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Original poster

Not to book the holiday?

38 replies

DoubletheRage · 11/02/2015 20:22

Or at least not yet?

There's been a discussion and we've agreed where we want to go. I'm supposed to book something SC for May h-t. We have never been on a holiday I didn't suggest and arrange, which is OK, DH does loads of other things but organising always falls to me and if I don't book it, we won't go (ever)

Anyway, since the discussion, my L2 football team have had an amazing turn of fortune and have gone from the relegation spots to possible play-off contenders. If they should make it, the Wembley final will be the first weekend of H-T

Would it be terrible of me to forget to book for a while?

DH and DC have no interest in football, I have a season ticket. Wembley is reasonably close to home for us and a very long way from the planned holiday designation.

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mrsmootoo · 11/02/2015 20:29

Can't you come clean and explain? He'll find out anyway probably. Is the match on the Saturday? In which case if it's a UK holiday can't you just go a day late? Seems a shame to miss it. Book it and then go a day late if your team does play.

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DoubletheRage · 11/02/2015 20:35

Of course I could mrsmootoo and it would be Ok, but it would give a fairly strong indication of where my priorities are (family holiday or football) and it probably won't happen, in which case I can book something in a few weeks time.

Don't think we could go on the Sunday. It's a very long drive and we were planning to go up Friday night. DH wouldn't like to lose 2 days we've paid for!

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wheresthelight · 11/02/2015 20:49

the longer you leave it the more expensive it will be. if you have never had a holiday and you are now considering risking your first one for a football match that may or may not actually happen then I am sorry but Yabvu and actually quite selfish imo

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DoubletheRage · 11/02/2015 20:51

We've had loads of holidays. We've never had one that I didn't suggest, organise, book and pack for .

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wheresthelight · 11/02/2015 20:53

still stand by Yabvu and selfish sorry. it's a football match not some life altering event

Guitargirl · 11/02/2015 20:56

I would be fucking livid if DP did this to me and the DCs. I would much rather he went ahead and booked it and then I could take the DCs on the holiday on my own whilst he went to watch his match and then he could join us a few days later. Can you do that?

Lambzig · 11/02/2015 21:00

Book it and then maybe DH could go on Friday night with the DC and you could have the pain of getting there by public transport after the match.

Have to say, are you really going to tell them they have to miss out on a weeks holiday for your match?

weebarra · 11/02/2015 21:04

Leave it for a bit. I know exactly how you feel (I watched my team lift the Scottish Cup last year, four days after a double mastectomy!).

Koalafications · 11/02/2015 21:08

YABVU.

PtolemysNeedle · 11/02/2015 21:09

Are your DH and DC so anti football that they'd be totally against the idea of a day out at Wembley? If it's something you could get them on board with, then you could just have different, but still good plans for the week?

LittleBrownRabbit · 11/02/2015 21:22

You seriously would not book a holiday to watch football? This thread would be completely different if a woman had posted "DH hasn't booked a holiday because his team are playing." FFS stop being selfish and book the holiday.

isitsnowingyet · 11/02/2015 21:46

YANBU - especially as it is always left up to you to book the holiday. I say FFS - go to the football match and enjoy it!!!

TywysogesGymraeg · 11/02/2015 22:10

DH and the boys could go ahead of you and you could join them after a few days. They could do some "male bonding" and man stuff.

Leeds2 · 11/02/2015 22:41

I wouldn't even consider booking a holiday if a play off place was a possibility.

Go in July instead.

Seriouslyffs · 12/02/2015 06:25

I thought one of your children was playing!
YABVU

CinnabarRed · 12/02/2015 06:31

I wouldn't want all of us to miss 2 days of holiday unless in dire emergency, but I'd be completely fine with DH missing a couple of days (at his choice) and joining us afterwards.

So I'd say: Book the holiday. Explain to DH what you're planning to do if your team make it to play-offs (fingers crossed for you).

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DoubletheRage · 12/02/2015 08:10

It always makes me laugh how extreme the views are when football's involved.

What would the reactions be if it was, say , a once in a lifetime opportunity to see you favourite band at Wembley?

This is so far away from being "just" a football match. The club have never played there before and in all likelihood won't this time, but if it does happen, it won't happen again in my lifetime.

I'm going to tell DH I'm going to leave it for now, but that he can book something if he wants to and I'll sort the arrangements should the need arise. Which will be the same thing as just leaving it because he won't do anything about it.

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Panzee · 12/02/2015 08:14

Excellent decision. :o

ilovesooty · 12/02/2015 08:15

If it were my club I'd feel exactly the same as you do.

Hope they get there.

mommy2ash · 12/02/2015 09:09

a holiday with my children would be more Important than a football match. if a man were asking this everyone would be saying he is selfish

skylark2 · 12/02/2015 09:11

"If they should make it, the Wembley final will be the first weekend of H-T "

So book a holiday starting on the Monday. Not really seeing an issue here.

Or you could, say, book a holiday cottage Saturday-Saturday. If your team makes it, go on the Monday. If not, go on the Saturday.

FightOrFlight · 12/02/2015 09:14

Agree with Lambzig - book the holiday and if they get into the play-offs you can join the holiday a day or two late.

MissDuke · 12/02/2015 09:15

This is crazy!! You need to be honest with dh, why on earth would you lie about this? I would be so upset if sh lied like that, and that is before even getting into prioritising watching football over a family holiday.

DeliciousMonster · 12/02/2015 09:16

if a man were asking this everyone would be saying he is selfish

No they wouldn't! The OP is more than entitled to want to see her team at Wembley if she wants. I can't stand football but my OH goes to see his team when they play at Wembley and we've even booked city breaks to enable him to do so. Gives me a nice day out on my own when he toddles off to the match.

Glitterspy · 12/02/2015 09:27

YAB totally U. If my husband did this (didn't book a holiday on the slim chance some football team might possibly play a match) I would be absolutely livid. Considering their recent flush of success is out of the normal run of things it sounds like they're not actually likely to win at all, and then you'll have cancelled a family holiday AND have no match to go to (on your own) ?!?!? I simply can't understand why you'd even be thinking of doing this. Football is a GAME, you're talking about missing a family holiday because of this? You need to have a good look at your priorities in life.