to tell my sister NOT to continue the name theme her DH started with her DSC?

[ZeldaMae]

DSis is married to BIL, nice enough guy and loves her to bits.

He has 3 DC - two mums (this is relevant).

His DC's names have a 'theme'. Think like the Kardashians, names spelt slightly unconventionally to go with a first initial which is also BIL's name and first initial.

So let's say he is Karl Kooper and his kids are Kolin, Khloe and Kathy. All have his surname.

Both his XPs happily accommodated his preferences and all DCs have his surname too.

DSis now expecting their first DC. She likes Olive for a girl and Ben for a boy. She did take BIL's surname.

BIL says baby won't 'go' or feel like part of the family (DSCs around a lot). He wants another K name. His suggestions are 'real' names like Kylie and Kevin.

DSis is wavering. I think she needs to take a stand! This is their DC not just his! Feels like an ego trip to me.

On the other hand, the DC will be part of a larger family. Maybe they would like to 'match'?

AIBU?

YANBU And it I'd hate to feel like I was just the last in a succession of breeders for this guy where only his name mattered and his choices for first name.

Olive and Ben are great names.
Having themed names that span 3 partners would make me feel like I was part of a harem, whether I was the mother or the child. Not good.

I would normal say keep out but seeing as your sister is reluctant and by the sounds of it being pressurised, then I would support her and admit to her you think its daft.

I told DH that as DD has his last name I choose her first name! And if he didn't like it feel free to grow his own (I was evil with hormones when pg)

Your BIL sounds egotistical, children aren't accessories - they don't have to match!

Tell yr sister to think about the implications, if she's happy to go ahead with the stupid theme then there's not a lot you can do.

FWIW I feel the same way as you. I also hate it when people refer to their children as 'mini me' and parade them around like some sort of extension accessory.

I agree with you that she should stand her ground, but realistically there is only so much you can say. Doesn't sound like he's the kind to stick around if he's onto his third set of children so she might regret using his choice of names, but that's hardly something you can say to her!

He does sound very egotistical. Impregnating a series of women and then demanding that all children sprung of his loins have a name that acknowledges his mighty siredom is rather arrogant.

I think your Dsis should stick to her guns. Why maje her children be the newest members of his ego parade?

Doesn't sound like he's the kind to stick around if he's onto his third set of children

I wanted to add this, but was too chicken

Olive is a lovely name and he sounds a charmer.

The name theme sounds dreadful but it is for the parents to sort out. Stay out of it.

Well, she could always give him the choice - does he want DC to have his surname, or his choices of first name? Because he can't have both. And no, him choosing first and having surname and her being 'allowed' to choose middle names isn't fair, no.

Oh God, and the themed names? Bad enough when it's one single family. But when he makes a song and dance about the kids names showing they're a family when he's actually already on to creating his third separate one? Um, does this guy have NO sense of irony whatsoever?

Tell your sis to tell him to do one. He'll probably up and leave before three years is up. TBH I wouldn't even have changed my surname, let alone give the kids his!!

Impregnating a series of women and then demanding that all children sprung of his loins have a name that acknowledges his mighty siredom is rather arrogant.

I know. Jesus. What a fucking horror show.

Is she pregnant?

Is there no way you could convince her not to breed with this dickhead?

I don't think that they all need the same initial to feel that they belong.

They'll only feel different if an issue is made of it.

If she is wavering, I'd at least help her find a name that starts with "K", not one that can be made to iyswim.
(And not along the lines of Kevin or Kylie!)

Ugh that tacky name theme literally makes me

Hope your sister doesn't back down and allow her dc to become part of the manufactured name family.

'Use them as middle names'....who does he think he is ....

I can only imagine the names the Sperminator has lined up....

i hate themed names in families. i think it's really naff.

he sounds awful.

We know two families with matching names and a 4th that doesn't.

Think Milly, Molly, Mandy & Kate

Tom, Dick, Harry & Sam.

It always makes me smile. Your DS should choose names she likes, not names that he ex's DP liked.

The Sperminator

I remember a Ross, Ruth and Rosalind when I was growing up. And a Debbie, Donna and Desmond!

At least they were proper names.

My sister also adjusted one of her DCs names changing the first letter to match the fathers.

Tell your sister to do what she wants. This child's is an individual as well as part of a wider half siblings family. How many more names in this theme does he want to carry on?

No means no Sperminator.

Oops random 's on the child there!

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My thoughts exactly
He sounds a complete twat

So when they get a letter addresses to Miss K Smith, who opens it?
I avoided the same first initial for my girls for that reason.

My sister and I have 'matching' names as did our neighbours. It's quite confusing over whose mail is whose. It's not terrible if the names are genuinely your favourite but I would not do it on purpose. My DCs have are A and B. I've always said we'd have C if we had a third but, well, I was joking.

I think you should let your sister know that you support her choice of choosing a different name. BIL sounds like an egomaniac.

I wouldn't even use a 'K' name as a middle name, because you know he's just going to ignore the first name and use the middle name. That way he's keeping this embarrassing shite going. Maybe had should take his kids to a tattooist and get them branded.