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AIBU?

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Not to book the holiday?

38 replies

DoubletheRage · 11/02/2015 20:22

Or at least not yet?

There's been a discussion and we've agreed where we want to go. I'm supposed to book something SC for May h-t. We have never been on a holiday I didn't suggest and arrange, which is OK, DH does loads of other things but organising always falls to me and if I don't book it, we won't go (ever)

Anyway, since the discussion, my L2 football team have had an amazing turn of fortune and have gone from the relegation spots to possible play-off contenders. If they should make it, the Wembley final will be the first weekend of H-T

Would it be terrible of me to forget to book for a while?

DH and DC have no interest in football, I have a season ticket. Wembley is reasonably close to home for us and a very long way from the planned holiday designation.

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ilovesooty · 12/02/2015 09:31

I go to football matches on my own.
My response would have been the same if the OP had been a man. She's told her husband to book and she's going to make arrangements should the need arise. What's wrong with that?

MissDuke · 12/02/2015 09:41

Nothing Sooty, it was the original proposition of telling lies and preventing the family holiday that most objected to.

Plus she knows her husband won't book it, so they will still miss out on the holiday. All for football She says she doesn't mind being the person to do booking etc so it is clear she is leaving it to him because she doesn't want it booked.

MissDuke · 12/02/2015 09:42

Just to add, op of course we would feel the same if it was a concert, the only way I would feel differently would be if you were actually playing in the football match.

scotchmincepie · 12/02/2015 11:25

"a holiday with my children would be more Important than a football match."

I can think of lots of (fun) things that would be more important than a holiday with children ... for the OP it happens to be football. Fair play - go on holiday some other time or join them on the Sunday. Does seem a shame for them all to miss out on a half term holiday though if you could book and join them later.

I understand the frustration of always being the holiday booker though - so I started to leave it and not book them (horribly passive aggressive) and husband took up the booking. We now kind of take it in turns....

mamaslatts · 12/02/2015 11:29

'my L2 football team' - I read that as it was you playing in the match!

If you are, then YANBU! If you are not and just watching then maybe YABU...are you playing at Wembley??

HereIAm20 · 12/02/2015 11:40

Which team do you support? Then I can decide if you are being unrealistic (but never unreasonable)!

musicalendorphins2 · 12/02/2015 11:54

I think you should just tell your husband, then wait for the information you need for what dates to book your holiday for.

ilovesooty · 12/02/2015 14:49

She has told her husband.
If he can't get off his arse and book the holiday it's not the OP's fault

And as for the posters saying "Are you playing at Wembley,?" - that was never going to be likely. It's potentially a once in a lifetime experience, but because it's football it seems to be a cue for many posters to sigh, roll their eyes and be dismissive.

StarCrash · 12/02/2015 18:04

my husband said this to me last year. We were booked to have a few days in Europe to attend a wedding and he said there may be a chance his team got to the playoffs. I said let's just cross that bridge when we come to it, booked the trip (early cheap flights, we couldn't afford not to) Luckily (for me!) they didn't get there!
The scores are still so unpredictable at this point. I think you should just wait til nearer the time, maybe get a last minute deal. Will this be your only holiday this year, or will you go again? It kind if depends on which is the more 'once in a lifetime' opportunity.

juneau · 12/02/2015 18:09

You'd scupper your family holiday to spend an afternoon at a football match that your DH and DC have no interest in? Yes, YABU. You should come clean.

Brandysnapper · 12/02/2015 18:23

I book most of our holidays to take account of dh's fixtures I might stand up to him more in the future! Some holidays we even go to places where the team he supports will be playing. I know I am not alone in this. A lot of obsessive fans out there!

specialsubject · 12/02/2015 18:45

discuss it like the grown ups married people with parents are supposed to be.

don't play silly 'forgetting' games.

it is sitting and watching sport, not doing it, and therefore doesn't count for anything in my book - but I'm not married to you. Talk to the person who is.

EveBoswell · 12/02/2015 20:05

I bet the OP is the husband and this is a reverse thread.....

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