To be depressed abut many threads on here are to do with housework

[Claybury]

It's so depressing how many women on here including me feel they do more than their share.
I feel I do way more than my share, as although I am a SAHM my DH no longer works full time and my teenagers have somehow always managed to get out of doing chores.
If i moan to DH he just gets annoyed with me, for example just now he walked muddy boots through the house, and when I complained he just said it wouldn't take long to hoover it up.
From now on I'm going to have to get tough, but they will all hate me for it.
It's tricky when one partner has a much higher level of tolerance for mess though isn't it ?

You are DEPRESSED about threads about housework?? YABU you might be slightly miffed, but trust me, you are not depressed.

LTB!

I'm depressed about how many women on here are willing to do more than their fair share, and don't do something about it. Why have your teenagers not done chores? Go out for the day/ week and let them get on with it, and stop allowing them to treat you like a doormat.

He's right, it won't take him long to Hoover up the mess. But he didn't mean that, did he?

The housework is not the problem. The lack of respect is. I think you know this.

Clay Are you really depressed about this, really?

Ok ok fair enough. I'm just having a bad day. Fortunately I do not suffer from depression.
However is it true that many threads on here are women who are fed up with their situation.
If I handed DH the Hoover he would say he would do it later. Piles of mud on kitchen floor just don't bother him so he doesn't see the need to clear up.
I'm averagely house proud I would say btw

No, she isn't depressed about it, in fact i don't even understand the point, the message comes over as slightly patronising to start with, and it really pisses me off when people say they are depressed over something that they clearly are not depressed over. It means they either have no idea what depression actually is or they are trivialising it.

Hey ho -if you don't feel your partner does enough house work tell him/her.

Alternatively moan to your friends/mumsnet/randoms on the internet about it, but don't open a thread berating other women for doing exactly what you are doing. Can you not see the irony in that

Yes it is depressing, housework isn't that important but the lack of respect these issues usually signify is

yanbu

no it is not fucking depressing!! Depressed is living under a black cloud of unwanted thoughts, depressed is thinking you are better off dead, depressed is not having the physical energy to give one shiney shit about the state of the house, in fact, many people with depression can't even muster the energy to get out of bed.

I've suffered from profound depression that left me institutionalised.

I can see the OP was simply worded a bit carelessly, that's all.

I swear my eyes have just rolled right out of my head and along the floor

It's a turn of phrase and not one person didn't know what it meant. Christ on a bike man!

Primeval scream OP and fling boots into the back garden to get his full attention should do it.

lemisscared
Calm down.

Give OP a break. She chose the wrong word but we all knew what she meant.

I think that the reason there are so many housework threads is because so much of our free time is spent doing it. Then when you factor in effect of other householders not doing their fair share, bingo, seething resentment.

Simple glib answer - lower standards.

Not so simple answer - address issue of other people assuming someone else will do it.

grip taken

simply leave the mud until he picks it up.

Oh fgs you all know what the op meant but let's get sidetracked and harp on that.

The housing market is depressed.
Sugar depresses the immune system.
The continuation and belittlement of wife work in an age that claims gender equality is depressing.

Depression is also a condition that shares an affiliation with meaning of depression used in all the above sentences.

I've just discovered this amazing app on my phone called ColorNote. It allows me to create lists of jobs/chores around the house, which can then be ticked off so you can see they're done. The most amazing part is that I can link it up to DH and DD's phones so they get the list allocated to them. No more excuses for not doing their share. (DH is very good but needs direction, DD is a lazy arse)

YANBU

It's the 21st century, we have all sorts of marvellous gadgets and services that make housework easier than ever, and yet women STILL end up doing most of it. Damn right it's depressing.

In some cases it's just different standards and you just have to keep working toward a happy medium. In your case I think your family really has no respect for you, who on earth tramps mud through a house and then doesn't clean it up???

I can understand why you don't want to get tough, on the other hand no one respects a walkover either. Good luck whatever you do.

If we're splitting hairs about terminology, actually the OP said it was "depressing," not she "was depressed."

Oh, and OP, maybe it's time you chucked your toys out of the pram on this one.

Oops! Just read thread title! Ignore me.

As you were...

Needascarf - but your arrangement DOES sound fair if it works for you. I'm not judging anyone. except the entitled men
I just think a lot of men get away with it OR have to be nagged / trained. It's so archaic.
Of course there are loads of exceptions. I have a few female friends where the male partner is tidier/ cleaner by nature.
But lots of women on here have issues re inequality of house work.