 20 sets of lights. So many people think that as soon as the lights change you must stop. Aibu to expect people to still go though a second after they go red?

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Griphook · 13/02/2015 17:45

bloodywoman
As a pp said,amber means to stop if you can do so safely without the car behind you running up your back end.

The car in front WAS able to stop safely YOUR dh wasn't he was too close.

Oh,and btw,for Griphook and others.
My dh could have stopped if it was for a child or dog running out.

But your dh Had know idea who was in the car infront, that could off had a newborn baby as well, so he was very unreasonable and could have killed someone

TheRealAmandaClarke · 13/02/2015 17:47

I have answered your question.
What do think it means if youre not happy with the answer?

ThatBloodyWoman · 13/02/2015 17:50

Grip how for jeffs sake have you managed to extrapolate that my dh could have killed someone from what I've said.
Thats quite ridiculous.
Look I get that turning this into a smack up involving insurers and so on makes this a more passionate debate,and gives more cause for a rant,but can't you see comments like that might leave me feeling its a little ott and offensive?

ThatBloodyWoman · 13/02/2015 17:56

Had dh smacked into the car he would be liable for any damage or injuries caused.I've already said that.

I don't understand the vitriol.

Lifesalemon · 13/02/2015 18:00

You also claimed it was the other drivers fault, can't be both surely?

ThatBloodyWoman · 13/02/2015 18:00

In answer TheReal I don't know what it means,which is why I asked.
Sorry if I didn't respond to your answer -it wasn't because I didn't like it.
I will go back over and look at it.

SorchaN · 13/02/2015 18:03

The thing about mistakes is that we all make them. Ideally we should learn from them. If a driver can't stop in time and 'glides' into the car in front, that's an opportunity to learn not to drive too close. If the driver doesn't learn that lesson (for example by blaming the driver of the car in front), then he risks causing another accident, which could be more serious. This is why there's vitriol.

steff13 · 13/02/2015 18:14

Here, the guideline is that you are meant to leave one car length between you and the car in front of you for every 10 MPH you're driving. So, if you're going 70 MPH, you leave 7 car lengths.

ThatBloodyWoman · 13/02/2015 18:16

My dh didn't blame the driver in front Confused

The other driver took the blame.The other driver said it was his fault.

steff13 · 13/02/2015 18:18

The other driver took the blame.The other driver said it was his fault.

Perhaps, but it wasn't.

tiggytape · 13/02/2015 18:20

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SorchaN · 13/02/2015 18:20

It was not the fault of the driver in front, even if he 'took the blame'. It was your husband's fault. This is not a grey area. It sounds as if your husband hasn't learned from his mistake, so he is more likely to make another one. Are you happy to let him drive with your child(ren) in the car?

ThatBloodyWoman · 13/02/2015 18:20

Out of interest then.
If you were at a amber light and it changed,ad you drove past it,(literally,not before,but as you passed it) would you,as a driver,emergency stop?
Nothing to do with anything else,not my dh,nothing.
Would you (addressed to anyone,no one in particular)as a driver do an emergency stop?

zfactor · 13/02/2015 18:23

BloodyWoman - No, because 'as you pass it' means you have crossed the white line so you do not need to stop at amber.

SorchaN · 13/02/2015 18:25

If I were approaching a green light and it changed to amber, I would stop immediately at the stop line. If your husband 'glided' into the back of my car I would be very annoyed.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 13/02/2015 18:27

If the other driver did something careless or illegal in front of ThatBloodyWoman's husband, then, to my mind, he does bear some of the moral responsibility for the accident, even if he wouldn't be legally liable, or liable as far as the insurance company was concerned.

But her dh was definitely at least partly to blame. If he didn't want to make any sharp manoeuvres with her and the baby in the car, he should have made sure he left extra stopping distance between himself and the car in front, so he could stop slowly and carefully without hitting the car in front.

ThatBloodyWoman · 13/02/2015 18:29

Forget my dh. Sorcha
(Thats not what happened.)
In the situation I described,would you?

Lifesalemon · 13/02/2015 18:29

Wether it is right or wrong to do an emergency stop you still should be able to make that choice without being hit by another car from behind, especially approaching lights as the second car shouldn't be going too fast or be too close to stop!

tiggytape · 13/02/2015 18:30

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ThatBloodyWoman · 13/02/2015 18:31

But would you Life ?

TheRealAmandaClarke · 13/02/2015 18:31

You are still trying to make it the othe drive's fault.

ThatBloodyWoman · 13/02/2015 18:33

I'm asking a question,and said its now nothing to do with my dh,me,my situation TheReal.

I've moved on!

TheRealAmandaClarke · 13/02/2015 18:33

i would stop at an amber light

TheRealAmandaClarke · 13/02/2015 18:35

I dont think you have moved on actually.
I think your'r determined to "prove" that the man shouldnt have stopped and that, therefore, your dh was not at fault.
There is no vitriol. Just a bit of frustration.

SorchaN · 13/02/2015 18:36

You are still trying to make it the othe drive's fault.

This.

I already answered the question. I was clear.

ThatBloodyWoman, take a telling.